The Importance of Giving the Cold Shoulder

I realize that the following is going to be a little difficult to swallow. It will sound cruel and callous and narcissistic. Yet, I suggest this equally importantly to yourself and those people to whom I’m advising you to give the cold shoulder. What you may regard simply as being nice to others can, to some people, seem to be fake and stringing people along. You may be unwittingly giving sexual and romantic signals to people who you THINK would never think you’d mean it that way. You may be, without realizing, making personal promises to people who you’ll forget in a moment’s time, and that may give you the reputation of a narcissist and a liar, even when you’re anything but.

Let me explain.

The staring contest of 1992

I was 16 at the time. I’d had a fall out with my old friends, and made fast friends with two girls who were in my English class. Initially, I was ordered to do a group assignment with them, which I did, basically alone, considering neither one of them was exactly a wizard at school. I rather enjoyed the assignment, because I got to shine in that group. I was suddenly treated like the first rays of Sun on a spring morning by these two girls. I started hanging out with them, basically lacking better company, and they were just happy to be seen with me – a novel experience to me, the runt of the cool girl litter as I was used to being.

Now, during one recess, one of my new friends suggested a staring competition. Maybe it was my idea, I cannot remember, but I do remember deciding not to lose… (to a loser). By memory, I won the competition and forgot all about it.

As I started hearing voices, this girl keeps pestering me about it, insisting that “there was a connection”, “it was special”, and that effectively, I was her True Emotion Mirror.

First of all, I’m straight as f…

Morsels of kindness, attention, or a few coins

Karmic soulmates happen when you are not entirely honest about your feelings toward other people. It happens without anyone INTENDING to be misleading, but people simply misinterpreting each other’s intention quite badly. When a person isn’t at all used to getting attention, receiving it from another person, PARTICULARLY from a M8R10 can effectively send their romantic imagination flying. They first of all, take you for a romantic hero, someone who sees past the surface, who will love a pauper or an ugly girl, the princess with the frog that doesn’t need to turn into a prince… Cinderella who is more like her stepsisters than herself…

There seem to be people who take the LEAST AMOUNT OF KINDNESS (let alone a lot of it) as a sign of some magical love/friendship between two very different kinds of people – or worse yet, they believe that this god-like being “saw themselves” in a minion – someone they CHOOSE to become them later. This idea that their glory is transferred from them like a light in a lantern, once chosen, you become their equal… (If you prove yourself at times.)

Umm… Like an orphan dreaming about being the lost son or daughter of a King…

Now…

If you meet a lot of people for work or otherwise…

If you are in any way “a celebrity” either a local notable, a hobby group leader, the mayor of a small town, you name it, make SURE you treat everyone exactly the same as all times – except those who you ACTUALLY want to make friends with.

Do this ESPECIALLY if you ARE a celebrity. Do not give special attention to the girl in the wheelchair, do not flirt with the big girl without flirting with the pretty girls too – LOUDER if you have to. When a famous man treats beautiful girls with disdain, and showers unattractive girls with compliments and attention, the pretty girls sure know what’s going on, and won’t blame you for doing what you’re doing, but the unattractive girls always do not know what’s happening. They may think you’re tired of selfish and fake pretty girls, and want to fall in love with someone “loving”, “caring”, and “real” which, in their mind, a pretty girl cannot be.

You must learn not to treat the underdog better than the people who you’d actually love and appreciate. Especially if you see the “New Spring Sun” look on the face of someone you wouldn’t make real friends with, let alone get romantic with, quickly make sure you’re like that with ALL the people in the room… OR give a TRUCKLOAD of attention to someone you are ACTUALLY interested in to counterbalance the mistake. If they’re alone with you, pretend to get a personal message from someone REAL FUNNY – or something. Just make sure to seem you appreciated that person, but NOT AS MUCH AS some other person… Just so they don’t get the wrong idea.

Note gay/straight issue

Also be aware of this: when you’re straight or gay, you may not even THINK about the other gender as a romantically viable option. The thought doesn’t enter your brain. A straight guy can jokingly kiss another man without even thinking twice someone might see it as a sexual thing, just as easily as a straight girl flirts with other girls thinking what it means is simply: “I’m not an enemy” not “I find you attractive”. However, if that person happens to have a crush on you, booyah. They think the feelings are mutual.

Imagine how self-confident and charming you will seem to someone who has a massive crush on you but you don’t even THINK them in those terms. You’re just nonchalantly joking and being charming, while they are dying in love with you and your unwavering self-confidence.

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