The Real Life True Emotion Mirror sex, as in TrEmoR Sex
I will jump right onto a topic request from Anna, because this is one of those posts that I would love to talk about, and still hate the thought of. 
The reason being, that I have very limited physical experience of this myself, and my knowledge is based on spirit contacts and a few very BAD experiences with a True Emotion Mirror. However, I can tell you why even True Emotion Mirror sex is sometimes really bad, but for the most romantic of reasons.
Let’s start with the bad, shall we? This is the even if it goes like this, doesn’t mean it’s not a True Emotion Mirror -bit:
Too much pressure
This is a problem among sexy people in particular. The prouder you are about being a great lover, the more likely event it is that you will freeze with a True Emotion Mirror. We are still human, and we have our idea of how we should be, and when we know exactly how good we “should be” at sex, and that destroys True Emotion Mirror sex.
With your true soul lover, you should be concerned about nothing but his or her soul and the connection that you make to it through your bodies. However, there are several things that will stop this, when you really want it to shake the Earth. It WOULD, if you weren’t concerned about it, but it will not, if you are.
True Emotion Mirrors should never have sex in any other way than in an absolute state of surrender to who you are and what you want to do to the person or have them do to you.
If you are self-conscious about what a perverted monster you are, you will find it hard to let go during sex with a True Emotion Mirror. Especially if you have a lot of preconceived ideas about “what women want” or “what women should want”, or what men want a woman to be. Also, whether you’re the man or the woman, both tend to be super aware of what women need during sex. And, that will get in the way, because if your instinct say that “I want this” and your mind says “women need that”, it breaks the flow. If you are not completely OK about every aspect of your sexuality – because you cannot edit the dynamic to fit a Cosmopolitan article – you will wind up having very lackluster sex. It will be just bodies, even if it was a True Emotion Mirror.
One of my True Emotion Mirrors … The hottest of the hot, a God to look at, INCREDIBLE chemistry at a club, danced around it for a while, both of us sex bloggers of some sort, both had the swagger – we KNEW what we were doing. Both of us, super confident about our sexuality. The kiss so hot I wouldn’t have cared if he would have taken me right there on the dance floor, but when the door closed behind us… WHAM.
Awkward…!
“Let’s just get this over with.”
What is interesting, though, I have NO RECOLLECTION of what happened after. I don’t drink, by the way, and he didn’t offer me drinks, either, and he doesn’t need to give girls roofies, in case you were wondering… I think I fell asleep in his arms later. And THAT never happens with anyone. I think I did. Normally, I would remember the cracks in his ceiling because I find it so awkward to sleep with a new guy. Sex I’m cool with, sleeping, bad. This time. Sex was awful (he looked good doing it but that’s about as much we can say about it) but the sleep. I think I slept. I must have.
Similarly, another one, same thing. Cultural pressure to be an awesome lover, same as this one. Both men come from a country that is famous for great lovers. So when you meet a True Emotion Mirror, you want to prove to them that you are The Man. No. That doesn’t happen with a True Emotion Mirror… You cannot pretend, perform, or be concerned about how you rate on the blog later.
And still, when I think about him – I saw him again a lot later, and I swear to God! Still, just thinking about him makes me hot.
The amazing average hot TrEmor sex
This is the love and commitment part still removed, type of TrEmor sex, with a newly found True Emotion Mirror who doesn’t come with all the baggage of tons of previous lives drama. (There’s a first time for everything.)
I don’t know if you less adventurous girls now what I’m talking about, but when you meet a hot guy at a club and you just KNOW this is going to be amazing and you both have no real expectations of it to lead to a relationship or anything. You both know what the other is made of and you don’t need to pretend that we will call each other in the morning. What you do hold back a little is the absolute love and devotion to him, because that would not fit the picture. Still, you can show him the most of you, and him, to you. And the fact it turns out neither one of you has condoms and you’re not on birth control is not enough to deter you from going full on at it… The lust is just too much to let sensible reasons get in the way.
Thank God for the Morning After -pills.
The Amazing Real Life
Still in the examples of personal experiences category…
This guy… Not exactly my type, but handsome. I would be very hesitant to start a relationship with him, but the chemistry was there from the start. An Uncharted True Emotion Mirror. We wound up under a bridge at nightfall in a car – haha – and even though this was semi-public, it was like nobody else could possibly walk in on us. It was like a protective bubble would shield us from the world, and nobody would be able to see, and if they did, they would know this was holy.
Whatever happened afterward would break the love story, but… We met for the first time that day, and there was no real awkwardness… He had nothing to prove to nobody – he was a loser and he knew it, wasn’t pretending to be happy about it, no airs at all.
This was probably just in the Potential True Emotion Mirror category, kind of an option, “if you’re into it” sort of connection, still, it was incredible.
And, then, the TrEmors you have when they’re not there
This is the stuff I have the most experience with. This is the “everything that it could one day be” sex. This is the stuff that I base my theories on because as we are separated we are learning about each other in spirit. One huge part of it all is our sexual dynamic. We Need To Get This Right, right? What happens, is that we are constantly talking, you know that, but also, we often meet in our dreams and in awaken daydreams and we… Imagine being together. Sometimes it takes a rewind. “No. Not like that. Too fast.” Sometimes, it is just perfect from start to finish. Sometimes, just flashes of images of “perfection”.
What is perfect to one True Emotion Mirror couple or soup will be a nightmare to another, so it doesn’t really help to go into elaborate detail, but let’s just say that we have developed fetishes we didn’t even know existed because we link it to “us”. Even if it started as a joke, it can turn out into a sexual fetish because… It is you and me. This is like creating encryption to each other. You enter a secret sex code and WHAM, you’re in.
With one of my True Emotion Mirrors I haven’t even been to the same continent yet… The phrase I use with him is “I love having average sex with you.” He is one of those men who all women fantasize about. Elaborately, I’d imagine. Romantic dinners, dancing, rose petals on the bed… That kinda stuff. Me? Hmm… I am not sure if I want to share, but let’s just say that when it is Mr. Right, there is really no need for rose petals, as you wouldn’t notice them, anyway. And… Should the sex with him turn a little more amazing from the average, you know you’re in danger of breaking bones with this guy, so sometimes reining the beast in a bit is healthy.
What I know, through this, is that our sexual fetishes match perfectly, and they are not always flower petals and candlelight… In fact, they never are for us. OUR type (myself and my True Emotion Mirrors ) of sex is no-thrills, simple, straightforward, non-complicated, and completely masculinity worshiping mayhem. If I would listen to feminists and their idea of what sex should be like I would never be able to connect with my True Emotion Mirrors because everything about the way we are wired is about masculinity and the worship of men. CLEARLY, this is not the way it always goes, there are True Emotion Mirror couples and soups who are about roses and candlelight, it’s just that WE are not, and I know there is A LOT of women and men out there who will sigh with relief to hear that.
And, to what’s to say more, is that OF COURSE you will enjoy romantic sex with your True Emotion Mirror, even if you are completely perverted, it’s just that it is unnecessary to limit oneself to that type of sex only, just because it doesn’t fit into someone else’s romantic narrative. By definition you are both a 100% match, so you will both miss out if you try to play too nice… And, to fully unite, it is about 100% surrender and acceptance of who you both are, and our perversions are a major part of who we are.
How can casual sex be True Emotion Mirror sex?!
Your True Emotion Mirror is your Destination Soulmate. If you are into casual sex, so will they. If you like clubs, they will too. If you like blogging or writing music (or whatever) about sex, the likelihood is that they do, too. If you are highly sexual, so are they.
By the way… Slut shaming is one of those things that break up True Emotion Mirror soups. When he’s worried you’d feel like a slut, and you’re worried he’d think you are one… Guess who gets the girl/guy if you don’t accept who and what you really are? (You don’t have to use the word slut to describe it, as long as you work out why there’s no shame in you loving a good fuck.)
Any pretense that you only want a “serious relationship” and marriage and children out of this, will derail you from your authentic self and the connection will suffer. You must be able to be everything that you are with this person. Men have true difficulty fucking the woman they love, the mother of their children, and I use the word “fucking” deliberately. Men tend to think “respect” means the knowledge she finds him and his desires disgusting. That is something you need to work on if that is an issue as it is to many, many men. You ladies need to ensure he knows you love his sexuality, and you love him for being who he is, not despite it. (If this doesn’t apply, you’ve got the wrong category soulmate in mind.)
Now, even if you are NOT into “serious relationships” because you love sex too much doesn’t mean you won’t be into permanent relationships, right? It simply means that the sex HAS TO be a part fo it, and it has to be a HUGE part of it, and the sex must be better IN the relationship than it is with someone new.
Your self-confidence and True Emotion Mirror sex
You’d perhaps like to think that this is the one place where you don’t need self-confidence for your sexual experience to be great. This is, in parts, true, because you do not NEED TO BE anything but who you are, by definition, but to reach that point where you TRUST YOURSELF to KNOW that you are OK the way that you are – the definition of self-confidence – and to KNOW who you are, to boot, too, THAT is difficult.
Your Trail Companions* will always kind of hope that you are something you are not – less sexual, less concerned about the way you look perhaps or the opposite, they may wish that you “could relax more” which, to them means that they wish you wouldn’t try so hard to be excellent at something, but if you are, truly a perfectionist, then you only relex when you will be given the full permission to thrive for perfection, and when others around you understand that you won’t be happy until you reach perfection… Or, reverse this. Perhaps your Trail Companions* wish you tried harder, demanded more of yourself or would be more “driven” or what not, but the point is that your Trail Companions* ALWAYS will try and make you less or more of what you are because they don’t love you for who you are.
Your True Emotion Mirror does. He or she loves you for exactly who you wish you were free to be – including a flaming pervert – and they will love you more every time you give up one more inch of pretence, when you give up trying to be better or worse, even, than what you are, they feel you are closer to perfection every time.
So to trust that your True Emotion Mirror loves you for who you are… That takes every bit of self-confidence and trust toward that person that you can possibly muster up… After all, this person, to you, is perfection in a human form. Now. Imagine being in the room with her. In The Real Life. Do you know who you SHOULD BE in order to be what you are in your mind when you are masturbating to your favorite fantasies that you’d fear to take part in real life? The fantasies that would reveal to everyone involved what you truly are. THAT is the person who you want to be before you come face to face with him or her. To be with your dream girl or your dream guy, you have to be the kind of a person they would die for… And that person is found in your favorite fantasies.
And that… Is not easy… to anyone to trust that you. Actually. Already. Are…
If you allowed yourself to be completely free of social conditioning.
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