They don’t get to change you in order to make money out of you.

the Young Soul* think that the Ravens* thrive for perfection in order to be loved. In fact, we do the opposite. We try NOT TO be so ambitious so that we’d be accepted. Not loved, but accepted. We know the difference between love and acceptance very clearly. Just because you accept someone’s presence doesn’t mean you love them.

the Young Soul* do EVERYTHING for someone else. Therefore, when you spend time perfecting your craft for your own pleasure, they think you’re confused about what they would want  you to be doing. That being the case, your pursuit that doesn’t benefit or delight them in any way seems nonsensical and a time waster.

You have to let them know that as much as you may care for them, this isn’t about them. They do not get to decide HOW you help them, even if they demand help from you in a non-emergency situation. Money is good for anybody, and they (will/will not) get their share of whatever your existence will pay – it may be very little – but they don’t get to change you in their pursuit of making good use of money out of you.

That should snap them to reality.

Communication issues

They think that because you “try to be so perfect,” it means you don’t trust them to love you even if you were just busy farting and getting fat on the sofa like they wish they were. Let them know your motivation of “trying to be perfect” has nothing to do with them or anybody else, but rather that’s the way you wish to be, and you want to find a partner who has that same ambition. You can be as hurtful as you like with the Young Soul*; they tend not to have the ability to take things personally; they just want information and the truth, which is what we all truly want.

You also need to know that they don’t think your perfection is perfection, so your critique of them means just as much to them as theirs means to you. Your ideals are different, and as such, while you’ll hurt them a little, it’s nothing they’ll cry themselves to sleep for.

So, for instance. They think to be loved is to be allowed to be fat and lazy. The Ravens* enjoy a level of relaxation, too, but we’ll agree to be LAZIER STILL so as not to get in the way of Lover-thinking* level of laziness. We don’t do it because we WISH we had the right to be that lazy, we do it because we agree to it against our own will.

Now, you need to give yourself permission to look for new people and new opportunities and realize That Swans* need you far less than they pretend to, just to make you feel special and needed. They might be relieved to see the back of you – and we are relieved that they do. It’ll hurt a little. Like a vaccination. No point avoiding it but eww.

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