the Survivalist* idea of love: Gifts mean an eternal bond

This is one of the biggest differences in the thinking patterns that create terribly troublesome karmic bonds, and that is the motivations with which we give gifts. The Idealists* give because they can. There is no other reason or motivation to it, they simply give because there are people who could use their help. They call it “being a decent human being”. If they become wealthy, they will take care of their family, no questions asked, no matter what they feel for each individual. The Survivalist* do not. They piss on everyone they hate and make a song and dance about having made it, to them, being wealthy means that she or he can finally tell everyone they hate to go to hell. Therefore, when the Idealists* become wealthy and give money or gifts to the Survivalist* thinking relatives, they think that this is an act of pure love, and therefore, they own this person. They will, thus, forever hang onto the giving, caring guy or girl, because obviously, they love them. The Idealists* thinking family members receive these gifts just as they were intended, as nothing major, no big deal.

In the next incarnation, it is more than likely, that the Idealists* who once made a success out of himself or herself is going to do so again – out of sheer experience. The Survivalist* thinking former family or friends, still hanging onto his or her tail are going to panic if she or he doesn’t APPEAR to care for them enough, and the chances are that they don’t. Before, they could make a success out of themselves without any trouble or a target in their back; their wealth was unexpected, a pleasant surprise to his or her family and friends, but this time, they are expecting him or her to make it big. The gifts and monetary help that came from that success made the Survivalist* of the family gasp: “Oh he/she must have loved me so much more than I thought! I thought she/he didn’t care about me at all, oh isn’t this touching! I had no idea, the poor man/gal must have thought I don’t care about him at all, and but now they have finally something to give me, oh the love!”  That is the reason why they’re there. So when he or she doesn’t seem to care for them while they have no money to do it and no real love to give them, they seem reclusive and disinterested about these people – and they are – but that doesn’t mean that once the success comes, they would not help them should they be family. That is not what the Survivalist* would trust, though, because they would never care for people they don’t love, so they will stand in the way of this person’s success demanding love and attention BEFORE he or she makes it big, because they cannot phatom the idea that they would be taken care for even though this person feels no particular love for these people, because they, themselves would never do that.

To the Survivalist*, giving gifts of any kind is an ultimate form of love. They do not value a gift that is inexpensive however, they only value the money spent on it, a cheap gift, to them, is an insult, even when it comes from someone of very low means. They, however, consider it a massive show of love if a wealthy person gives a gift of some value, but, compared to their actual wealth, would be worth next to nothing, something that to them, comes as easily as a sneeze. They, themselves, in the position of riches and wealth, would only give gifts in the full expectation of receiving love in return, and that love would better be in the material form. So to accept a gift from such a person is a peril in itself, because it is a downpayment of love, and if you are not prepared to give love back (gifts) in return for the gift, you are a bad person; their gifts never come with no strings attached, the more elaborate the gift, the more strings is attached to it. Also, giving away “their old junk they no longer need” is a mixture of an insult and admiration, an attempt to make the person feel inferior and thus, easier to coax into an eternal karmic bond with them. Interestingly, when the Survivalist* gives away old junk that the Idealists* thinking receiver actually values, and a Idealists* with an artistic mind may value gifts that nobody else sees value in, such as old beat up Barbie dolls, an interesting glitch in the system happens. The Survivalist* expects the receiver to feel humiliated, but the Idealists* sees the gift as something they could really use, and is happy that the Survivalist* knows that she or he is the only person who wouldn’t throw this stuff away with the trash, so they receive the gift without a second thought, it is trash that only they see the value of; the plan doesn’t work because the Idealists* fails to feel humiliated by the gift. Sticking with Barbie; the Survivalist* would think that the Idealists* is so poor and desperate for anything, that they’d be happy to receive junk, but to a Idealists* the junk is still junk, only stuff that they have the power to turn valuable again, a power they know the Survivalist* doesn’t possess making the junk only junk in their hands but receive a touch of Midas in their own.

An Idealist* will also adjust the value of the gift according to what they mean by it, but also to not make the receiver feel weird about it. When the Survivalist* gives gifts, they can try to woo a person of lesser means with overtly expensive gifts that would make the Survivalist* receiver super happy, but makes the Idealists* uncomfortable, because they can’t return a gift of the same value and they are left in debt with no way out of it. The Idealists* rarely exceeds the value that another the Idealists* can comfortably receive, if that the Idealists* is a person with whom they do not have a former friendship or a family tie with. The Idealists*, thus, give expensive gifts only to people who can return the gift with relative ease without feeling a huge financial load if they should choose to give something back, but there is no expectation of a return gift, like with the Survivalist*, although the Idealists* take it for granted that they do, and choose to not return the gift if they consider the bond being “complete” or that a return gift, at that time, would be inappropriate or seem too friendly. (For instance, receiving a birthday present of great value for round numbers do not see a return gift until the previous giver turns round numbers.) the Idealists* also put a lot more thought to WHAT they give when it is intended as a sign of love, respect, or appreciation, it needs to reflect the fact that they know the personality of their friend and what they like, so that they multiply the monetary value of the gift by having thought it through. If a Idealists* knows that they are giving a gift that is monetarily too valuable for the friendship, they will play it down and say they got it cheap to make it OK for the receiver to take it without feeling awkward about it.

Speaking of awkward, the Survivalist* who is trying hard to buy the love of a Idealists*, or, a Idealists* male trying to buy a love of a Idealists* thinking female without realizing that she is such, the amount of money they can pour down the pockets of the Idealists* without receiving any love in return will bewilder them: “I don’t know what their love is worth! I don’t know how much more do I have to give before I make an impression on them!” The reason is, that the Idealists* doesn’t value gifts by their monetary value, they value gifts of emotional value. You can send a Idealists* a block of gold and he or she will think nothing of it but “well that is weird” but you can send a Idealists* thinking millionaire an old T-shirt as long as you know it is the right T-shirt. (Example, for the Survivalist*, let’s imagine the Idealists* made his millions by singing for a rock band. The person who wants to give them a gift, has a T-shirt they bought at one of their early shows and will attach a note saying: “I was a huge fan, I got this T-shirt at the first show I attended and wore it to death until my mother threatened to throw it out if she ever saw it on me again. I couldn’t risk it. Love you and your work, I am alive today because of it.” The value of the gift, thus, doesn’t come from the shirt, it comes from the meaning of it and the fact that it is a return gift for what the singer already did for this person. It goes out with no strings attached, only with the intention to make the receiver happy and to say thanks.)

When it comes to famous people, things get even funnier still. The Survivalist* may send their idol a gift as a type of a talisman, a spy of some kind, to bind the celebrity to themselves with the gift. While the Idealists* gifts are meant to simply say thanks, the Survivalist* gifts are meant to “make you mine”. The more elaborate the gift, the more strings it has attached to it, of course, and to woo a celebrity, the gift must be expensive. However, the modest gifts are sometimes even more devilish, when they are a simple item with no emotional explanation attached, such as the example of the T-shirt.  If you are seen wearing a gift from a fan or using it somehow, it denotes a bond to that fan: “I accept your gift, therefore I accept your love, I am yours.” Apart from True Emotion Mirrors , (you know who the gift is from and this becomes a silent, subtle message hidden from everyone but you two,) I would not show appreciation toward a gift I received unless I knew exactly what the strings attached to it were. Even a thank you -note is too much, all gifts from fans MUST be “a thank you” in themselves, rather than down payments for your love, unlesss you are the Survivalist* yourself and understand this as a form of flirtation and are cool with it.

So the question is, when you receive a gift, are you actually receiving a gift or being asked to sign a contract for love and care?

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