(True Emotion Mirror) Running phases by Spirit Mirror types

The running phase dynamics, reasons and nuances change a little between Spirit Mirror Types, and although on surface they look the same, a closer look will reveal the true  nature of a relationship based on the reasons why the partners “run”. The Running phase can be renamed depending on which type of Mirror bond is in question:

Enigmas (Denial phase)

Characteristic to Enigmas is that the elusive Enigma, as in the Enigma Runner is of a higher Soul Age level than the Chaser, and thus more evolved as a human being. They have more needs, more refined needs than the Chaser understands, and therefore they feel genuinely and justifiably superior to the Chaser, although they might feel guilty for those feelings. This creates a situation very similar to True Mirror runner/chaser, but here is the difference; An Enigma Chaser feels that the Enigma Runner is unjustifiably feeling superior and that they should get off their high horse and smell the roses. The Runner feels the Chaser is narcissistic and full of themselves and that although their talent is undeniable, they cannot base a relationship on talent and skill that has nothing to do with true love. There is a LOT of resentment in the feelings of the Chaser, while the Runner remains less affected by the feelings, less or completely unaffected depending on the level of the Partial bond that they share. (Low to high.) The Runner is the one who sees the situation clearly in this scenario, but has hard time explaining why they can’t be together to the Chaser. Usually the Runner tries to explain the situation calmly at first (which may go unnoticed by a very young soul such as an Infant Soul) and in some situations if the Chaser is relentless the Enigma Runner has to really drive the message home. The Chaser feels resentment towards the Runner’s lack of acknowledgement where as a True Mirror would fear that the Runner has a good reason to not love them, but still believes in their heart that they do. A True Mirror won’t feel resentment for rejection, but rather sadness, shame and heart ache, but no resentment. An Enigma Chaser will feel a blow to their ego, but a True Mirror feels the rejection is perhaps unwise but still perfectly understandable.

Partial Mirror (instant) (Evaluation phase)

When we meet a Partial Mirror that we already know without hesitation to be a Partial Mirror we go through something that I’d describe as an evaluation phase; we know what’s lacking, but we also see the good that is in the relationship, and we compare all of this to our situation and our values, our goals and dreams and make an assessment on whether or this is enough to make you completely satisfied or not and if it doesn’t, do you want to settle for nearly satisfied or not. (Note that “satisfied” is different to “fulfilled”.) The Evaluation phase is most often very logical and reasonable; adult. There is no heightened emotions, mostly romantic wishes and marriage and children are high on the list of considerations. The Evaluation phase decides whether a person should be considered a Partial Mirror or a virtual stranger. Partial Mirrors are very likely to keep returning in future incarnations because they do have a role to fill (such as father/mother of your children or a pure f*** buddy “sacral Mirror“), but ‘virtual strangers’ won’t be likely to make permanent returns. If the other party decides that what is on offer is not enough to fulfil their ultimate wish for love relationship, the Evalution phase will end in a breakup and it is up to the left party to get over it otherwise they’ll be stuck in an Enigma Chaser -denial phase. (Typical to Partial Mirror Evaluation phase is that it happens while in a relationship of some description, not outside of it.)

Undecided Mirror (Judgement phase)

An Undecided Spirit Mirror running phase can happen within a relationship or outside of it, or very typically in an on-again-off again relationship, where each partner picks on the other’s flaws and short comings while still completely in love with them, balancing their own ideals and society’s ideals against their love for this person. The question is; “Can I allow this person to become a part of me, this person who is so wrong but is so right at the same time?” This is where most love songs come from; the point in which the other partner decides: “No I cannot” pushing the other in the Partial Mirror category while the other one is moving towards True Mirror category, running the risk of getting stuck in the Enigma Chaser Denial Phase. When the love exceeds the flaws, the flaws become like a treat, they become part of the excitement in the relationship; like you were naughty loving a person like this, like you broke rules going for someone so wrong, and the process of matching and braiding your new ideals together starts, and you start to move towards a True Mirror category.

(As a personal note; My mother is in a permanent Judgement Phase with me, whilst I am decidedly Partial Mirror to her, so this is an interesting kink; these phases do work in other type of relationships too, not just in romantic relationships.)

True Mirror (Fear/Doubt phase)

Typical to True Mirror running is the motivation of fears and doubts attacking from all corners – the Runner is confronted by our cultural notions of what true love should be like (Partial Mirror -love) and everything that doesn’t add up makes them feel like walking on thin ice on a sea full of monsters. They doubt themselves: “I am not good enough for them” and they doubt their lover: “They can’t possibly be as good as they seem.” “They don’t really love me, I don’t really love them.” The Runner rationalizes their way out of this relationship and our culture gives them plenty of sensible ammo to do that, too. Typical to the True Mirror Fear phase is that it happens outside of the relationship because both partners are too afraid to confess love or to even risk saying something to each other out of fear of sounding stupid or too obvious, they feel like their emotions are so obvious that even a blind fool could see how much they love and want the other, but even though everyone else could see it, the other one always doubts the love of the other to some degree, even if they KNEW it in their heart to be true, there’s either fear or rationale telling them that this is not true love. Typically to this type of  Mirrors, they get mixed signals from everywhere, they say one thing and the other hears another, they use half-sentences, innuendo and body language and sometimes telepathy to tell the other how they feel, but the other one tends to misinterpret them due to their own insecurities and fears. Usually full of misunderstandings and conflict, but due to complete and utter love, devotion and desire for the other person. True Mirror can rationalize the other all the way to Undecided Mirror Judgement Phase if they try hard enough, but will always return to a True Mirror outcome eventually – in this life time or the next; usually this, but do they say anything still is another matter entirely.

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