To the Survivalist*, what you want is not the goal, but more a distraction

A Survivalist*, when setting goals, don’t see what they want as a goal, like the Idealists* does. An the Idealists* states: “I want X”, and that is the same as “I am driven to get X. X is my goal,” but the Survivalist* says: “I want X, it is a problem in my route to my goal, Y.” Why Y is their goal, is that they don’t actually want Y, what they want, is to PLEASE OTHERS. Therefore, they’ve lost the connection between what they want and what their master wants – think of a dog. He might want to play outside, but his master wants him by his side, and pleasing his master comes first to a dog… Every time.

A Survivalist* sees their family members as their master. Their same-gender parent, most likely. Therefore, mothers try to help their daughters to please them, fathers help their sons to please them. Sometimes the master is the father, (this is very culturally decided,) sometimes the beautiful daughter of the family, but the master is never the person themselves – to the Survivalist*. Therefore, if someone “runs away from home”, to the Survivalist*, it means the runaway doesn’t know how to please their family – not that the runaway didn’t like to serve his family and wanted to find better masters – to put it in the Survivalist* language.

the Idealists* are driven by their romantic goals, more than pleasing their family. They are unlikely to marry someone their family approves of. To the Survivalist*, this is illogical behavior, because they assume everyone’s main goal is to please their family and the leader of that family. The Idealists* feel the Survivalist* are acting illogically, because they are always making a huge deal about what they want but won’t allow themselves, what they’ve sacrificed, and missed out on. This is the Survivalist*’s way of saying: “You are more important to me than all my dreams and wants”, while a Idealists* hears: “You are the cause of my unhappiness, and I hate you for it.”

An the Idealists* doesn’t understand why anyone would put their dreams and wants aside for another person whom they love – how can you even love a person who demands the death of your dreams? To a Idealists*, everyone’s dreams are their master, and anyone who tries to stop that flow of energy is a cruel, vicious, bad person.

the Survivalist* can marry another person directly after meeting their True Emotion Mirror – as a sign of sacrifices, they are willing to make for their master – whomever their master. An the Idealists* would NEVER, marry another person apart from their True Emotion Mirror unless they felt their loved one didn’t feel the same way about them… After spending years trying to make that connection work. A Survivalist* will even parade their true heart’s desire in front of their intended, as a sign of being able to resist the temptation for their spouse’s sake. To them, a True Emotion Mirror is the greatest sacrifice, not the one they put ahead of everybody else as a Idealists* feels. An the Idealists* loves their True Emotion Mirror more than their child, and it is their child alone who might be a reason enough to turn away from a True Emotion Mirror, but the child would have to be in mortal danger for that. Otherwise, the child simply has to adjust.

Usually, a bolt-lock situation is when the Survivalist* master tries to convince a Idealists* that they haven’t lost faith in the Idealists*, and he or she can still return back to the fold and take their place in the line of sacrifices made for the master. A suggestion a Idealists* scoffs at and is more likely to kill (the reputation of) the master than sacrifice his or her dreams for the master.

Along with these same lines, the Survivalist* may treat a Idealists* poorly, to lower the Idealists*’s expectations as to how much effort serving the master takes. “Look, I’m not that good with you, either, you don’t have to be perfect for me, see? I’m not that great with you, either… Right?”

Therefore, if someone seems to act illogically to you, the chances are their goal in life is not the same as yours. Their goal may be to satisfy their instincts, urges, desires, wants, and dreams… And that their goal in life IS NOT what you expect it to be.

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