The reason for the Survivalist*’s stress, and why the Idealists* feel rarely stressed

the Survivalist* are always worried about their survival alone. They want to secure a relationship to ensure survival, and to the Survivalist*, a spouse with life insurance is actually a consoling thought. An the Idealists* doesn’t feel consoled by the thought their partner has life insurance, quite the opposite, they view it as an INSULT to the sorrow they’d feel for their spouse. They will only ever take one with a feeling of “well it’s sensible”, without it giving them any relief in the grief they’d feel upon a spouses’ passing. I can easily imagine the Survivalist* widower to be grinning a little at the spouses’ funeral if he or she had good life insurance. THAT is the Survivalist*’s concern and happiness, is there, was there someone who worried about their survival?

And this leads us to the Survivalist* stress levels. They want to know they are safe enough and are their family members satisfied they’ve done enough for the family’s SAFETY. An the Idealists* isn’t the least bit concerned about safety, apart from the safety of their adolescent children, but they won’t even THINK ABOUT worrying about an adult’s survival, not their own or their loved one’s. They are concerned about happiness, and whether a person has done ANYTHING measurable for the good of the community. However, they know being helpful to the level of being remembered for their contribution to humanity is such a high achievement that they don’t STRESS about reaching that level. They WISH TO, they’ll TRY, but they don’t worry too much about reaching such honors. They feel shame ONLY IF someone demonstrates to them what they COULD HAVE DONE for society if they had thought about it.

the Idealists* wish to leave a legacy

the Survivalist* use up all their resources in saving face in front of their friends. They fear their family is ashamed of them if they don’t do well enough in life. They work tirelessly to ensure they don’t put their family in shame, and they are ashamed of poverty. The Idealists* are never ashamed of being poor, they are more likely to be ashamed of riches they acquired too easily than being ashamed of poverty. If they are poor, they feel they are not taking anything form other people, and that’s OK. What they may feel ashamed of, is that the poverty they are facing means nobody appreciates their effort enough to pay them for it. That their contribution isn’t enough to make them worth keeping alive. THAT is a face-loosing feeling to a Idealists*… But nothing stop them from TRYING to become important enough to be worth keeping alive – except death… And then they’ve tried their hardest, so… all’s well in a sense.

the Idealists* work toward leaving a legacy behind. Their hope is to have lived a life of meaning to others. They wish their lives has made the world a better place, and they quietly judge the Survivalist* who go through such an effort to make NO DIFFERENCE TO ANYONE at all. A Survivalist* will proudly display a handbag or a purse as a sign of their achievement, without EVER having the good sense to opening up to give to charity. The most DESPICABLE form of human life a Idealists* can think of. Still, if a Idealists* would think of the recipients of charity as the Survivalist*, their wish to give would diminish quite drastically… But that’s another post there. (the Idealists* should never care for anyone except another the Idealists*. ESPECIALLY if the Survivalist* is family.)

An the Idealists* wishes, if nothing else, to leave behind something that will benefit their community, the Survivalist* leveling up might actually try and build something for their family to be proud of after they’re gone.

the Survivalist*’s are all about personal clout

the Survivalist* worry about the way people view them in the current time. They may pride themselves for being modern or whatever is fashionable. Their focus is on things that is being advertised to them, what the Woman’s Weekly deems is currently the thing to be. They are the picture of woke feminism and the shallow display of philosophical values they obey simply for personal clout. They are EVERYTHING the Idealists* despise… And they don’t care. They keep doing what they’re doing because if they don’t, another the Survivalist* will think they’re not doing it right.

A Survivalist* who is married will again worry about clout, but the demands will be different. Then it’s about well-dressed children, displaying themselves as an involved mother and a father who provides. Clout, clout, clout, clout. They worry only about not being thought of as being less achieved than their friends – but to be a good person they don’t want to raise the bar too high for others, because they want EVERYONE to be able to reach this level of shallow achievement so they can be friends.

They hate the Idealists* for raising a bar – because a Idealists* likes to rise their OWN bar. They are not happy simply being the same as everybody else (race to the starting line) they actually want to DO SOMETHING not for admiration, but for personal challenge.

An the Idealists* banks for the immortal soul

The Survivalist* is never concerned about LEARNING more than is necessary to reach the status quo with their personal friends. An the Idealists* has an instinctive need to improve themselves and help others to improve themselves – to make them more competitive in the immortal long run. They respect those who do the same. They don’t feel COMPETITIVE at all, in terms of who does the best work, but they do, TRULY compete against themselves. They always want to be better than what they were before, and thus they are not threatened by others who do a lot of impressive things. They only feel shame when they know they COULD HAVE done more if they had thought of it, but rejoice in the opportunity to step up and level up.

the Survivalist* competitiveness between friends

A Survivalist* at ANY AGE is ANNOYED by a request to level up. To them, they’re DOING FINE if they’re doing as well as their friends. They HATE a try-hard friend who puts their group into disarray when they don’t know how to reach the demanded level of the highest achiever in the group. The least they expect from a person who wants to level up is to provide his or her friends a fake role in an organization to make them LOOK LIKE they are equal, because the Survivalist* is ashamed of not reaching the standards of their friends, and even more so to be dropped out of a group completely.

An the Idealists* should, at any age, avoid making friends with the Survivalist*, but obviously, it’s difficult to get this message through to a child the Idealists*, when identifying the Survivalist* is difficult even as an adult. An the Idealists* parent should, certainly, encourage a Idealists* child to not make friends with children who they don’t like or admire, and teach them strategies to tolerate being alone if needed.

The biggest danger to a highly capable the Idealists* child during school years (apart from being shot in an American school (foreigners think you people are idiots allowing guns to be bought so easily)) is to develop a lifelong friendship with the Survivalist* with an average or low IQ. A wise parent might want to prepare for a future where the Idealists* child needs to drop this friend but does wisely not to FORCE matters, because a Idealists* child is an idealist and won’t drop a needy friend easily, definitely not under pressure. A good way to alienate the Idealists* child from the Survivalist* friend is to buy him or her stuff the Survivalist* child would be jealous of and unable to have their parents provide for them. Soon, the Survivalist* will show their true colors that a Idealists* child will object to. (Find out what the Survivalist* child wants for Christmas, and buy that for YOUR child whether he wants it or not. And then advise them that they can SHARE it with their friend but NOT GIVE it to them.)

the Survivalist* fear a life without a click

the Survivalist* are stressed without a good support group of friends and family. They rarely make REAL friends, because they are not mature enough as souls to actually WAIT for REAL FRIENDS. They are so focused on clout, that they will only seek for TOKEN friends, people to make them LOOK connected (as in, not an easy target). Often, the closest thing to a friend they know is a selfless and idealistic the Idealists*, whom they will eventually try to abuse.

the Survivalist* can ONLY make real friends when forced into a company with other the Survivalist*. They’ll squabble for a while until they finally agree that all this competition is futile, we all love each other and everything is fine. But it is important there are NO the Idealists* in this group. For the Survivalist* to actually make real friends, they MUST be free of the Idealists*, and for the Idealists* to make real friends, they must be free of the Survivalist*.

A Survivalist* needs REAL friends to feel secure and stress-free. An the Idealists* isn’t particularly stressed at any stage of their lives, but they do need real friends to be happy, too.

the Survivalist* will always try to demonstrate how they are WORTHY OF FRIENDS by building themselves clout, whereas a Idealists* doesn’t view friendship in the same manner. They figure EVERYONE is worthy of having friends, just a question of WHO that friend is. An the Idealists* also knows a real friend at first glance, but the Survivalist* don’t have that ability. They can take years to develop the trust required between friends, but the Idealists* can keep friends to who they don’t truly feel a connection to – they’ll settle for company when they can’t see a real friendship happening. They are not afraid of being friendly with non-friends, but they probably should be.

the Survivalist* stress: I am worthy of friends, I’m worthy of having friends..!

The Survivalist* stress levels in a normal society in terms of finding friends to rely on is about the same as a Idealists* would feel during a zombie apocalypse. Even then, the Idealists* would be very selective of the friends they make and would still feel responsible for protecting strangers, whereas the Survivalist* would be shaking, needy, useless, and suspicious of others, and easy to scare into changing alliances…. And into keeping them, too.

the Survivalist* need to know what they need to demonstrate in order to be regarded as a friend worth having. A zombie apocalypse is a good way of thinking about it because whether you have the right fashion in a zombie apocalypse or not is probably obviously useless even for the Survivalist*. I could easily imagine a former fashion guru clutching onto their designer items trying to prove themselves worthy of rescue while being eaten up by a pack of zombies… but…. In a zombie apocalypse, it would be EASIER to teach the Survivalist* what makes for a real friend.

the Survivalist* will find a way to click, but they need to be left to their own vices to do it. They’ll find the things that are important to them as a group, but the Idealists* need to stay the heck out of it. But the Survivalist* are SO DESPERATE for friends, that they are sometimes impossible to drop if they feel they have NOBODY to rely on. An the Idealists* that needs to get rid of the Survivalist* will do wisely to coax them into a new group of friends… For instance thinking up something that they figure the Survivalist* would be good at, then insisting they take classes or start a hobby together, but not show up half the time. (Don’t agree to share a ride!) So first, the Idealists* needs to take their the Survivalist* friend to a group that they’ll be TERRIFIED to join, accompany them for long enough to them start making friends, then start flaking until they are being told: “you’re not really committed and should PROBABLY QUIT!”

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