The Law of The Truest Wish doesn’t actually work as a force of the Universe. Neither does prayer. What happens, is that people who care about us, or who feel a debt of gratitude towards us because we’ve helped them before, may feel the need to make your dreams come true, and to protect you from harm the same way they experienced you to do for them in a previous life, this one, or several. This may sound like good karma coming your way, but it won’t necessarily feel that way.

If it feels to you that you’re always getting what you fear or you get the OPPOSITE of what you want, you may have a soulmate or a guardian that reacts to wishes in a very different way than you do. For one thing, they may not be able to recognize your true wishes at all, therefore they load your life with everything THEY would want, even if that is nothing of what you want. Secondly, they may connect the fear to your wishes because they are pessimists and you are an optimist. Your wishes may not come wrapped up with fear, whilst their own wishes would: “I am afraid THIS will never happen even though I want it to” or “I am SURE this will never happen because I am just so unlucky.”

Obviously, if you are the kind that feels wishes through fear, your spirit guides might be the kind that will protect you from anything you fear, therefore they block out everything you feel excited about thinking that is something you fear would happen (but that you might feel destined for – destined, as in unable to help your fate from happening). When you’ve got one of those and another one who only connects to fearful wishes, one who wishes you’d honor the pledge you made to God at the age of 6, you’ve got your life canceled.

The Law of The Truest Wish doesn’t follow your logical thought, it follows emotion. Therefore, everything that you fear connects in your guide’s mind as something you fear will never happen, and that will come about in your life. The remedy may be very simple. Instead of wishing for stuff, start finding the negative in it: “Oh gosh, what if in 2 weeks time I will be swamped in paying customers so that I will have to turn people away, I don’t know how I’d handle something like that, it would be awful!” “Oh my god, what if I’d get like two or three perfect job offers and I wouldn’t know at all which one to choose… I don’t know how I could manage something like that!” “Oh My God, what if I’d fall in love like with three people at the same time and wouldn’t know which one to choose…! What if there’d be like soooo much sex on offer for me that I’d completely lose my reputation because I wouldn’t be able to resist any of them and… oh Dear Lord!”

The funny thing is, you can feel the LOTTW starting to work for you. It is a non-conscious process that answers to the right note for your guides rather than a logical process: “Well he/she said this is what he/she wants.” If you SAY something out loud to your guides (who are most likely your mother, your father, your siblings, your best friends, or relatives) the chances of it manifesting will be a lot higher. Unfortunately, not everyone is close to the very people who would die to help them (I’m one of them) the secret wishes remain secrets and the guides won’t know what to bring into your life to turn your eternal grumpiness into happiness. “No matter what we give him/her, they’re always unhappy!!” It is rare anyone would confess to their parents that the one thing they wish they could have in this life is to have a delicious sex life! To boot, a lot of people are completely reluctant to face their sexual side; if this is your parents, the last thing they want is to inflict you with that nasty stuff and protect you from everyone who might light up all your neurones like a Christmas tree. The more your life looks like that of your parent’s ideal, the more reason you will have to start airing out your displeasure in their face, no matter how weird that might get… (I say that but would never do myself, there has got to be a better answer than talking to your parents, right? I, for one, moved to the other side of the world. One would think your parent’s grip lets off a little, right? No. Fuck no. I’m as safe as I was when I was 4 years old because my parents are scared shitless. The minute that my feet touched the ground of the Helsinki-Vantaa airport last year, they relaxed and within 24 hours I was in a new guy’s bed, but 7 years abroad… Boring… What is also telling, is that this guy was like a combination of my mother’s and my own, finally very loud demands on what my guy should be like, combining to this; A Sebastian Bach / Legolas lookalike, whose mother was a former employee of the same company as my mother, to my mother, a clear indicator of a great upbringing and a reliable nature. She always thought the kids of the Nordea Bank employees ranked up there with the Royals. Him and me couldn’t disagree more. Also, his birthday was 3 days from mine, a residue of my True Emotion Mirror sign obsession, and also the obsession I have for Steven Tyler, another Aries, but there’s just one problem: I wasn’t going to stay in Finland, no matter what – and my parents figured if anything would make me stay it would be a guy. They wouldn’t, however, allow me to find the guy who would have had the power to make me stay because he has as itchy feet as I do.)

You wouldn’t believe the extent to which the negative LOTTW works when your spirit guides are made up of people who simply do not understand a word you’re saying, let alone a thought you only half-thought. For instance… My friend loves hospitals. She loves feeling important, and the best way to feel important is to get sick. I think about my genitalia a lot. When my attention is on my genitals – and I trust you to understand why that would be – she figures I want an illness to strike that area of  my body so I can get them looked at by the doctor. I’m fairly certain she also connects the “playing doctor” fantasy to that, which would go right into her area of fetishes. Nothing says “hot” quite like a swollen genital gland, right? I’m rarely sick in any other way, but I’ve had the weirdest stuff go wrong in that area of my body, and admittingly the part of my body that I wish nothing but the best health for. I wish that would end there like this paragraph about it, but it doesn’t.

Leaving the part of sickness, let’s add the fact that this same friend thinks I find it exciting to be dodging the unemployment people who are looking for reasons to cancel my unemployment check rather than, for instance, directing enough Tarot-reading clients my way to help me keep myself afloat while I work on this very thing right here. Needless to say, I needed that type of “entertainment” like a hole in my head.

What motivates those who care about you?

In your case… Include your fans. Jealousy, of course. About you and your preferred gender, of course. There are fans who wish you’ll meet someone beautiful but nightmarish so that you’ll wind up single again knowing that beauty isn’t everything, paving their way to you. They might all work as goalkeepers in your life to ensure they’ll be the one to get to you first… The hotter you are, the less likely it is that you’ll find lasting love because of this.

How about writing that second hit album. Eeeveryone has their idea of how you’d be better. Your record company has one idea, your fans have another, you have the third. They all want to be proven right about you and your character and career prospects. The more they bet on you, the more they want to control the outcome.

The cure? Want something so bad no matter who stands in your way you’ll make it happen by sheer force of will. Also, complaints are good here, too. A heart-wrenching admission that you can’t find the love of your life, will melt enough hearts to bring love to you – but if you’re anything like me, you won’t say a word until every oppressor is defeated, trampled half a meter deep into the ground. This will be good for your manifestation powers in your next life, the less people think they can control what happens to you, the more freedom you have in choosing who you surround yourself with – people who want for you what you want, because it is also what they want for themselves; such as the person who you’d most like to be with wanting to be with you the most, too.

One thing that I need to mention, though, is that people can’t change what you want for you. They can only chance what you get and have an easy access to. Your wishes are your own, also your emotions, the best others can do is to make you think you SHOULD want something or someone or point out an arousing thing about something, but if your energy doesn’t resonate with the point brought forward, you won’t be affected by it. Your emotions cannot be controlled, only the events and externals can be manipulated. You can be made and manipulated to act as if you were in love with someone, but they can’t change your true feelings. (You know, take her to dinner and movies, bring her flowers and chocolate, say nice things about her, and go Instagram official with her…)

Some very harmful emotions to your ability to work and build the life you want: “I should listen to my fans and what they want.” (This ideal can be exploited because everyone will have a conflicting view.) “I should lower my standards a little… I’m impossible.” (This will force you to lower your standards to whomever wants to take advantage of your lowered standards.) “I am not doing this for money.” (You will be given a lot of chances to prove that you are not doing things for the money.) “I am not vain or shallow.” (You will be given a lot of opportunities to prove that, too, and no opportunity to get everything you want regardless of your noble ideals.) “My success is not about my looks; you can do this no matter what you look like!” (A noble sentiment, but  you’ll be given the chance to prove that losing your looks wouldn’t have a negative effect on your career.)

Dangerous support and dangerous friends

A lot of people hold the ideal of showing support to the disadvantaged. Whoever you make friends with, will gradually become more and more like you unless that tie is broken. What this means is this; you will always become a median of your closest friends and supporters. Therefore; if you are a supermodel and make a heartfelt video in support of the obese women, they may lose a pound as a result, while you will gain a f*** load. The more seriously they take you, the harder time you will have maintaining your former looks; after all, you’re THEIR friend now, too. Building bridges is not necessarily smart if you live on a mountain of gold. Some people WILL come get your gold (friends share everything), while some will respect your life and stay out of it, but if you’re addressing the masses, you know there will be thieves in there.

OK, what about a man declaring his love for fat girls, especially if he, on the other hand, puts down the good looking girls as shallow and narcissistic for instance? You can bet your sweet ass you belong to the fat chicks now.

An insincere kind word here and there may cost you more harm than you could ever anticipate. The more someone needs kindness, the more weight your words will carry, and the more they will clutch onto you as a result. Act out of love, true authentic love, but never from pity or contempt, or guilt. Love means that you do want to give everything you have to these people and that you will, genuinely, want to share your good fortune with them. It would be smart to keep that group relatively small.

Erasing guilt and shame

The only purpose for the feelings of guilt and shame is control. Controlling yourself or others, that is. Others controlling you if you fail. Also, be very aware of the fact that if you attach guilt and shame into yourself for something, and you want to change your mind about it later, your people are not going to let you off the hook so easily. Like my ‘god’ told me: “You have spent a thousand years helping others, thriving towards minimalism and asceticism, giving everything you’ve got to everyone else who needs it; how am I supposed to think you’ve actually changed your mind about it now, rather than hold you to your own pledge that you made to make sure you will not stray?” “Fuck it, I’m done” wasn’t a sufficient answer. 😉

Guilt and shame are not the motivations that you should have for an action. You should be able to do nice things for others because they inspire that in you, not as an act of charity for people who you feel are not really, authentically, lovable. I am sure you know the difference of feeling, when you give something to someone who feels truly grateful and blessed for it – that is joyful giving, but when you are half forced to give something out of guilt… Never a nice feeling. Therefore, the feelings of guilt and shame can be used to manipulate and abuse you, and to control your actions. Whatever you do for others should come through ANY other motivation other than guilt, fear, or shame.

I’ll leave you with that thought.

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