The more forthright and honest people are with others, the less they project their own feelings to others.

We all project our feelings on others. Projection means that we believe that what I would feel in that situation is what that person feels in that situation. For instance “If I didn’t have a job, I’d be desperate to find a job, therefore, that person must be desperate to find themselves a job.” “I get angry and shout at others when I’m afraid, therefore, that person is shouting because they’re scared (not angry about what they say they’re angry about).” Projection is effectively the practice of replacing empathy with sympathy and it has a very poor success rate. It works SOMETIMES but it’s kind of a draw of luck rather than the actual ability to understand other people.

When a person notices the effects of projection, they get a bit shell-shocked. They realize that their assumptions are not always correct, and if they cannot get a straight answer from another person as to what they’re feeling, they withdraw from that person: “I don’t understand that person and why they’re acting this way, I will withdraw so I don’t cause more damage to them with my ignorance.” Now, these people haven’t noticed yet, that the worst projectors DO NOT tell you what they are feeling because they ASSUME your feelings are basically identical to their own, there’s no reason for them to express them verbally. If you don’t know how they feel, to the projector, it means you’re callous and non-caring; you are ignoring their needs ON PURPOSE, to punish them or to humiliate them. They will further conclude the reason for your action is that they don’t show love for you enough – so their reaction will be to try to be more loving to you… Which is not necessarily the correct response to another person’s indifference toward them.

Further, people who project (dog-type) and people who don’t (the Old Souls*) tend to have tremendous communication issues. The Old Souls* tries their hardest to find accurate words for their issues, and the Young Soul*tries to solve a puzzle of what does that “clue” mean. The Young Soul*finds it reassuring when another person understands them “without words” as in, without them having to explain themselves, so they don’t “ruin it” by explaining it. The Old Souls* thinks it’s awesome enough to have someone understand them with a clear verbal explanation, but they are looking for people with a similar experience base. They feel that if I can explain to you how I feel, and how DIFFERENT my feelings are from yours, you understand we are not a great match as friends or even family members. The Young Soul*will understand this explanation as nothing but either “you don’t understand me, therefore I’ll dump you as being useless” (Dog types believe another person needs to have a use in a relationship) or “you don’t understand me, but you have to learn to mimic my behavior and feelings to the best of your ability because I don’t know how to human.” (If you don’t understand that as a Old Souls* person who just got here, don’t worry, it’s very… Dog.)

The Old Souls* try to make as few guesses to your feelings as possible. They don’t believe that assumption is a good way to go about “understanding” other people. The Young Soul*doesn’t really know WHY the Old Souls* have to be so boring with their way of doing things, yet. (All those ready answers.) I believe that there will be a moment of trauma in a person’s reincarnational history, where through their ASSUMPTION does an awful thing to another person, and they realize they hurt someone they deeply cared about by ASSUMING they knew their feelings when they didn’t. It is also possible, that the Young Soul*tays as the Young Soul*because they cannot face their own guilt well enough, so they keep dodging the shock and horror they should feel when they’ve assumed and created a terrible situation through this behavior.  So ironically, the Old Souls* are less abusive of others because they CARE LESS than the dog-type. The Young Soul*are so loving and caring that they would break their own heart if they understood how awfully they treat other people, so they dodge that realization resulting in a situation where they cannot stop the bad habit. The assumption is both the reason and the result of their… assumptions; they assume because they assumed wrong, so they keep assuming wrong because accepting reality would be too painful.

The Old Souls* is constantly worried about their habit of projection. Therefore, to them, a website like this is gold. They want to be better at relationships at all times, even though they don’t love EVERYBODY the same way as the Young Soul*does. They are less emotionally involved, while they are constantly emotionally involved and worried about their own effect on other people. That makes the Old Souls* a little too easy to get close to, as the Old Souls* tries to be loving and inclusive of strangers, where dogs are more cautious and reserved. Dogs will only ever accept “cool people” close to them, but the Old Souls* try to be friends with everyone who’d have them; which then creates a situation where the Young Soul*gets emotionally injured when the the Old Souls* doesn’t, ultimately, love them.

The most important skill the Old Souls* must learn is to reject people they are not seriously interested in the moment they see them, and NOT give people chances that they know they can’t “win”. The Old Souls* must learn NOT TO be friends with everybody, and to protect the Young Soul*from bonding too soon.

For the dog-type, the most important skill to learn is to consider that people actually mean what they say. Sometimes, trying to repeat the same words back to that person to confirm them will help, a Old Souls* will sigh: “YES, that’s what I mean”, (and it doesn’t mean “you heard the clue correctly” but that this is the correct message, and the Young Soul*will say: “Well NO…” or act annoyed you’d think they mean what they say.

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