True Emotion Mirrors are both a choice and NOT a choice

OK this, I grant you, also confuses me quite a bit. However, this is not something I’ve heard or been taught, but how I feel and believe things to be. However, things are complicated and so many things are possible. So. First of all:

True Emotion Mirror connections are DEVELOPED over time, over LIFETIMES. It starts with a crush, continues with a DECISION to stick it out, and it will create a bond that will last for lifetimes. HOWEVER, when Mature State True Emotion Mirrors meet again, the bond is pre-existing and as such it feels VERY DIFFERENT to what we all expect relationships to be. True Emotion Mirrors are truly MAGICAL, it’s all the soppy stuff about “instantly knowing”, precognition, shared dreams, telepathy, and whatnot. It’s stuff you’ve been told over and over that IT DOESN’T EXIST… But then you realize that fuck me, IT DOES.

So. First, there’s an attraction. Second, there’s action. When BOTH or ALL OF YOU want to make it work, the bond will start forming. It won’t necessarily take more than a few moments, or one magical moment to a few years to become permanent, but certain things must happen. You must DECIDE to be an item. You both must WANT TO be… And not in the sense of: “You must want to do your chores, young man, in order to be a good person”, but “you must want to eat your ice cream in order to not feel nauseous.” It must feel like the most amazing thing that has happened to you, not some kind of a god-given task or schoolwork. If it feels like a chore or school work, it isn’t a True Emotion Mirror bond forming. If it feels more like toiling over a piece of art, or working on your garden that you love sooo soo much, that no matter how many weeds you have to pull, you come back to it because you LOVE the work involved. You WANT that bond.

A True Emotion Mirror bond is not a chain you can’t break. It’s a chain only in the sense that you’ve put it onto each other so that NOBODY ELSE can pull you apart. The connection and the bond you share protect your love from interfering parties, not keep you locked together like prisoners. A True Emotion Mirror will let go of you as soon as they become convinced that’s what you want them to do – and it often doesn’t take much convincing… But that doesn’t mean their love is gone, it’s just that they feel they’re doing you a favor by leaving you. (And that may make no sense to you whatsoever.)

So… There is more than one potential True Emotion Mirror for all people. That’s where the choice comes in. HOWEVER, this is the confusing part. There are levels of development. You KNOW someone is a True Emotion Mirror by an instinct, and you may still know that the bond you share is in a different state than what it is with someone else. This is both unromantic and romantic at the same time… You COULD take it up with someone who could ALSO potentially be your True Emotion Mirror, but you CHOOSE another for whatever reason. They may be more fun, sexier, they’ve got something that makes them more interesting. You may know that you might be able to flock to another person into perfection, but you choose another for whatever reason. But what is clear, is that you ALWAYS choose because you WANT THAT PERSON MORE. You CANNOT choose a True Emotion Mirror with a compromising attitude: “I’ll have you because you’re easier, even though I like that other one more.” You can ONLY choose the one you want the most, even if you chose between two potential True Emotion Mirrors – you just choose to put the time and the effort into THIS ONE rather than THAT ONE… And you both feel the same way.

And even if you’re polygamous soup, you won’t “take in” people who you can’t see as an equal to your most maturely connected True Emotion Mirror.

I also know it would be nice to say that Amber Heard couldn’t possibly be Johnny Depp’s potential True Emotion Mirror given the way she treated him, but life fucking sucks that way. That doesn’t mean Johnny owes Amber a god damned thing, she played her cards, and Johnny will play his. A True Emotion Mirror, potential True Emotion Mirrors, in particular, do not get much of a say in each other’s choices in love. That’s why it’s beautiful when two or more people choose each other, not because something forces you to, but because that person or those people intrigues you, entertains you, makes you laugh, makes you feel amazing, you have the most amazing sex – and on top of all that, they treat you with respect and love, and they do all of that respect and care part without making things boring… Not by being a pest, but by being GENUINELY interesting TO YOU.

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