Those who confuse “own” with “love”

There are people who think to be loved by someone is to own them. And that to own something means permission to use, destroy, or disregard it without anyone having a say in the matter, like owning a kitchen utensil until it’s no longer useful or fashionable.

I mean this in a very real sense, not just as a bitter expression of how some people SEEM TO treat you; I mean, this is literally how some people feel about people who love them. Not “kind of” or “feels as though they did,” no; I mean, this is how some people actually, truly, without any exaggeration or florid expression, feel about a person who loves them. “You love me. Therefore, I own you; you have given me the permission to treat you in whatever way I want to.”

These people are completely untrustworthy. You CANNOT in any shape or form trust them in your life. They also tend not to understand the removal of this perceived permission to treat them like that, if you tell them you don’t love them anymore – or even that you never did – as long as they BELIEVE you love them, for whatever narcissistic reason, they believe you are theirs to do with as they please.

If you treat them badly, they think you know they love you, too, you know. They may also be terrible at expressing love toward others, because to them, it means “you’re free to do with me as you please if you know I love you.”

Here’s the trouble: True Emotion Mirrors agree that since they love you…

True Emotion Mirrors actually do feel this way about each other; “I love you SO MUCH indeed, that I’d forgive you for ANYTHING at all.” They mean it literally, too: rape me, kill me, stuff my body into a storm barrel and I’ll forgive you and love you like nothing had happened in our next lifetime.

Sometimes, they express their love in reverse; “You’re not hurting me; I’ll hurt myself on your behalf to feel loved by you – I don’t think you understand how much I love you.”

It is entirely possible that True Emotion Mirrors must destroy each other once or twice before their love becomes complete.

The problem is when that love is not actually mutual.

Now here we enter a difficult dilemma: We have been socially conditioned to express love when we feel none. There are charity organizations, social support workers, churches, simple fellowships, celebrities, and grandchildren forced to hug grandma even when they don’t feel an ounce of love. (I did love my grandma, mind you, and hated that my aunt always PROMPTED ME TO as if I would never hug grandma otherwise.) We give gifts to our business clients, and those gifts and other expressions of love are not always met the right way.

We defend people we don’t love, and give them potentially a false expression of love and devotion. And that, in turn, may give them the idea that they are free to hurt you in any which way they need to, because “you’re lovers.” This love can be directed at entities: “I love YouTube, YouTube demonetized me, that’s FLIRTATION, I’ll march over to their headquarters and shoot them!” (True story.)

People who believe this is what love means may assume your anger or rejection of them means you LOVE THEM.

So, again, people who believe you love them for whatever reason, and who you suddenly deny your love from may think you actually realized you love them now. You realized, that since you love them for whatever reason, you now fear what they might do to you if they knew they have every right to hurt you. So they think your strong rejection of them means you love them.

Same act; different meaning.

Reincarnationally speaking, we do awful things to each other sometimes. Sometimes we send simultaneous, alternate incarnations to do the dirty work for us. You may live a happy normal life, while your “alts” are busy killing each other for your love life… Kid you not, but that said, a killing can have two meanings: 1) “I love you, and I’d forgive everything.” or “I TRUST your love for me; therefore, I dare to kill you.” and 2) “I know you love me, but I reject your love by killing you.” SOMEHOW, that message will be received correctly, ONLY IF you know that all the hurt they caused you was in their intention of showing you they ACCEPT your love and are ready to “play rough,” but you reject the offer.

I am sure, however, that very vivid visualizations and imagining killing someone will also do the trick, AS LONG AS you have correctly received the message of love or love rejected.

Some people are quite commonly the targets of one-sided love… Makes things difficult.

Here is the problem. There are people who are often targets of one-sided love, and thus, targets of “calls to play” that are much harsher than what their love-hormones give them ability to bear. Therefore, they’ve learned to fear violence, whether emotional or physical. Therefore, they get HURT in being the target of people’s love games that they are not a willing party to. That makes THEM treat their loved ones with more care than what true love is meant for, and that makes their True Emotion Mirrors feel less loved than what they should be. They also won’t be able to truly express rejection to those who they need to reject, as they may have been targeted by people who they never loved so often they literally had no time to bond with someone they truly loved.

It’s also difficult to read a message of love from someone you merely think is “OK.” You just don’t connect the dots.

People who are often targets of one-sided love, and you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out who those people are – you have to tread carefully with them at first. Make SURE they know you love them, IN WORDS, first. Words maybe quite enough for some people, but don’t profess love that you’re not willing to take to a grave… By his or her hand.

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