True Emotion Mirror runner – fear of embarrassment

When True Emotion Mirrors meet, the start of this relationship is often blissful. However, even the smallest of bumps can derail it beyond repair if you don’t know how to fix it. The BEST RULE to follow for your own end is “do not run”, no matter HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO throw in the towel, do not run. However, there’s this: If this is not your True Emotion Mirror, and your refuse to run, you may wind up dead for it, (I’m not kidding) so make sure you have identified them correctly. Therefore, if physical violence becomes a part of this; run. It is not a safe thing to play with it, when you’re having issues otherwise. (BDSM-type of play, however, is a different thing, if you’re BOTH blissfully happy after a scuffle, it’s all good.)

Even if you follow the rule “do not run, do not close doors, don’t burn bridges” you cannot control what your True Emotion Mirror does, which is a reality you must accept. The only thing you can control is your own end of things. Too many people try to control their True Emotion Mirror, their behavior, and their reactions when they should be controlling themselves.

It may take you time to figure out what’s going on with the other person, and even yourself; a True Emotion Mirror brings up behaviors you haven’t felt doing ever with anyone else before. You’ll simultaneously feel more comfortable than ever, and possibly as insecure and afraid as you’ve ever felt before; you fear that you’ll do something wrong and the whole thing is a bust… Which it may be. Often, what a True Emotion Mirror needs to hear from you is that you won’t run from them, that they can afford to make mistakes and it’s fine… But don’t make that promise until you know you will keep it – at least until you’re willing to burn all bridges there ever was and walk away for good – not just ready to FORCE yourself to, because “this is stupid”.

For social media and phones; don’t block them. And for as long as there’s some communication line open, keep talking to them. Sometimes it’s best to keep the topics light, and sometimes the best thing you can do is to let them know you’re still there. It is also perfectly OK for you to use the easiest route to talking to them; make it to be about sex if you need to, or be casual about a mutual interest, anything. Lower the threshold as low as you need for them to keep walking over it.

Try to abolish the requirements of pride when it comes to your True Emotion Mirror. Try to control the feelings of embarrassment and shame – you know, people’s worst fear is not rejection, being dumped, failure, or any of that usual stuff; it’s the feeling of embarrassment. The embarrassment of rejection, being dumped, failure, even the embarrassment of getting yourself killed in a stupid accident, rather than the accident itself. There are people so afraid of embarrassing themselves, that they’ll wind up dead avoiding it, “I’m not going to embarrass myself by showing fear and running a few steps…” BANG. Ayway.

The point is, you’ll fear embarrassment, your friends sneering at you for your desperation, having to explain to your parents why you let this a-hole/bitch treat you this way, all that. The embarrassment you feel thinking someone might have loved you – that you might have found TRUE LOVE?! (What an idiot.) You’ll feel like saving face by dumping them when you still have some dignity left.

Don’t.

This is the price of true love. Sticking through the embarrassment of it. The price of good sex is the embarrassment of having to admit to what you want and accepting yourself as a person who’d want it that way, and the price of true love is facing the embarrassment of how far you’d go to keep it. So there you go.

Do not fucken run.

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