The Psychology of Want; How to make dreams come true

This blog post SHOULD BE a secret, but, as I essentially have no secrets, this, too, will go out onto my blog without much of a worry. This post might seem very irrelevant to you if you don’t want to be an Internet sensation, but I assure you there is a point to this post. Whenever we are trying to make dreams come true, when we actually want something REALLY BAD, for whatever reason, true love being one of the biggest reasons, true love for your True Emotion Mirror or my true love of the Internet, we can make some stupid mistakes in how we approach things simply because we do not want to make a wrong move.

Have you ever noticed how EASILY people achieve goals that do not matter to them for one jolt? They start doing something, and lo and behold, there’s the reward, with half of the effort that people who are dying for it are putting into it? When we are trying too hard to make dreams come true, people pick up on trying too hard it and we will bomb. Often; people notice that the amount of effort you are putting in wooing essentially meaningless people or goals is out of whack. Unfortunately, psychology is not limited to the psychology between you and the people you want to impress (every time you want something you will want to impress people in somehow, because nothing in this world moves without the influence of human beings. Well, almost nothing.) You impress people INSIDE YOUR MIND, on “a telepathic” frequency, and if you are not 100% cool with what you are doing, whatever it is, people are going to sense that “something is off”.

I’ve been trying to make my dreams come true for 15 years

Maybe, truly, a lot longer than that, but the dreams that should be impossible are coming together soooo easily it is incredible that I can’t get my blog off the ground. I have already achieved the impossible, but I have not managed to put together an Internet marketing plan that would work sufficiently to make me my living, a goal that should be more than achievable considering I don’t want much. What gives?

Let me tell ya, I was dreaming about the Internet before it was born. I wanted to find like-minded people and I was thinking that sometime in the future I’ll have like this agency that connects people, kind of like a dating service would be, but with hobbies and stuff. I was always writing diaries hoping someone could pick them up and read them, the whole romance of strangers finding each other and making friends put stars into my eyes. It was the late 80’s early 90’s, and the Internet was something I had never even heard of. If I had, it would have made all of my dreams come true in a series of binary code too beautiful for words to describe.

The technology is here, but the Internet keeps giving me the finger. Just like my True Emotion Mirror(s). And has my love for either one changed one bit? No. I love everything about them both, all, even if sometimes their stubbornness gives me the hives. Oh Internet, why do you have to be so difficult to impress?

What I have been doing is I’ve been following advice I’ve heard from other people on how to go about things. ADVICE IS WHAT IS KILLING ME! It is not that the advice is BAD, per say, it’s just that you cannot teach an authentic approach to a person, because as soon as you tell someone to behave a certain way in order to get what you want, you put dents in their authentic expression and if their authentic expression is dented you will KILL their chances of BEING REAL. When you become even half-conscious about what you want to achieve, there is a HUGE change you will start looking for guidance on how to achieve what you want the most, right? That is how the people who want something the most meet with the people who want to help, but will wind up, in many cases, to make a sure winner a bad, bad loser. Winners are authentic. Self-confident. Brilliant.

You give them a code to follow, and they become fake, insecure, awkward…. and… Dull.

Uninspiring, boring, already seen, been there, done that, got the T-shirt -type of attractions; stuff you don’t want to see anymore because you’ve seen it a thousand times.

That is why a lot of dating advice is futile. Not 100% of dating advice, but everything that is about “how to behave” or “what to say”, and social media or the Internet, that has ALWAYS been a form of social media, is very similar to the attempt of trying to get laid. If you want it for the sake of it, you will bomb, because nobody wants to get half-heartedly fucked by you, they want to get ROYALLY FUCKED by you.

People want to feel WOOED, right? They want to BE IMPORTANT to you. You need to make them feel important, loved, cherished, enthralling, intriguing, something you cannot get enough of! You need to LUST for those people who you want to impress, and go about it like Steven Tyler who shamelessly talks his way into the pants of girls young enough to be his granddaughters – he could do it at least if he wanted to, without blinking, because HE IS SHAMELESS! With the same shamelessness, he woos his crowd, twirling his lust for attention around his fans hearts and… other parts of great feeling, and pulls them in by sheer energy of “I WANT YOU.”

Everyone wants to feel wanted. Lusted after, EVEN IF they cared nothing for you, they will still love to feel wanted. They might reject you from the last victory, but DAMNED they will feel GREAT to be around you, simply because YOU WANT THEM. You make them feel INCREDIBLE.

To make my dreams come true, I have to stop pretending to want THOSE PEOPLE and come clean about who I DO WANT.

Social fucking media… You know I had a freaking meltdown about it the other day and asked you all to stop following me because I figured FUCK THAT. The reason why I felt so fatigued over it was that I was working hard to impress people who I really didn’t give a shit about. That DOES NOT mean you guys, because you sticking by me means the world. (See above, if I’d repeat that, things would get creepy around here. :D) It means random Twitter people who I was following in hopes of a follow-back and who I tried to fake freaking interest in in order to make them take intrest in me in return. That sucks. Thaat sucks big time. I was the desperado guy at a club who will hit on ANYONE AT ALL in order to get laid. The guy who goes from one girl to the next trying to chat them up and strike up a conversation about nothing because he simply wants to get laid. The guy who never gets any.

I hope I didn’t come off quite that obvious – maybe I was the guy who is standing in the corner not knowing what the hell to do paralysed by the fear of coming off awkward and then doing nothing to approach anyone but then, perhaps, taking a few stabs in the dark only to be ignored or friend zoned.

So, as I always tell these guys at clubs that hey…. Just pick the girl you REALLY want, and know what you DO LIKE and what you DON’T like, and forget all the girls who don’t fit into the picture and focus on making the girls you like so much that you don’t mind boosting their ego at your own expense feel the twirl of your lust around them, and freaking hell, interested or not, they’ll love hanging around you regardless making you look good – because you are!

So that’s what is going to happen to my Twitter. I’m not going to be chasing the attention of people who are irrelevant to me, as much as I want to be relevant to everyone – because everything I blog about relates to everyone, a fact that has been making my targeting efforts so difficult… It is  not about that on Social Media. No matter what your target market is, the interaction still needs to be about PEOPLE. That is what that is all about.

How to be authentic, then, and ignore advice that is not going to make your dreams come true?

Whatever it is that you are trying to do, make sure every action you take is what you would do anyway or feels good to you, not something you do because someone told you that would make you loved. How to tell the difference? YOU FEEL GOOD about it. THIS is something I can see myself doing without feeling embarrassed or awkward or a liar doing it.

You know unexpected things happen all the time. Some people manage to make it big on Pinterest, some it gives the shits, the way I, for example, feel about Pinterest is the same as a lot of people feel about dance clubs “those meat markets”, that I, in turn, love. Dance clubs are my scene, believe it or not, being a rocker and all, but at the same time, I love myself a good pick up joint… But Pinterest! That is simply wooing people with visuals, luring crowds with flashy photos with no substance, right? See where I am going? So maybe… Given how similar they are, MAYBE there is a way to use Pinterest in a way that is authentic to me… Flashing a leg, perhaps, after all, at clubs, I love the giving guys the surprise element; when I was younger, I looked like all leg no brain, but I always floored my guys with the SUBSTANCE. Perhaps the same element of surprise would work online. So… Am I being authentic or am I being contriving?

So, all these years I have TRIED NOT TO use that approach… TOO much. I am quite OK with posting a profile picture flashing leg in pink high heels, but I don’t want to overdo it… Or perhaps I wanted to over-do it, but I felt too embarrassed to because it would be too obvious – but after all, THAT IS NOT WHAT I’m SELLING! But, people, that’s the freaking beauty of it! I might look like I’m selling leg, but it is not, it’s the brain surprise element in there that is MY THING, the thing I have worked in my favor since I was not even 20, only, the setting was entirely different.

Checklist: Is it something that you COULD TRY without feeling fake about it? Yes; do it, No, don’t do it. Is it something you WOULD WANT TO DO but don’t know how people would react? Yes: Find out why it doesn’t feel right, fix it, then do it. Don’t be half-assed about it, if you can avoid it, either do it or don’t, but don’t half do it. Has it worked for other people in the past? Yes/No: Irrelevant. So completely fucking irrelevant!!

How to make dreams come true

Obviously, I have not yet managed to make those dreams come true, but one of my biggest dreams has always been to understand everything – whether it has been a conscious wish or not, that has been my GUT-DRIVE, to understand EVERYTHING. Therefore, over-analyzing things and trying too hard is what I do to make that dream come true. By obsessing over stuff I didn’t need to obsess over, I understood what is holding me back, and while I was being held back, I had time to understand COUNTLESS OTHER THINGS about life, love, sexuality, spirituality, the Universe, how my mother wound up with my dad and how they managed to ruin my life while trying to save me from all trouble, why my True Emotion Mirror gave me the cold shoulder and why yours, did the same to you;

I wasn’t me, he wasn’t himself, you aren’t you, and your True Emotion Mirror is likely not being himself, either.

Whenever you are going after something great, you have to feel great about doing it. And you have to be able to let those people who you truly adore, are intrigued by or interested in, to know that that is how you feel, because, after all, if you feel that way about them doesn’t make you an idiot, it makes them great.

All true feeling is authentic. Don’t fake a feeling. That includes “disinterest”. Do not fake disinterest or being “above” someone if you don’t feel that way. Also. Unfollow Twitter accounts you don’t give two shits about when you only follow them in order to seem “social”. Right?

That is all.

I will keep you updated on progress. Can I do it? Is this going to work?

Mia Tyler. I love her. I’ll start with Mia Tyler. She’s awesome, and her dad is totally a FILF.

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