The importance of admiring your male True Emotion Mirror

Although a smart attractive woman can turn any man into putty in her hands by GENUINELY admiring him, understanding what he’s about, and making sure he knows you understand his ideals and what he tries to achieve in life, it is about a thousand times more important when it is your True Emotion Mirror we speak of. People (in general) kinda laugh at the fragile male ego a lot, women, but there is a reason why a man is so sensitive to this, and why you, as his soul-bond lover should be more understanding than that.

It is more than likely IMPOSSIBLE to avoid all hits to the ego especially during a long relationship, but you MUST learn to rebuild him if you accidentally wound his pride. The reason why he is so sensitive to it, is that he wants YOU to be able to be PROUD of him, too, and he feels like a traitor if he cannot live up to what he wishes to give to you and be for you as a man. A fragile male ego is nothing to be laughed at but something to be fucking loved and admired, the very fragility of the male ego is gorgeous and admirable in a man… Not to be taken so that a good, healthy self-satisfaction wouldn’t be much more attractive, because it is, but a wounded ego does speak of someone who WANTED to be better – and someone who CAN BE better.

Accidental hits

A man can easily interpret things you’ve said in jest or reactions you’ve had from YOUR insecurity to be scoffing at what he has to offer you. For instance, if you’re a woman who DOES NOT care about money, and loves him for who he is, and he believes all women want is money, he can be DESTROYED if you find him to be penniless. You may not even notice that he’s “poor”, care about it, or understand what is the matter, but HE may be completely destroyed if he thinks you knocked on his door at random to see if he’s wealthy enough for you.

He might be thinking that you don’t like too easy, obvious men, and try and play hard-to-get, and you react to it as a genuine cold shoulder given, take the hit to your own trust in the love between you, and try and move on with another man, or even direct your attention elsewhere, and he may again think you scoffed at his “stupid/bad” game when you didn’t think it was a game at all.

There are TONS of ways to accidentally wound a man’s ego, but it is more than likely his fear that he’s not good enough, and that he has lost your admiration – your WISH to be his girl… Due to a perceived failure to be man enough. Make effin’ sure he doesn’t get this impression… If you can!

BADLY wounded egos

Sometimes ego can be wounded in a way that it doesn’t seem to have a way to heal. Nothing you say seems to go through. No matter how you try to reassure him, he simply feels he’s not good enough, or he’s not the best man for you. It maybe difficult to even tell what turned a previously proud and boastful man into a shadow of his former self, even if you can pinpoint exactly when it happened. He might know it’s a stupid thing, and try to avoid even admitting it, maybe he doesn’t want to blame another person or truly study the cause for his change of self-image, but you’re not finding it…

You must try and contemplate different ways of approaching the situation. Feel your way into a solution.

Let him impress you all over again

Sometimes, rather than giving a man HELP to fix things, you might want to give him a challenge instead. To me, this takes a lot of courage, tho. If YOU would not, for example, start chasing a man who has rejected you, you might feel VERY cautious in such ways such as pretending to be “over him” just so that he can climb back to top your favorite guys’ list. However, it could be an option… with caution. Let me phrase it thusly, as I told my wounded True Emotion Mirror: “Oh! You don’t need HELP, you need A CHALLENGE!!”

Give him space

Sometimes, you may even DELIBERATELY destroy the ego of a narcissistic True Emotion Mirror. You might have been wanting to put a bomb on it, and succeeded. But what happens when you actually blow up a narcissistic True Emotion Mirror’s ego… It’s going to be OK, BUT, you might have to give him a lot of time and space to recuperate. Trust your instinct and not speak to him for a while, let him stew on his own idiocy for a while… He’ll rise to the challenge eventually.

GENUINE responses are the best

TRY not to do anything inauthentic with a man’s ego. Don’t laugh at jokes that are not funny, don’t praise gifts that don’t please you and the like. Don’t pretend to be sexually attracted to him or interested in what he wants, TEACH HIM to be your ULTIMATE LOVER. That’s what he WANTS TO BE. Don’t cut a True Emotion Mirror too much slack, because they are BORN to be YOUR HERO… The focal point of your attraction. EVEN IF there was another guy in the picture, don’t fake it. Your real True Emotion Mirror will react to you the way he needs to, AS LONG AS you don’t pretend.

This can be harder than it seems, tho. We are SO hard-wired to try and save other people’s feelings that it may be difficult to be authentic and truthful to the last person you wish to offend.

Some men are also as revolted about flattering the ego as they are in need of admiration

Here’s another spot of bother. If you are one of those people who are quick to confess to feelings of adoration or love, you may notice your men react to it rather poorly. They want to… WORK for your admiration, not be given it too easy, even if you are perfectly aware you know what you like. They want to be SURE you know what you talk about when you admire them. So their play may, thus, be, that they give you the WORST of themselves rather than the best that you are already so in love with. They want to turn you off them so they can then build themselves back up again in your eyes.

Speak honestly when serious conversations are had

Love is supposed to be fun, right, but there are people who take love affairs very seriously, and I used to be one of those people. I would never play or joke about my feelings or pretend NOT TO be interested in someone I actually loved. This was a bit full-on, in hindsight. However, when serious conversations happen, prepare to be honest. Give up the pretense and games and jokes, and just speak from the heart, authentically, truthfully, as it is.

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