The Law of The Truest Wish is the only spiritual law that I have accepted and added into the Free Spirit Theories almost without alteration. I encourage everyone to study The Law of The Truest Wish, although, granted, it tends to be displayed in a very materialistic sense a lot, but it works all the time in everything in your life, your love life included. You attract everything in your life based on your true wishes, your good luck, bad luck, your skills (learning them) and your limitations. The limitations are particularly interesting, because they create the framework in which you want your life to manifest. It is also not a law that will grant you everything you wish, because ironically battling your own mismatch of wishes, hopes and dreams usually lands you in such a knot that you’ll end up receiving nothing until you make up your mind about what it is that you really want. Even more so, we can get so hung up on one SPECIFIC wish that we cannot release our grip on that because we think this is all there is, when in fact something much better would be waiting for us just around the corner if we just let go of this particular one.

This is never so true as it is in your love life.

Everything that happens in your life is a question. “Do you like this?” “How about that?” “Compared, do you value this more than that?” “Do you want a handsome husband, a rich one or both? Both you say? If I push, will you accept the rich or handsome, I’ll offer you both, just when you think you MUST get married, but you’ll have to wait over your pain threshold before I’ll give you both in one man.” The more we want something, the more we are getting tested, because this is important to you and because it is important, it is VITAL that God knows exactly what you want for your Ideal Life down the line. You will never find heaven on earth if you can’t tell him IN DETAIL what it is that you are looking for. Your previous life times have given him clues, yes, but you know we haven’t found our personal heaven yet because we have been dying still. Once you find your perfect life, you’ll reach Your Heaven and immortality. (Seriously. I KNOW that sounds crazy but I’m telling you, I am so close I can TASTE IT!!) Tirelessly answer questions that your life presents to you: What do you REALLY want? Forget guilt and compromise, what is it that you TRULY want? Passion? Intellectual conversations, shared interests, true love, complete freedom, safety, money? Everything is there on offer. This is the most important piece of advice anyone could give you: Be brave enough to wish and dream. Create a fantasy land around you and worry not for a moment whether or not it is possible. If  not in this life, then the next! Even if you created an impossible scenario for this world, there will be another one in which it will be possible, or at least it will become possible somewhere in this great big Universe of ours – we are not bound by physical boundaries, we will be able to start over anywhere in the Universe if you like… I personally want to stick around because this place is awesome. And now, to the Earthly matter of love:

To people, who love doesn’t seem to matter much it comes just as easily as money comes to those who don’t care for it… Easy as, but not in great quantities, just enough to satisfy your hunger for it. The more passion and wish you have for life, the more it seems to elude you, because God KNOWS you will have the stamina and will to go after what you want even if it took you some time. During the time that you are made to wait, you will be asked a lot of questions. These questions come through music, movies, books you read, blog posts you read, conversations you have; They make you think about new ways to be in love and have love (and everything else). Whatever you find fascinating will be recorded in your recipe book for your perfect love, and the man or woman (or men and women) who fit that recipe will be made ready to be introduced to you. That is, of course, unless you’re still holding onto long lost love who already decided they wanted something different other than you..? The only limitation that LOTTW has is that you cannot interfere with someone else’s free will. You have unlimited free will, but LOTTW won’t help you in bringing a reluctant party into your love life, unless there’s an interesting kink going on in there (wish to grow through odd relationships or uncertainty of what they want or loss of faith in true love etc).

Phases of Love:

1. Shiney!

Your first crush. <3 Something about them intrigues you, and you get your first idea of what you like, sometimes the only question we’re answering is that whether you like boys or girls, with the uncertainty that maybe you like both!

2. First relationship

Whatever you wished or expected out of love in this life time will manifest itself here. How was it – see how well it reflects your expectations of love when you grew up. If you know someone else well enough to say, how did it compare for others? Do you know someone who was a total romantic who fell in love with a True Mirror the first time around or someone from a broken home who knew how bad it was going to be, who attracted nothing but trouble? Or someone who simply didn’t believe anyone cool would really love them attracting something of the sort?

3. Refining ideas

When we get over the first hurdle of getting a boyfriend or a girlfriend, the worst of it is over. We believe it can happen; someone CAN find us attractive, and now we start to develop a sense of what we really want in a partner. “OK this doesn’t work for me. I want a partner who…” This happens over a course of time with several people and situations. We also take ideas from other people’s relationships: “I’d like that. The way they are with each other looks fantastic.”

4. Forming ideals (Judgement/Evaluation Phase)

In the ideal forming mode, we start creating the framework in which we want our relationship to happen. Monogamy, polygamyORpolygynandry¹, straight, gay, bi? Children or no children? Rich, poor, middle class? Working together or separate, and so forth. We are putting together a set of ideals that we wish to aim for – with the only limitation put up by shame; “That’s just not done… I couldn’t possibly want that for myself…” (Shame will keep you from your true dream because even if it was offered, you won’t take it.)

5. Battling fears (Fear Phase)

Someone will steal them. Nobody that cool will love me. I WILL NEVER FIND THE ONE.

6. Fears seem to come true

Whatever you are afraid of, usually seems to come true at this phase. The MOST COMMON fear is that you will never find True Love and that you have to settle. Most people to whom love is very important settle. They simply find someone who they like, but compromise on something that they truly hold valuable, often it is sexual compatibility; passion. This is probably the most common fear to give into, and it is put into the scales against a very stupid but powerful enemy: Time frame. “I want to get married before I turn X years old.” So the question is: “OK, what do you hold more valuable, to get married before you turn X or to be married to the exact right person?” Surprisingly often the X wins. Some people end the game here, as their values start pointing towards staying loyal (no matter what) and family commitments. I won’t follow that thread because it is another tangent entirely, but keep steady on sexual love:

7. Regaining hope and focus

We get over the fear and hopelessness phase one way or another. Some go through a marriage that fails them, some simply grin and bear the hopelessness and keep their eye on the ball. Which ever way this happens, we will reaffirm ourselves that what we want is true love, and if that won’t happen, we’ll rather stay alone… But then again, for as long as there’s an option in there, your resolve on the option will be tested: “Okay, so how long is ‘alone’ going to be okay with you, and when you’re done with alone, what are you going to do next? Insist on the best possible outcome or give the fuck up again?! Which is it going to be, loser?!” (Life’s a bitch, hey?) You will be tested on how many times will you have the bravery to knock back offers you don’t really care for in the hopes of finding True Love. GOOD offers. (Personally, I’ve been waiting on my Ultimate True Mirrors now for freaking ages, and now I’ve been given 3 VERY GOOD options, very good indeed, but I’m knocking them back because I want the full fairytale.)

8. Defining what you value

I promise you you won’t get what you want for as long as there is the slightest chance you might ruin your ultimate dream by hurrying to take it with the slightest of beauty flaws. That is the funny thing. All this time you’ll be given cheap copies of the Ultimate Dream to test and stew on, but the actual thing, the ultimate goal is being withheld from you so that you wouldn’t spoil it with inexperience and unrefinement. This is why you must work your ASS off dreaming the impossible dream and being an insufferable romantic and making sure you know exactly what it is that you hold in high regard.

9. What else needs to happen before you can be happy receiving your Ultimate Dream?

This is the “when” question you are all demanding your psychics to answer you. You don’t need them to tell you what would annoy you about your life situation if your Ultimate True Mirror would walk in the door right now and confess their undying love for you. “Fuck. My place is a fucking mess. If I bring them home tonight… Oh lord I’d die of embarrassment.” Or “What could I possibly offer them given the job I have..?” or “My child is going through a rough patch right now, I don’t think I can fully focus on erotic love with all that going on.” and… “If I’d have to take my clothes off in front of him/her right now, I think I’d rather die…” or “I have to finish my work before I can focus on love. My work is important, but love is even more so, and once I find my love, who has time for work?!”

10. Fine. Here. TAKE IT. (Finally you told me what it is you want!)

You win! God finally offers you the chance of a life time to have everything you ever wanted out of love. This is not where the challenge ends though, are you going to screw it up, because you know you can! Are you going to rationalize your way through this relationship playing it safe trying to ensure you don’t lose it, or are you going to give into your instincts and intuition and live fully from your soul loving this person without fear of losing them? That is the next question, and you know what the correct answer is, don’t you?

This list also applies to other areas of life with a little adaptation. What did you want to be when you grew up? How soon did you give that up, if you did?

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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