The test of blind trust -people

There are people who believe that if you were kind to them first and then turn abusive, it’s a test of faith, loyalty, or daring, and that on the other side of the suffering lies a great reward, something as an uplift in social status, wealth, or (better) marriage. It may be near impossible to deter someone who believes you to be a friend from trusting that all and any “abuse” you inflict on them doesn’t mean a greater reward. Basically, a woman like this would be thinking, “The more he beats me now, the more money he’s got stacked away underneath the trailer we live in. If I will prove to him I can take a beating, he will share his wealth with me. That’s why he’s beating me up. This is a test of loyalty, toughness, and blind trust.”

Abusers also can take this approach; the justification for their abusiveness is the wealth (knowledge/status/secrets of success) they can share with you if you take a beating like a good girl or boy. People like this also believe that abusive people have a secret stash of something of value and that wealthy people are abusive because they can afford to be.

If you enter a BDSM-type of scenario with a person who thinks this way, you maybe sued for “misleading them” no matter how clear you were about what you were going to be doing to them, because they assumed the act itself wasn’t the reward, but that what they’ll get from it is the financial or status uplift in the end.

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