the Dog Type Thinker’s idea of a commitment (compared to the Intuitive)

The the Dog Type Thinker need an absolute commitment to truly fall in love. They begin dating to find a partner they can trust, and usually, this means they want someone from a family very similar to that of their own. They pay a lot of attention to your family background, much more so than the Cat Type Thinkers. If they happened to have an unhappy childhood, they are looking for someone dissimilar to their own family, while possibly trying to hide their own family background that they are ashamed of. (When a Cat Type Thinkers doesn’t speak about their family too much, the Dog Type Thinker thinks this means they’re ashamed of their family and are seeking commitment. Their reluctance to date also could be interpreted as a sign of shame about their past. The the Dog Type Thinker may overlook this and think they could rescue this person from their dysfunctional family. The the Dog Type Thinker are also suckers for “bad boys” or “fallen women” and other types of weirdos, who are very often the Cat Type Thinkers they think they have the right and obligation to fix. Their rationale is interesting: “I’m not much of a catch, but I’m good enough for that loser/weirdo.”)

The the Dog Type Thinker wants to make sure they’ll find someone to stick by them to the day they’re put into the grave through thick and thin. This also applies to the Cat Type Thinkers, but their need is a lot more romantic, they want to be loved and cherished, admired and thought magical for the rest of their lives, and find someone who they feel the same way towards, although most are pretty skeptical about the realism of this wish. The the Dog Type Thinker’s idea of romance is a lot more practical. Someone to handle the everyday life with, someone to watch movies with once the kids are in bed (again nothing a Cat Type Thinkers would scoff at but with a nuance difference). The the Dog Type Thinker wants to share their everyday life as they feel unsafe and scared alone, a Cat Type Thinkers doesn’t even know what would be scary about life unless it was their first night living on the streets! The the Dog Type Thinker basic sense of security is not quite as established as the Cat Type Thinkers’, which is why they like to flock to people, and seek comfort and safety from others without being overly concerned about such details as “how much do I like his bicep” or “I wonder if I’ll find an intellectual connection to this person…” The the Cat Type Thinkers is looking for someone who’d make their life less boring and mundane, while the Dog Type Thinker needs someone to make it less scary and bewildering. This means that when the Dog Type Thinker is happy in a relationship with a Cat Type Thinkers, the Cat Type Thinkers will be bored shitless. (They’re a terrible match in more ways than one, so the Dog Type Thinker should always seek for each other instead, and so should the Cat Type Thinkers.)

The the Dog Type Thinker can get a little bullheaded about their relationship commitments, however, and this is when things start to get a little worrying. Some of them believe their commitment and love needs to be tested, or that they need to test the other for their level of commitment, and although some the Cat Type Thinkers do this too, their motivations for staying together are different. When the Cat Type Thinkers asks (through potential arguing and bickering and even violence:) “How much do you love me, how much do you forgive me? How important am I to you?” the Dog Type Thinker asks: “How committed are you to this relationship? How much do you want to stay in it, can I trust your commitment?” To the Dog Type Thinker, a relationship is not nearly as personal as it is for a Cat Type Thinkers, they pretty much believe each man is just about as good as another, and that each woman is just differentiated by their level of beauty, nothing more. The only thing they want to know is how seriously they want to remain in a relationship at all, they don’t question their own involvement (do you want me?) but whether they want A REAL relationship at all.

From the Cat Type Thinkers’ perspective, the way the Dog Type Thinker seeks for a partner is like they were looking for an employee. It’s a job position rather than a romance. An the Cat Type Thinkers probably hates the word “partner” too, as it sounds too cold and impersonal. An the Cat Type Thinkers kind of likes the idea of “a lover” even though finds it too thick and tasty to use in a normal context.

When the Dog Type Thinker starts to test someone’s commitment or have their commitment tested, they believe that no matter what comes, they need to endure it. The the Cat Type Thinkers isn’t that bad, as they take things more personally, faster. What is also interesting about the Dog Type Thinker is that they don’t take ANYTHING personally, not even the stuff that is intended to wound them deeply on a personal level. When a Cat Type Thinkers needs one personal jibe to wound them forever, the Dog Type Thinker needs years worth of verbal abuse before it even starts to hit home. In my Psychic Conversation, I CANNOT FIND ANYTHING hurtful enough to phase my the Dog Type Thinker -type friends and family members who CANNOT COMPREHEND that I am not testing their commitment but trying to tell them they are not needed nor wanted here. This gave me full insight on how the Committed and the Cat Type Thinkers types get into an abusive relationship. The the Dog Type Thinker complains about how the Cat Type Thinkers is “being abusive” but it’s like: “Well, they’re behaving really badly, there’s something wrong with them” with a very easy air like it really meant nothing but some malfunction in their programming that they needed to rewire. THIS, in turn, can turn lethal, because if the Cat Type Thinkers isn’t left alone, they are willing to kill for their freedom. The the Cat Type Thinkers kills for freedom, the Dog Type Thinker kills to keep someone safe (whether they want to be kept safe or not). The the Dog Type Thinker will NEVER expect a lethal blow from someone who they consider a family member or a friend, even though the arguing had been on-going for years (and especially for that reason). The the Cat Type Thinkers type can try and give a person countless of opportunities to back down and save themselves when fighting for their freedom, but eventually, if they really can’t see any other way, they will feel that a life in prison would give them the sense of emotional freedom that they are now lacking. The the Cat Type Thinkers may feel like an emotional prisoner their whole lives, but the Dog Type Thinker will not understand this without a lot of help… And mind you, even if the Dog Type Thinker is the one getting beaten up, it is the Cat Type Thinkers who truly suffers in relationships like this, because they cannot get away from them. The the Dog Type Thinker may “leave” for two weeks “to teach them a lesson” but they’ll always come back hoping them being away for “so long” will snap the Cat Type Thinkers into the realization that one day they may take things too far and then they’ll lose the Dog Type Thinker! And all this time, the Cat Type Thinkers has been trying to break off the relationship, and nothing depresses them more as the sight of the Dog Type Thinker returning home.

It is also the Dog Type Thinker type that feels saying “I’m sorry” will fix everything. When the Dog Type Thinker returns to an abusive the Cat Type Thinkers spouse, the Cat Type Thinkers will likely say nothing to them. They’ll carry on as if they were never gone, trying to imply they should leave the same way they returned. A the Dog Type Thinker may beat someone up to give them the impression that they are needed in their place, and then beg for forgiveness because they “took things too far” but they don’t thnk there was anything wrong with it per say, it’s just that it was too rough. The motivations of the Dog Type Thinker’s spousal abuse is also different to that of a Cat Type Thinkers. The the Cat Type Thinkers either wants you to go or behaves badly to see if you really love him or her. The the Dog Type Thinker tries to train you to behave a certain way or tests your commitment. So when the Cat Type Thinkers is being abusive, the Dog Type Thinker interprets it as “they’re trying to make me behave in a certain way (that I cannot understand, what does he/she want?)” while they’re being chased out of the relationship. When the roles are reversed and the Dog Type Thinker is trying to teach a Cat Type Thinkers how to behave, it takes a half a blow to see the Cat Type Thinkers out the door with a finger stuck in the air: “Don’t you even think about hitting me!” That’s why the Cat Type Thinkers is fairly safe from domestic abuse, but they wind up the abuser from time to time.

(One vital piece of this puzzle is that if the Cat Type Thinkers owns the home the pair lives in, they are far less likely to feel like moving out to end the relationship, and the abuse keeps on going for longer than if the couple had bought the house together, in which case the Cat Type Thinkers is likely to simply take off without a word one day when things get too uncomfortable for him or her. A the Dog Type Thinker may leave without a word just before Christmas, too, but they will also tell their partner where to find them. In this case, the idea is to put a strong bargain on the table, “if you don’t do this, I won’t return.”)

A lot of the Dog Type Thinker are baffled at the ease in which a Cat Type Thinkers leaves a relationship. They wonder if they ever feel lonely or remorseful of having left them, and the answer is no. The only time when a Cat Type Thinkers misses someone it is when they are separated from another the Cat Type Thinkers due to a misunderstanding or an external circumstance outside their own control, and even then, they cope relatively well compared to the Dog Type Thinker, which is interesting considering how to a Cat Type Thinkers relationships are personal, while to the Dog Type Thinker they are more or less an arrangement. As it is so, even a Cat Type Thinkers understands this from this perspective; To the Dog Type Thinker, a relationship is a contract. You promised certain things and you’re not delivering, and you “leave without paying”. This is why it is of absolute importance the Cat Type Thinkers know how the Dog Type Thinker think about relationships so they can avoid them at all cost. The the Dog Type Thinker are always looking at sites like this to be taught how to contain and harness a Cat Type Thinkers and make them behave a certain way, so for this reason, it is VITAL for the Cat Type Thinkers to avoid giving them the slightest of reason to think they’re in a committed relationship or interested in forming one.

To the Dog Type Thinker, the biggest wrong that can be done to them is to leave them (as a friend, a worker, as a partner, a parent, a sibling…) to a Cat Type Thinkers, the biggest wrong you can do to them is to prevent them from going to the people they feel a true connection towards, who they TRULY feel in love with. This is the number one reason parents and children have issues, either way, no matter which type is the parent and which type is the child. A the Dog Type Thinker type of a child will always have abandonment issues if their parent is a Cat Type Thinkers, and the Cat Type Thinkers child always feels suffocated with the Dog Type Thinker parent, but that goes TOO far off the topic even for me to ramble on about.

Ideally, the Dog Type Thinker should seek other the Dog Type Thinker and make it clear that is how they want things; Normal (both thinker types understand this expression relatively similarly, and the Cat Type Thinkers will hate the idea), committed, real. Dating sites will work WONDERS for the Dog Type Thinker, because there, they can state things out loud without having to uhm and ahm about it. It may feel like you have to hide the fact that you want commitment and play a guy or a girl into it, but you don’t, the people who think similarly will absolutely love hearing that, and they will flock to someone who has the courage to ask for what they need.

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