True Emotion Mirrors and Rejection

First of all, let’s discuss why this issue must be discussed in massive detail. When a person meets their True Emotion Mirror, they may react in unexpected ways to this connection, because it is always a life-changing experience, particularly when meeting the first Mature State True Emotion Mirror. The TrEmor is such a person, that you feel you are giving yourself a MASSIVE compliment thinking that they would love you because it is like assuming that the most perfect person you’ve ever encountered, the true picture of your idea of perfection would be in love with you. You TRULY FEEL that this person is perfect, you may look at them and logically understand they might not be what you’d call the standard of perfection, but to you, they are absolutely the kind of a person you think could have anyone they want and somehow, they seem to be in love with you.

If you are normally an attractive person, you fear that this might have gotten into your head and that you are simply presumptuous if this person shows a sign of rejecting you or disinterest in you, as often happens when people play games in love (jealousy games to make you chase him or her, and faking disinterest to save face, or deliberately ignoring you to appear hard to get. All of these are absolutely the worst things you could do to your True Emotion Mirror, because they will not feel offended by your rejection that is, to them, more than an acceptable reaction, therefore they are quick to seek for a flaw in themselves to explain the difference between feeling absolutely loved by you and at the same time you acting indifferent or disinterested in them. They usually conclude they’ve misread the situation and should accept realities and move on.

So, to call someone your True Emotion Mirror is you saying that they are the most amazing and the most perfect person you’ve ever met in your life. It is the biggest compliment you can give someone. It is you saying you would rather die than see that person change into something better, as to you they are the perfection itself. You can only get excited at the idea of helping them grow into something more still, something you know THEY want to grow into, and you feel you wish to protect them from all unpleasantness of life and wrap a heaven around them, and you want to fill them with your love… So… What it is not, and what is an insult to the entire term are the following feelings:

Feelings that signal a rejection junkie situation:

• You feel superior to them.
• You authentically feel they SHOULD love you but are too stupid to. (True Emotion Mirrors may go into this feeling briefly as a half a joke as they understand there is a connection but can’t really believe it.)
  You feel insulted by their rejection, as they are inferior to you and they should be lucky to have you. “You turn your nose” at them in contempt.
• You have often trouble to accept a rejection, but this one you feel is absolutely going to accept you even if it’s the last thing you do (as you are not going to lower your bar any lower, goddamnit!)
• You feel you have a right to this person and they have no right saying no to you.
• The more aggressively they are rejecting you, the more determined you get to have them. (A very alarming sign of a rejection junkie if there has ever been one.)
• You may want to restore a situation or a relationship that once was – they left you but you cannot accept them leaving, and you cannot comprehend why they left you. (TrEmoRs may leave, of course, but there’s a danger here of it being something different. Look for further clues.)
• You may repeat that you love them you love them you love them, and expect that this should, by all realism, make them relieved and turn back to you. (This is an emotion that is close to an actual True Emotion Mirror but there is a slight difference in tonality, read below.)
• A non-TrEmoR can take an enormous amount of rejection from another person because nobody cares about the opinion of a non-TrEmoR that much in reality. As their own opinion is that “I am better than you and you should be amazed I even know you exist” the emotion is “I will beat against your god damned walls until you come to heel and understand I am better than you.” A True Emotion Mirror is VERY sensitive to rejection from their true counterpart in comparison, as they do not react with ego like the non-TrEmoR. A True Emotion Mirror should be very careful when playing cat and mouse with their TrEmoR.
• Your motivations about having them are entirely selfish. This means that you don’t care whether they are happy or not, as their job in this world is to make YOU happy, and you feel they are failing their duties if they don’t obey. You anger at them if they refuse to play along with your plans. (This MAY sometimes be present in True Emotion Mirrors as well, but it is a dangerous motivation to follow if you’ve mistaken an Active Partial Mirror for a True Emotion Mirror. If you try to claim what is yours, the Active Partial Mirror may turn murderous against you if nothing else helps, and be limited only by how much they think they can get away with legally speaking.)

Alarming feelings that may be present in a True Emotion Mirror connection

• You feel an unexplainable connection to them, too soon into meeting with them, you feel there is a relationship between you, even if you have never truly spoken.
• You feel starstruck by a normal guy or girl (may worry some people)
• You feel like you know them even without having truly spoken to them and that may make you feel that you are presumptuous or disrespectful towards their complexities as a human being.
• You are literally hearing their thoughts or feeling their emotions and you know things about them you shouldn’t know and that may make you feel like you’re losing your mind.
• You fear you are giving yourself major compliments thinking a person like that could be interested in you… But you still feel that this connection is already there, and you keep talking about them in the sense of “getting them back” when you may have never been in a relationship before.
• They may make odd sudden remarks that kind of jump the gun a little bit compared to how you’d expect normal relationships develop, such as, say things like “once we have kids”… This may seem like a sign of a mental disorder in your TrEmoR and you wonder if you should go on a second date at all.
• They may be unusually interested in you, and you may feel it’s odd they are THAT open to a relationship with you, or sleep with you too easily and too casually, and you may fear they are desperate or sleep with anyone at all.
• They may also reject your (sexual) advances in an unusually aggressive way, making you feel uneasy about the connection as, to you, it is the most obvious thing in the world. You may fear you’ve read them wrong. (They may be holding onto an ideal of NOT sleeping with someone on the first date and over-react due to their own strong feeling of how natural it would be to sleep with you, and they have to tear themselves off you in a sense, which may come off as needlessly aggressive.)
• You feel that by telling them you love them, they should feel relieved and come around, but when you do, instead, they react in an unexpected way. This is often enough to send the True Emotion Mirror who reached out into running because they feel humiliated and unbelievably stupid. However, it could be that the True Emotion Mirror simply likes a bit of spice in this whole thing and expects you to return back because they see NO REASON why you wouldn’t be super confident in yourself and burn down any barrier he or she puts in front of you. They may also feel irritated that you wanted to skip the cat and mouse game he or she so enjoys, so he may reject you simply to keep the games going. A rejection like this after an honest love confession may make you think twice about your own sanity and sense of what is real and what is not. It can truly test your trust in your ability to read people correctly and can send you running for cover as you reassess what you know about love and relationships and your feelings in general. (People who tend to be rather serious about their emotions may truly get scared here and not know what is going on, when their TrEmor wanted to play cat and mouse, to enjoy the development of the connection.)
• You may feel your ego rising against your True Emotion Mirror, which means that you feel you need to protect yourself from them by denying their value or rising anger within yourself to make sure they keep away from you. You still know that you wish they liked you as much as you like them, but you fear they will take advantage of you or hurt you again if you let your guard down.
• You may feel selfishly motivated about your True Emotion Mirror. You may fear that you want them because they are so amazing and you’d be so incredibly proud to call them your anything, really, let alone your girlfriend, boyfriend, or a spouse. You feel that having them would be so amazing that you fear all of your motivations are utterly selfish.
• Men may feel like there’s a trap in here; she’s too hot to love me – she’s trying to take advantage of me. (Simply open your eyes and allow yourself to see what’s there – don’t paint it there.)
• Women may feel like this man is a master seducer and as such, not trustworthy. She may feel he’s doing this with all women, and your feelings are practically implanted by him through some secret he has to woo women.

True Emotion Mirrors and Rejection – how do you know if the rejection is real?

There’s a play rejection that True Emotion Mirrors do, then, there is the real rejection given to a soulmate that isn’t quite getting the message – possibly a soulmate having been told by someone else that they are a True Emotion Mirror, or even the person themselves before they changed their mind for a reason or another. (Everyone has their weak moments when they feel the need to accept people they later feel they have to reject.)

Here are some questions to ask yourself and signs to go by.

• The level of aggression of rejection the more aggressive, the more real it is
• Are you in the right state of mind to accurately assess the rejection
• Are you a rejection junkie?
• Can you take a rejection normally? Are you able to process the idea that someone (anyone at all) would be able to say no to your charms and actually authentically mean it? (EVERYONE can be not wanted by SOMEONE, that is a grown up fact. Granted, there are people who get rejected less often than others.)
• Are you used to rejection? Does it irritate you if someone rejects you? Do you think they are being unjust towards you simply because they said no?
• True Emotion Mirrors reject their counterpart for various reasons, but the lack of love or admiration is not one of those reasons. If you feel unloved and ignored, or that they have the trouble tolerating your company, this is not a True Emotion Mirror. TrEmoRs MAY feel horrible in your company when they cannot express their love for you, this may be because one of you is married or in a relationship or in another kind of a taboo relationship to each other, and this is when they may act weird regardless. TruEmotion Mirrors, particularly the hidden type, can form long-term friendships for a reason or another. In this case, they may feel like they have to TOLERATE your company, as it is unnatural for them to stay at a distance, so they may reject you for the feeling of not being able to bring the connection to completion. HOWEVER. Situations exist where a chaser counts on this being the case exactly. In this case, gentle, sensitive and an understanding approach is better than an aggressive one. (ALWAYS take a rejection from a True Emotion Mirror, just move at a distance they point at you, don’t run out of the room unless they tell you to do exactly that, just don’t move faster than what they are ready for.)
• Self-esteem, fear of not being loved, fear of “a trap”, feeling that it would be too good to be true if it was true
  Feelings of obligation do not belong into the True Emotion Mirror relationship. (Positive responsibility, however, does, the feeling of being responsible for this person, and feeling AMAZINGLY GOOD, not burdened but privileged and honored by it.)
• If a person does not feel the way that I describe towards you, doesn’t make them “broken” or “a commitment-phobic” or otherwise a non-person, it means that they are not your actual True Emotion Mirror, and you (may) have a problem with accepting realities.
• True Emotion Mirrors feel a mutually strong ability to accept rejection from this person because they see each other as near divine. (Love makes you see the other person as unattainable when in reality they are not. So one word too strong or a perceived coldness can make them flee, as in, run.) True Emotion Mirrors tend to take a rejection from each other very easily. If you don’t even consider running when rejected, it’s a sign of something different.
• A strong sign of a non-True Emotion Mirror is a feeling of superiority towards the person, and a feeling they SHOULD (by everything that is ‘holy’ love you, and that they are FAULTY and OBSTINENT if they do not.
  The reason why the True Emotion Mirrors break off or run from each other so easily is fear of not being loved and a fear of making a fool out of themselves in front of a person who they truly love and respect. Therefore, simple jealousy games can EASILY lead to a breakup in communication.
• Although the True Emotion Mirror bond is ‘unbreakable’ it doesn’t mean the True Emotion Mirror does not run at the first sign of trouble. They can run all the way to the other side of the world but the connection doesn’t break, it’s like water. You can separate a jug of water into several cups with absolute ease, once you put them back in, you can’t tell one water from the other because “they are one”. In contrast, a non-TrEmoR may feel a desperate need to hold on, because they know this person is separate from them and would leave them permanently and gladly if they let them go.

The True Emotion Mirror may react to the other one in a “you are using your superior seduction powers on me and I feel so weak that I will have to show I am strong by attacking you and rejecting you and I’ve got to stay strong”. You should feel somewhat weakened by this person, and they should feel weakened by you, but you are not necessarily equally weakened by each other, the measure of your self-esteem prior to the meeting has an effect.

It may be that the more self-assured and confident you are normally in relationships, the bigger their effect is on you, as you didn’t see it coming. It’s like having been surrounded by powerless people your whole life, and then, you meet your True Emotion Mirror and they make you weak, and the less you expected it, the more it may affect you and put you on guard. Highly attractive people may react this way, as they are not used to being rejected or even matched. It’s like a superhero meeting another superhero, all of the sudden, you’re playing in your own league, and you feel MUCH weaker compared to what you feel is normal.

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