The ideal male has been quite clearly defined for our society by a joint effort from men and women alike, so I decided that unlike the ideal female, I’ll describe the difficulties that each thinker type faces pursuing the ideal male role.

“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world;
the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.
Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”

George Bernard Shaw

The Normal Person* thinking Male

• From the George Bernard Shaw quote, the Normal Person* male is the reasonable man.
• Finds it difficult to decide which male ideals he should follow because each woman he talks to gives him a different male ideal; his friends, his father, and his brother(s) all have a different idea of what an ideal man should strive for.
• The ideal the Normal Person* thinking male would make a safest bet by pursuing the role of a devoted family man. This is where he will get the most approval and acceptance by others around him. Pursuing the role of a father and a good husband will keep all of his career paths open for him.
• If the Normal Person* thinking male has a Savants* thinking father, he will grow to resent his father for not giving him enough guidance, structure, and help while growing up. (The same is true for females and their mothers.)
• Follows a role given to him, usually by his mother, his father, or his wife or girlfriend, but sometimes rules given to him by his peers; friends or colleagues.
• Is always looking for a leader, and will follow nearly anyone anywhere just to find boundaries.
• Loves a “ball-busting” girlfriend.
• Feels life without rules and boundaries is unnerving.
• Rebels and behaves poorly to find someone to give him structure and rules.
• He takes care of his physique unless his girlfriend or spouse specifically tells him not to do it. A single the Normal Person* thinking male needs to hit the gym as soon as the previous relationship breaks and get back in shape as soon as possible to prepare himself for the next relationship.
• He needs to evaluate which group of men he belongs in if that goal hasn’t been clearly given to you; the marriable type or the player type, and NEVER fluctuate from this choice until he is certain that he’s going to redefine his goals. Stay firm. Know, that if you are the marrying type, you’ll need to follow the rule of women, and the ideal of women, but if you are the player type, you’ll have to impress your male friends.
• Be firm. Choose a value-system and stand by them. Read blogs, books, and watch documentaries to fit the ideal male of your choosing to the tee.

Note that the Normal Person* thinking ideals change by the current popular way of thinking, and more than women, men are affected by this fluctuation of ideals and need to be more adaptive to them than women do.

The Savants* thinking Male idealism

The Savants* thinking male is a bit of a loose canon in a sense; he will take a long time to choose what kind of a man he wants to be, unless it’s very clear to him from early childhood. Some the Savants* thinking men declare they are going to be X when they grow up, despite their parent’s own occupations and never once doubt their goal. A young the Savants* maybe very much a question mark to all adults; very smart, very individualistic, very difficult to direct although doesn’t SEEK drama; questions everything, finds problems rather than answers, OR he is very conscientious, dependable, and mature for his age, and follows direction without TRULY believing in it.

• The Savants* thinking man is the “unreasonable” man who moulds the world to adapt to himself, but never his friends and family. He believes the world needs to make room for every different type of an individual, and he tries to give that space to the people near him, too.
• The main difference between a Savants* thinking man and the Normal Person* thinking man is that the Savants* doesn’t ask where to go or what he should do, he makes his own decisions, and takes a full responsibility for them fail or win. The Normal Person* is always asking for someone to give him boundaries and rules, the Savants* scoffs at attempts to contain him, unless he, himself gives himself to a cause or a purpose through his own choice.
• If the Savants* thinking male has the Normal Person* thinking father, he will always hate his father for having too strict ideas about how he should live his life and what to do in life. (The same is true for females and their mothers.)
• Probably the #1 difficulty a Savants* thinking male faces in life is everyone else’s resistance to his high goals and aspirations and a strong perfectionist streak. Others insist he tries too hard, is too difficult to deal with, and also they accuse him of deliberately stalling the publication or completion of his work while he insists he’s not finished, while the others feel he’s pretending to be not finished to avoid showing his work to the public. (Don’t get in the way. He knows what he’s doing and that it’s taking time.)
• He chooses his own standards, his own ideals, and holds himself to those standards and ideals. Others may not be happy about this and try to change his ideals for him. He’s not happy with that.
• One of the strongest sign of a Savants* thinking male is that he chooses a profession that has nothing to do with his family, and his ideals do not reflect those of his family or community. A rebel of sorts. Should his father be in the same line of work as what he genuinely wants to pursue, he’ll always feel a little uneasy with his choice of career path, because he feels odd about having seemingly followed in someone else’s footsteps. He might apologize to his father for not having more imagination than to follow in his father’s footsteps. “I thought of everything else, but…” He feels he’s copying his father and thinks his father might be offended by it.
• He is an incurable romantic in every sense of the word. He’s as much a romantic when it comes to war as it comes to friendship and romance. He pours his heart into everything that he does but is rarely seen that way by others. He’s always trying to curb his romanticism to some extent and thinks he’s alone in this, although it is more common for a male to be a Savants* than the Normal Person*, therefore male romantics are more common than female romantics. (the Normal Person* females get excited, but are never going to meet his standards as a partner. The cure? Polyandry, something that a male romantic will quickly get a handle on.)
• The Savants* thinking men tend to fall in love with the same woman, who they ALL know is already loved by a dozen other men, and they are all equally painfully aware of how difficult it’s going to be to catch her attention and capture her love, so they are more likely to spend their time in other romantic pursuits, like, perhaps, joining the military.
• An Savant* thinking male takes everyone and everything into consideration before making decisions. This comes to him naturally and may confuse the Normal Person* around him, who cannot see the full picture of his decision making. Ideally, a Savants* male could use a longer fuse when faced with questions about why he does things the way he does, but he rarely manages this goal.
• An Savant* maybe multitalented, so he might find it very difficult to focus his energies on a single goal. This may render him ambivalent, and any attempts to push him into a certain direction before he has had time to make up his mind on what he wants can easily add rebellion to his ambivalence making him unemployed and a drunkard. There’s more intelligence in the social security check queue than anyone should dare to consider.
• An Savant* always questions himself and is always on the lookout for cues that he’s complimenting himself. If someone strongly disagrees with him or shows signs that he’s not doing things properly, he’s likely to stop doing things and let others take over, just in case he’s messing it up. Unfortunately, the Normal Person* give all the cues for a Savants* to think just that; they have half the knowledge but twice the self-confidence, they push their way to others because “they know how it’s done” with very little factual evidence, making the Savants* question his very ability to reason. In a romantic partnership, particularly after becoming a parent, this makes the Savants* thinking men step back and let his wife handle everything she’s willing to handle, frustrating his the Normal Person* thinking wife to no end. Two the Savants* in a partnership won’t have such issues, even when they weren’t perfectly compatible, making their Dog-Cat friends admire everything they are and do because their life seems flawless in comparison.

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