the Modern love through obedience and training.

Obedience, to the Modern, is the practice of love. To a Timeless, it’s a kink at best and a punishment at worst. When the Modern searches “How do I make someone obey me?” is effectively the same as a Timeless’ “How do I become a better partner?” “Bossy” or “Obedient” in the Modern’ terms is “a good partner” either way. They do not consider being a tyrant a bad trait in a person; quite the opposite. A tyrant is a self-confident leader, lover, and partner in their books. To a Timeless, a tyrant is about the worst you can say about a person.

A  the Modern feels rejected and insufficient as a partner and a parent when the people they love don’t obey them 100% every time. They both blame themselves for being ineffective and untrustworthy in their role in that relationship, but they also blame their people for being unreasonably difficult. “Testy.” They feel disobedient people are unusually insecure (I know this is weird ass for a Timeless to even wrap their mind around) because they refuse to obey without a heavy hand. The logic here is that a “testy,” as in a non-conformist or an independent thinker, is seen by the Modern as someone who has to “test” their importance to other people by disobedience. They may also feel they’re trying to demonstrate their importance: “See how far you’d go to make me safe (obedient) again before I hurt myself.”

To be bossed around, to the Modern means “to be loved” and “to be important.” To a Timeless, it means “to be mistrusted and to be abused.” They feel if someone has to boss them around and watch their backs constantly, it means they don’t trust them to know their ass from their elbow, and like they were just poised to get themselves hurt or killed by sheer stupidity or that they cannot be trusted to do the right thing without constant supervision. Stupid, selfish, or a criminal, in other words. Useless, worthless, a menace to society – and they feel it is a high offense to their character if they are not trusted to not be those things.

The point of this post is that the very thing about the Modern that the Timeless hates the most is their way of showing and receiving love: obedience. Dominance and control. BDSM. (Which, by the way, mean very different things to the Timeless once again.)

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