There’s no shame in being one-sidedly in love with someone.

Remember the character in Game of Thrones, Jorah Mormont, the knight devoted to the Mother of Dragons, Khaleesi? Did you think he’s pathetic or heroic? I suppose he had his moments on both ends of the spectrum, but mostly, he was admirably in tune with the fact his love was one-sided. He put himself at the mercy of the Khaleesi and gave his life to protect her with wide-open eyes and with a sense of humility in the face of his reality and respect for her. THAT is the way to be one-sidedly in love with someone.

To tune things down a little bit; you can be quite open-eyedly aware that you think someone is amazing. That’s what being in love with a person is like; you love them for who they are because they are that person. A lot of people who are ASHAMED of being in love with someone aren’t in love with that person at all, but the foolish notion that a person of that level is in love with them instead. They’re in love with their own improved ego; the idea that this person is IN LOVE WITH THEM rather than actually being in love with that person. They feel a boost in their own sense of importance and dominance to think a person they merely approve of is actually in love with them – and they make this conclusion under the IDIOTIC notion that if someone on a higher ladder rung is nice to them, it means they must WANT SOMETHING from them – and that something, to a lot of people, seems to be “something real” or “someone real”.

High-level people are nice to others because their peers would not admire them if they weren’t. That’s the reason why high-level people are nice to average people. (This also means high-level as in good looking, smart, popular, loved, wanted, not necessarily financial success or fame or such.) A Full Ten cannot afford to be rude to others, people will instantly judge them for their rudeness. THAT’s why they are nice to others. And only a FOOL would think their good manners is a sign of personal love or sexual attraction. You’d have to be a MORON to think that.

That said, there is a shame in being so much in love with your own good damned ego, that you take another person’s good manners as a sign of their personal love for you. That if someone SPEAKS TO YOU, they must mean they LOVE YOU?! THAT is ridiculous. Preposterous, even.

But, being in love with someone one-sidedly is nothing but a joy. SURE it’d be nicer if they loved you back, but they don’t have to; their existence already makes your life better. THAT is what love is like. I hope you’re not too self-involved to have experienced it.

If you are, I despise you. Let that be known. And I know some people who are in love with the egotistical notion that I am in love with them. I despise those people, too. I really do. That said, there are people who I am in love with who don’t necessarily even know I exist. But I am not dumb enough to assume they love me back, even though they are being all charming on television and even though some of them profess their love for me in spirit. I think it’s a setup, but hey. I also know how the unbreaking of my heart is supposed to happen.

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