TLOTTW:The importance of dissatisfaction

Again, I’m going to pull the rug underneath  you all and tell you that the ban on dissatisfaction has been lifted. :p Spiritual and sometimes psychological approaches often promote the importance of positive thinking, but I say that everything will come at it’s own pace, and dissatisfaction is one of the most important emotions in the pathway to a positive change. All it is is a notification email to the Universe saying: “Excuse me, but I’m getting annoyed with my life and I need a change.” This is an important phase, but one that we cannot get stuck on; we must then move forward to the dreaming phase, to tell the Universe (God) what it is that we wish to experience instead. Dissatisfaction along the lines of “I’m never getting what I want, ever!” and then feeling secretly smug and happy about being right about that little fact will get you more displeasing stuff.

Dissatisfaction is an emotion that always precedes change and evolution. Without dissatisfaction change is mild, almost unnoticeable if it exists at all. The less satisfied you are, and the clearer goal you have for the “instead”, the clearer your message is to the Universe. Granted, it would be dumb to start harbouring dissatisfaction just to make a point; it’s much more important to keep your eye on the positive goal than any negative, but don’t panic if you feel like complaining every once and a while! If you are always simply satisfied with whatever is thrown in your way, you’ll end up getting the same ol’ same ol’ indefinitely. We get what we believe we deserve, we accept what we think we deserve, and if we focus on the positive as a psychological practise, we are likely to downplay our dissatisfaction and needs and exaggerate the positives and the “I already have everything” point of view.

When it comes to spiritual relationships, our dissatisfaction is being watered down by advice such as “You are paying back karma to your soul mate” or “The separation is an illusion, we never really part with our True Emotion Mirror.” Both are bullshit. The karma in question is merely up to you, when you FEEL you have had enough. When you decide that Okay, I’ve had enough, I’m done, I deserve something better than this! Separation, yes, we can be in contact with our soulmates even on a daily basis and hug and kiss their spirit, but it simply does not add up to the real life relationship, does it?! We can have all that connection AND a physical relationship, so no wonder we’re dissatisfied with the way things are – and justifiably and importantly so! Otherwise the Universe will think that this is exactly the way you want to have this; sweet longing and turmoil that will certainly teach you how much you love the person you can’t have!

Then, there’s always the higher wish. This is where karma comes in. It’s not really karma, it’s just your higher wish, your truest want. You might want a bit of drama to make the reunion sweeter. People are masochists by nature, and God has stopped trying to understand our wishes and motivations a long time ago and just go with the flow. Give them what they want, even if it sounds like the dumbest idea ever! (Truth be told, he has never given us anything we didn’t want or invite, we have free will, but you get the idea; he makes no judgement on what you are asking for.) Your highest wish is the one keeping you at bay when you want to move forward. You are kept from ruining your own true want in life, and everything is fine as long as your highest wish is truly yours; often it isn’t. Often, our highest wish is to act and behave in the way that we are seen proper and respectable or lovable. That being the case, as they say; good girls go to heaven, bad girls go wherever the fuck they want – this is the essence of how this works. If your highest wish is to be good, your options are very limited. If you wish to be bad, your options are less limited but limited still, if you don’t care about good or bad, but aim for authenticity, your options are limited by your imagination only.

Back to dissatisfaction; explore it. Know where it comes from, identify it and point your finger at the cause: “I don’t want this no more.” Then allow yourself to find an alternative. What would make things better? What is the first thing you need to change, right now to make things better? Would you believe, to me it’s this website. 😀 I cannot reunite with my soulmates until this website is in such a condition I can pretty much leave it be for the next 3 months and it’ll still be fresh and relevant when I get back to it. I tell you this, because I want to point out that sometimes the thing that needs to be in place has nothing to do with your relationship at all…

Think about it. What peeves you right now?

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