They know you’re interested – they’re pretending not to notice so not to embarrass you.

You may think they’re acting high and mighty, not noticing how much effort you’re putting into impressing them and showing them how impressed you are by them. They ignore you, they don’t respond, they treat you friendly enough but with an air of indifference and aloofness… You know what… That’s a hint you should take.

Trust me, this may be a gay/bi/straight/asexual -thing. A lot of people are bisexual, and they find it absolutely astonishing to come across a person who really isn’t interested in the attention of one (or either) gender. A bisexual girl trying to make an impression on a heterosexual one isn’t going to get very far, no matter how much she tries. It just won’t have an effect, not even if you’re only going for friendship. They just don’t have that receptor in them – they may know you want friendship, but they don’t want to go there. You’re not exactly in a relationship, either, so they can’t “break up” with you; the only thing they can do is to deflect your expressions of interest in one way or another.

It is also true that if someone is thoroughly married or in a genuine love relationship with another person, it doesn’t matter how much attention they receive from someone else. They’re not going to be very interested in attention from you. This is not personal; it’s just that you’re hitting on the wrong person.

If your relationship is such that they can’t get away from you – such as a work environment – this could be considered harassment, and they will have to end it eventually. They’re still being nice about it, hoping you’ll get the hint, but don’t count on that staying that way forever.

Trust me. They know you want something they’re not interested in giving you; friendship, mentoring, romance, sex… Whatever it is, you’re wasting your time here.

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