True Emotion Mirror (TrEmor) description

They look at each other with wide open eyes, looking for something they don’t adore about each other, and see nothing but perfection. They can see the flaws, the traits that the society would call imperfections, but to them, they are perfect imperfections. If they want to improve something about each other, it’s the wish to erase a form of oppression or self-doubt and to liberate each other to be more of what they already are. They want to pamper and enable, corrupt and spoil each other… And by definition of this connection, the feeling is mutual. If it isn’t mutual but otherwise fits, it’s an Enigma-crush.

This is important; you’ve fallen in love with this person because of the person they are, NOT BECAUSE they gave you attention or were friendly to you, personally. You’re also not in love with them because you think THEY COULD give you attention or be friendly to you, you simply love them regardless of how they feel about you. If this doesn’t apply,  that is, again, an Enigma-crush.

The Mature State True Emotion Mirror relationship is the most developed of all soulmate connections. It combines TWO of the most powerful connection points, that each alone are enough to create a strong connection, but combined, it creates this magical soul bond: First, these people love everything about each other, they are each other’s full counterparts. This is the most important part. Secondly, they’ve spent lifetimes and lifetimes together. The first is the most important factor, as time can always be added, but true compatibility is inborn. Time alone WILL NOT create this bond, the full compatibility is the first requirement, but time, the shared history, matures the connection fully. Even True Emotion Mirrors meet for the first time the first time, so I’ve described new and undeveloped connections separately.

The True Emotion Mirror relationship requires a high-level of self-acceptance to even get going, sexuality being at the epicenter of it. Therefore, it appears at different development stages throughout one person’s reincarnation cycle. It is notable, that many people have no experience of the True Emotion Mirror relationship in any of their incarnations so far, therefore, people are prone to trying to snap others out from the fantasy that this is real. People with no experience of this are also prone to feeling nervous or scared of the True Emotion Mirror couple or soup, as they bring out each other’s true selves, and their Trail Companions* are not going to like that.

Stranger than fiction

The True Emotion Mirror relationship often begins with love at first sight. I have never seen any fictional love story that would exaggerate or over-state what this love relationship is like. If anything, fictional love stories fail to fully describe what it is, simply because, for people who haven’t experienced it, this love seems entirely… Well, made up. Writing the entirety of it would alienate a chunk of the audience, as they’d think the story is simply over-romanticised and unrealistic. The closest equivalent of it doesn’t come from romcoms (often Main Trap Couple -descriptions) but from fantasy novels and movies. It is the stuff that turns men into heroes and women into… Well, real women.

Let me just say that again… No matter how incredible a fictional love story makes love out to be, it cannot exaggerate what this is. Telepathy and shared dreams included. This connection is unsurpassable. It has lasted lifetimes and it will last an unforeseeable amount more of them. It is both the most durable of soulmate connections and the most fragile one. A thousand things can go wrong, but the connection is never truly broken.

Love You For Your Flaws, Not Despite of Them

The most descriptive part of this connection is, that the couple or soup loves each other BECAUSE of their flaws, not despite of them. They are fully aware of each other’s flaws, but they find these flaws exciting: “I love the way they break the rules!” They feel relieved that they also find “support” for their own quirks, the True Emotion Mirrors different the same way. They’d naturally gravitate towards each other’s interests, too, because they are interested in the things for the same reason. Even if they don’t share all the hobbies, their interest will be awakened by their True Emotion Mirror, who simply talks about what they’re interested in in the way that their counterpart(s) naturally understand and feel connected with.

Many people believe loving someone DESPITE their flaws is the height of love, and while you may argue that, it is not a True Emotion Mirror connection if that is the feeling. I’ll allow one or two minor things that get in the way, mostly physical in nature: “I wish you were older, younger, taller, skinnier…” These things will sort themselves out, as this is more of a spiritual/cerebral love affair than physical, although it is a very sexual connection. Having said that, a person who loves pretty people can automatically assume their True Emotion Mirror feels the same way, so they’re usually in agreement on the ideal physical beauty standards and what they consider sexy, as that part is cerebral.

The sexual chemistry will surpass the physical, and although it is likely that they are attractive in the same way if that is not the case, the spiritual/cerebral sexual chemistry will win over the physical “flaws”. They can also easily develop fetishes over each other’s physical quirks.

Development

This connection develops in a logical order in terms of reincarnations. It has a start somewhere – although most True Emotion Mirrors wouldn’t have a clue when it started. It has taken eons to develop, and it will keep growing further. It is not an accident or a ready-made obvious thing, the love is earned through countless of lifetimes of being good for each other… But that doesn’t mean there was never any pain or fighting involved, quite the opposite.

To be quite honest, all other soulmate types are potentially just a lead up to this. POTENTIALLY. I wouldn’t hang onto a lackluster relationship in the hopes that this is the case, but I’ll add it as a side note.

Full acceptance of who you both/all are

This connection requires you either to fully agree on what you don’t approve in people and humanity or a full acceptance of yourself and each other. This makes this a very difficult relationship type to master. The more your Trail Companions* (and the society at large) try to state their opinion on who you should be, the more difficult it will be to join your lives together.

You will have to accept yourself and each other for whatever you are. Good, bad, sexually perverted, mean, vicious and angelic. You’ll have to accept needing someone else, being weak in the presence of someone who you want to admire you, you’ll have to allow yourself to think that this person cares for you even though you are not sure you’re fit to polish their shoes for them. This part should come in time, you’ll need to sort this through yourself, a (years long) soul conversation may fix this.

Often, resources guiding people like this together teach you to become the most angelic possible variation of who you are because people feel this love is too good for a mere mortal. The natural instinct is to try and be “a better person” than what you are by EVERYONE ELSE’s standard… However, your True Emotion Mirror loves you for you, not for some bizarre fictional saint-character. This is why the closer to perfection you manage to train yourself to squeeze into, the less likely it is that you’ll find your way together. (Remove the mental corset and liberate yourself for a reunion.)

Self-confidence

It also requires on iron fast self-confidence, but no ego against that person. That is a tricky balance to make, as it requires “full emotional nudity”. All attempts to save face or to guard yourself or hide parts of yourself from your TrEmor(s) is going to drive a wedge between you.

Once you are faced with the absolute perfection that, in your eyes, is your True Emotion Mirror, ANYONE will feel hesitant to trust oneself to be enough. As our culture often requires modesty from people, for people to train oneselves to always sell oneself short and give others more credit than they might deserve, we tend to think less of ourselves than what is actually realistic. This causes the unfortunate result, that once you meet your True Emotion Mirror, you will rate yourself a 9 and them a full 10 (and then some if possible) and that can lead to both partners thinking the other is just too good.

Self-acceptance and self-confidence must be worked on for this couple or soup to come together.

Immensely lucky to have the other, no matter what

Both partners feel incredibly lucky to have the other one in their lives. They should feel lucky just to know the other person, let alone be in a relationship with them. If one of them feels short-changed or like they sacrificed themselves somehow, it is not a True Emotion Mirror relationship. This applies no matter what the situation. If one of them is in a wheelchair, the other feels lucky they’re still alive, not like they’re sacrificing themselves to take care of this person making them feel like a saint doing so. The able-bodied half should feel like anyone would be proud to be their lovers’ caretaker, and they’d feel privileged to be that person – no burdened to.

No matter how selfish, ill-fitted you’d feel to take care of anyone, with your True Emotion Mirrors, it becomes a privilege. You can always love people, you always care about people, but you’d WISH you didn’t have to do this, you’d wish that the disability would go away, but with a True Emotion Mirror, the feeling is always gratitude and joy of still having them with you. The ONLY exception to this rule is with polygamous True Emotion Mirrors who are trying to force themselves into monogamy, and the other True Emotion Mirror is known to them. THAT is the only time when a True Emotion Mirror may feel torn between staying and going.

The development Stages

INITIATION
1. Near-True Emotion Mirror  (Someone so close to perfection your fingers are itching to make changes but you fight yourself wondering if you have the right to. “I see you are so close to perfect… I could mold you, just a little, to fit me perfectly, and you could mold me… But will you allow me to? Do I have your permission?”) OR
2. Uncharted True Emotion Mirror (I’ve never met you in any of my previous incarnations but I know you are perfect for me. I don’t know how to navigate my way to you yet. Slight terror.) OR
3. Separated State Mature True Emotion Mirrors (In our previous lifetime, we were together. Love at first sight. Feeling like you know this person is your true love. You can see into each other’s souls. Enthralment can quickly turn into desperation and fear.)
WORKING ON A RELATIONSHIP (“Tuning phase”)
4. Growing State True Emotion Mirror (I am learning to trust this connection, and trying to find my way to you. Often turning into “playing” and “strategizing”, especially when you’re young.)
SEPARATION PHASE
Learning about oneself, maturing as individuals, learning to be in relationships, gaining life experience and self-confidence.
5. Interrupted State/Faux Precious Soulmate (I wish we could be together as I love you more than anything but things got so messy…) (Separated but still kinda talking.)
6. Muted State True Emotion Mirror (I still want you but I have no idea how to make this work. I’ll shut up until I figure you out, because I don’t want to say something I’ll regret, and now it feels there’s nothing I can do right.)
7. Muted State Mature True Emotion Mirrors (In our previous lifetime, we had it. Honey, what the f***’s wrong?)
SPIRIT RELATIONSHIP (doesn’t always happen)
8. Psychic State True Emotion Mirror (Together in spirit, constantly, talking, in a way that resembles telepathy but isn’t 100% telepathy, but can be momentarily 100% telepathic.)
RELATIONSHIP
9. Mature State True Emotion Mirror (We are “us”. No longer separated, but Together. People being one.)

also

Unrejected Spirit Mirror (I know I don’t want you but don’t have the heart to say so)
Undecided Spirit Mirror (don’t know yet what you are going to be)

Read More

True Emotion Mirrors Part I – What They Are and what they ARE NOT, also, telepathy

True Emotion Mirrors Part II – Telepathy and Soul conversations

True Emotion Mirrors Part III – Random points

True Emotion Mirror Relationship Description (yet another one)

How to Find Your True Emotion Mirror

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