The purpose of True Emotion Mirror separation

True Emotion Mirror separation seems to be the most UNFAIR thing that could happen to you, and I wholeheartedly empathise with that statement! It’s like Why would God bring us together only to throw a spanner in the works and then make us go separate ways? It doesn’t make any sense! And then, you know someone loves you to the last inch of you, but for some reason they won’t admit it, or they stay with their girl/boyfriend or spouse although you have told each other that you are the most important person to each other. These relationships are confusing and dumbfounding, and you feel like you have lost your mind half the time. The longer the separation lasts, the more you question your sanity and your ability to know anything about love! Sadly, this is often when people do give up on the romantic notion of passionate all consuming love and marry someone they think is a wiser choice for a long term relationship.

The True Emotion Mirror separation, especially of the (Potential) True Mirror -type, doesn’t happen in order to push you to a spiritual growth or anything. The fear phase is a genuine reaction that will take over anyone who has any insecurities about the relationship. Many of us are so wrapped up in our own perspective of the relationship too, that we can’t see their side of things, making it almost impossible to say what happened. A lot of the times there’s a lot of hurt feelings even though nobody intended to hurt anyone, things were said that didn’t get heard the way that they were intended, or no words were said where lots were needed. Fear makes us do all of those things, or leave things unsaid and undone although they yearn to be said or done. The separation phase happens as a natural progression from this, and although a new opportunity will be organised by the Universe (Fate, God, the Great Enabler, whatever you want to call it), there is no guarantee of a successful relationship if you both aren’t mature enough to control your fears and insecurities.

These insecurities are formed largely in our culture as well. “It’s just a crush”, “don’t mistake lust for love” and “she/he seems mental” are very popular remarks by people who simply do not understand this connection – and the vast majority of people don’t understand it, INCLUDING people who have had some experience of it, and ironically including people who TEACH True Emotion Mirror -theories. There are a few reasons for True Emotion Mirror separation, but what to do about it is what counts. To make sure you know what you want. To make sure you act from your true wants, and to make sure you won’t run from what you want the next time you see it, simply because you’re too afraid to try your luck.

In another situation, the separation has more to do with timing than insecurities, but make no mistake, your self-confidence is ALWAYS an issue with True Emotion Mirrors (or it isn’t a very strong connection). The timing, in some True Emotion Mirror cases has to do with making everything ready for a ‘flying start’ so to speak. To make the circumstances right, at the same time as you do active spiritual work towards a reunion. Often, when people start on the spiritual path, they lift their goals to something more than just marriage and children or a heated affair, and that is why spiritual work, although making the ultimate reunion more rewarding, will also make the reunion take another route. Often, without spiritual work, the True Emotion Mirrors will reach emotional maturity and sufficient self-confidence at a fairly late age (~50), (we’ve seen it all and rejection doesn’t matter that much anymore) but through spiritual work fairly young True Emotion Mirrors can achieve reunion because they are consciously work towards it.

In other words, there is rarely other purpose of separation, it’s more a reaction to your current state of self-confidence and self-awareness in relation to what your relationship needs in order to get started or continue. The separation time is not MEANT for self-reflection or self-development, but it would be wise to spend it in that pursuit. Each meeting with your True Emotion Mirror gives you an opportunity to try to reconnect, and will fail for as long as one of you allow fear and doubt dictate your actions. In your heart you know, but your mind plays tricks on you (and your Twin) and that is what you must overcome; to learn to listen to your own gut-feeling and your own intuition rather than the words of “gurus” and “guides” and other well-meaning but misguided souls. This is your relationship, and although others have experienced similar stuff, it is up to you to figure out what it is in the end. Good luck!

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