True Emotion Mirror or a simple rejection junkie – here’s the key points

The first question that enters the mind of a True Emotion Mirror soon after they meet their other half is “Oh my god. I’m going crazy. I think they’re in love with me too? Are they in love with me? Am I imagining this?” They are always worried that they are projecting their own feelings, or that they are making themselves believe something romantic is happening when truly, it isn’t. They are afraid they are being narcissistic to think a person this amazing would be in love with them, too, and they worry that if they make too bold a move, they’ll make a complete ass out of themselves in front of a person they TRULY don’t want to screw up their chances with. They don’t want to take any risks, so they usually keep their cards so close to the chest their True Emotion Mirror doesn’t even know they’re interested… At the same time as they’re afraid they’re being SOOOO obvious saying “hi” starts to sound like “I want to have my babies with you.”

The question in a Rejection Junkie’s mind isn’t “oh I wonder if they are in love with me as much as I am in love with them”, but “They’re not in love with me. Why are they not in love with me? How do I make them realize being in love with me would be the best thing for them.” A Rejection Junkie reacts to the LACK of emotion in another person, NOT to the conflict of massive feelings and conflicting actions. They KNOW this person isn’t in love with them, but they NEED them to be. It is not that they can’t believe this person isn’t in love with them, they can’t believe they can’t MAKE THEM fall in love with them.

The only similar feeling the Rejection Junkie and the True Emotion Mirror connection rises is the feeling of wanting to rescue the other person from others – albeit that the Rejection Junkies “rescue mission” is really more like a kidnapping than a rescue operation.

The Rejection Junkie thinks they can “fix” that person

First, I must stress that in the case of a Rejection Junkie, the object of their interest is NOT a True Emotion Mirror, but any attractive person, most likely an Enigma. They easily explain the Runner’s disinterest and reluctance by concluding that there is something wrong with this person if they are not responding to the interest of the Rejection Junkie. “I love you, why don’t you love me back? I’ll teach you to feel something.” (Curiously, I think the Rejection Junkie would rarely use the phrase “in love with”, but will rather use “I love” phrasing.)

The Rejection Junkie dismisses all and any other affections their object feels as “infatuation”, “simple sexual interest”, “something/someone easy”, “puppy love”, “physical/superficial” or other dismissal that gives them a reason to keep chasing them and to insist that they themselves have something bigger, better, and higher of value to offer.

In reality, the likelihood that there’s anything actually wrong with the object of their interest is very slim. The reality is that the Rejection Junkie wants to justify their obsession by any means necessary, including the Twin Flame concept, to explain their love is heightened, more spiritual, and more valuable than any other type of love this person could experience.

The Rejection Junkie accuses the Runner of having intimacy issues or commitment phobia

The Rejection Junkie is also quick to explain this person’s disinterest with issues with intimacy or commitment phobia. A True Emotion Mirror will not. They’ll have a million reasons, none of which accuse their object. They may gently think their object might have not “gotten the memo” yet, but they don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong about them simply because they don’t react to the Chaser the way they expected them to. More likely, they simply feel utterly confused about how they cannot figure this relationship out, and how both of them are acting completely immaturely around each other.

In contrast, the Rejection Junkie is feeling self-confident, mature, sure of themselves, and like they know exactly what love is about while smugly thinking it’s the “runner” who is the problem individual.

A Rejection Junkie feels they’ve got the right of ownership

A True Emotion Mirror is never obsessively possessive about their counterpart. They get a bit possessive, and they may feel even obsessively in love, they feel they have an obsession and that they cannot forget this person or let go, but they don’t feel like they have to protect their property from other people. They may FEAR someone else will “cut in”, but they never TRULY fear to lose that person, for two reasons: One being that they KNOW this person loves them, as unlikely as it may seem, and secondly, they feel that IF that other person isn’t in love with them, they are free to go, anyway.

A Rejection Junkie is obsessively possessive about their conquest. They are looking over their shoulder constantly trying to spot any rival suitors, whether male or female. They feel like if the object of their interest shows interest in someone else, that someone else is a) pushing onto their territory and b) trying to steal something belonging to them. They also KNOW they have every chance of losing that person because they are not in love with them… YET, thinks the Rejection Junkie, who also feels others should respect their interest enough to give them a chance of wooing this person properly, even against the Runner’s clearly expressed wishes.

A True Emotion Mirror will startle at ANY generic sign not applying to them…

While a Rejection Junkie will justify their obsession with something very minor, sounding like “but that one day we both wore a blue shirt to work” -level of minor, the True Emotion Mirror will startle at ALL and ANY signs that they might have gotten this all wrong. They may read a list of 100 True Emotion Mirror signs, and get all 99 perfect, but the phrasing of the 100th feels a bit off and they figure: “That’s it! I’m imagining this! I knew it!” (And now, after reading this, they’ll go… Well… There were at least 4 points that didn’t match EXACTLY… After reading my entire site. :p)

In short, it seems to be REALLY tough to convince a Rejection Junkie that they’re wasting their time, and equally difficult to convince a True Emotion Mirror that they are not. (And again, dear True Emotion Mirrors, it’s not THAT specific, and at some stage, you WILL regain your confidence and figure out how to handle this… Although for some of us it took 20 years of thinking it through…)

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