The last railing; what you do to cope with fear (remove your crutch)

“Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone.”
― Robert G. Allen

Now, no matter how much you know about spirituality, the law of attraction, the law of the truest wish, or any of the sort, how much you try to put your life into the hands of fate and good luck, or God even, none of this works until you let go of fear.

Nobody truly hangs onto fear. That would be silly. We hang onto something that allows us to COPE with fear. The truth is, EVERYONE’S biggest fear in life is not failure, it’s embarrassment. People fear embarrassment more than anything else. They fear embarrassment so much, that sometimes, they die for it.

Do you remember the few clips from the tsunami in Phuket in 2004? In one of them, a man is seen standing with his back turned to the wave, seemingly frozen with fear. That is not what was happening, I don’t think, although he was afraid – afraid of overreacting and thus, losing face; embarrasing himself. Therefore, rather than run with the others to reach safety, he decided to turn his back to the massive wave and “stand it out”. Obviously, that was the last time he was seen, alive, at least.

Now, the question is… What would embarrass you?

Here are some good suggestions

Not receiving love back when you offer it? Being found out that you’re not always sensible? Being caught for being hopeful? Perhaps a romantic? (How pathetic!) Being found out that you thought so highly of yourself that you’d make a successful business owner. (Hahahh!) Thinking you might have it in you to succeed as an artist?! (My GOD!)

Getting caught of believing in God or a higher power? Being as foolish as to think there’s an afterlife? (I guess that could hinder someone at some stage.) Being afraid that someone might find out that you believe you can actually shed that weight and keep it off? (Bitch, please!) Being found out that you actually THINK you’re beautiful? Smart? Funny? (Jesus, you people!)

Being found out that you’re a coward? Or soft-hearted? (Idiot?!) Being found out that you have feelings? Or, as it may be – that you don’t feel the way you’re expected to? That you’d think you’re lucky enough, or special enough? That you’d think highly of yourself, you pathetic loser?

How do you cope?

When you think about the biggest embarrassment you could feel, what’s the thing you do to cope?

What is the railing that you hang onto in the fear that someone catches you of one or a few of these? (There’s more than one there for me, and let me tell you… I’ve NEVER felt tenser in fear -energy from my soul companions as I’ve felt writing that paragraph. Men and women who are usually brave and relaxed genuinely just clenching their fists in terror, some less afraid of their emotions purposefully chasing that feeling to put themselves in tears.)

Some people fear not being loved back, so they hold onto their families as they feel their family is a certain bet for love returned. Some believe their parents don’t love them and hold onto other relationships to cope with that fear.

If you are wishing to start a business, you may not be willing to invest money in it, in the fear you’ll leave a calculatable tally to show exactly how unrealistic self-image you hold. You may not ever put in a full effort, so you know that if you fail, it’s because you didn’t really commit to it, not because you were stupid or incapable.

Ask Tarot

Instructions

• Pick a card at a time for lies you tell yourself in order to avoid embarrassment.
• Coping mechanisms you use to avoid embarrassment.

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