True Emotion Mirrors and equality

One of the True Emotion Mirror signs is feeling equal to your True Spirit  Mirror; as they are, the way you are, with no need to alter the state to get there, but this is often misunderstood… Badly.

Not recognizing someone’s talent or the importance as an individual is not “feeling equal to your True Emotion Mirror”, but feeling false superiority to them, or being SO far from their level of cognition, that you don’t even understand WHY you should value the things they do. In contrast, feeling equal means: “I know they are amazing at what they do, and I feel I can match their talent (possibly in another, complementing area of life) and I can bring something more to the table, making him/her even better or more efficient at what they do.” Feeling equal to someone doesn’t mean: “Oh I can see they are better looking than I am, more talented than I am, they are really smart and they’re wealthier and more popular, but I don’t think any of that matters because, at the end of the day, we’re all just human.”

Feeling equal is NOT about devaluing someone, discrediting their achievements, playing their importance down while playing up one’s own importance, deciding what they do is pointless ego bashing while what oneself is doing is actually important and valuable and needed in this society…

Feeling equal IS ABOUT knowing why the other one spends all this time on whatever they are doing, what is the point of it, it is about feeling like a MATCH, being able to give good things back to this person by the same measure easily and effortlessly, or, at least with pleasure, rather than feeling constantly stretched or challenged to meet the other one at their level, or needing to cut them down and to diminish them, trying to convince oneself and others to value them less, and to see them for less than what they are seen as, just so that others would also accept you being “equal” to them.

Whenever you feel your partner should feel WORSE about themselves in order for you to feel better about you, there’s a problem in the relationship, and although I understand that sometimes people do have an ego, the false ego usually belongs to the less talented partner, who needs to accept facts and stop cutting the other one down. Ego, in spoken language, means the need to cut others down and to emphasize one’s own, lacking talent and other virtues, and NOT being realistic about one’s own talents.

Whenever people feel the need to force others see them as their equal, it is usually about them feeling less appreciated than what the other person is, often for the reason that in the circumstance you both are, their work is more meaningful than “the challengers”. (Narcissistic reaction.) Now, if the challenger is asked if they should be appreciated for what they do, their skills and their work, their talents and virtues, they’d say of course, however, they wish to deny this same right from other people. “I cook, clean, and wash, therefore I answer the basic needs others have, I am more important than you are because you are only an artist” for instance. This person doesn’t call for equality, they call for agreement that they are better and more important than the other person is, while, at the same time, denies the value of the artist, who should not expect to be loved for their artistic nature, while the housewife should be loved for what she does. This, in turn, is hypocrisy. Whatever you value, you should keep doing, but don’t expect others to love you for it; a lot of artists choose to keep their homes ‘in a relaxed state’ because they don’t share your value system, and they have that right. It doesn’t mean they can’t do it, it means they choose not to spend too much time on it, and that means they value a clean house less than a proud housewife does, that’s all. Also, the housewife would be wasting their time keeping the artist’s house spotless expecting that to buy her love – when in most cases she only annoys the artistic type by getting in the way of creating the art. (Just as an easy to understand example.)

If we are measuring equality as something that ALL HUMANS are capable of, we have to take things to the level where you should be loved for having the ability to talk, walk, and eat, and that, too, excludes disabled people, who, then, are less equal to others. If we measure equality in those terms and demand that equality is a given, everyone should be in love with everyone. However, equality in the context of the Personality Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology means that you both are equally skilled, talented, excited, and driven about the same or a complementary thing; you share an equal appreciation for the same values, and you are equally intelligent and so forth. This is about intellectual compatibility, in which the True Emotion Mirrors should equal each other easily. To be able to bring something matching to the table. Nobody is denying human equality from ground zero; we were all born equal, which means that someone born a King is potentially of the same human value as a barista, but this doesn’t mean that the King is equal in his intelligence or his skill to the said barista. THAT could swing either way. Similarly “equality” doesn’t mean that a celebrity should date only other celebrities or that a barista should only date within his or her own social rank. “We all came here naked” is the idea of spiritual equality, but that doesn’t mean we all got here equal in our skill and mental capacity, and THAT is the stuff True Emotion Mirrors are made out of. That is where the true competition over their love is held, NOT over how much money they had when they were born, or what kind of an educational background they had, or where they are at currently in their socio-economic rank. What is in their soul matters, not the externals.

Speaking of externals, also, something that is OFTEN mistaken as stuff that doesn’t matter or shouldn’t matter is the looks. Our looks is a DIRECT result of who we are as a person. It doesn’t mean that good looking people are BETTER people than more modest looking ones, but they are DIFFERENT type in their psyche. They value the aesthetics and choose to maintain them and to work for it, therefore, they have the right to ask for their partner(s) to also be equal looking to them. What, again matters a lot LESS is what we wear, but what we choose to wear style-wise, again means a great deal, because it tells about the person that we are internally; our clothes are an extension to who we are, and everything else that we surround ourselves with, but again, a 100 dollar biker jacket from the flea market (should you be lucky enough) is equal to a 10 000 dollar one if you’re stupid enough, but the point being, the STYLE matches, whether these people can afford the same or not… Unless they are both full on in love with money, in that case, their love of wealth must match – must be equal. Equality, in many ways, is that you do not disagree on what is important to you both/all.

Make a note that whenever it is the less skilled, talented, wealthy, the less good looking etc, THEY tend to insist stuff like that doesn’t matter in a relationship. Of course it doesn’t matter to the partner who has LESS to offer, but it matters a lot to the person who brings more to the table, and one should consider oneself selfish and unappreciative of the other person should they decide FOR THE OTHER PERSON, that things like this should not matter TO YOU. Only ever speak for yourself on what matters and what doesn’t matter to you, and quit pushing your values on other people. And often when I get to this point, people are quick to point out that “we’ll I’m not talented, but I love talented people.” Here’s a news flash: So do they. It MATTERS. To you, to them, to everyone. Therefore, if you want a someone with X to give, make sure you have something equal to bring to the table, and stop insisting it doesn’t matter to them especially if it matters to you, too, and if it genuinely doesn’t matter to you, find someone who agrees with you on that point. (At this stage, someone in spirit noted: “And where do I find someone to whom it doesn’t matter?” I think that just made my point. It matters.)

True love is hard to find. That’s why it’s so exciting when you do find it.

And this is only ONE thing in a long list of other things that need to match!

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