True love or true fantasy? How what could be will never be

Sometimes, you meet a person who seems perfect in every way… Except for that little thing that isn’t quite right. Maybe it’s a huge thing that isn’t right – something so wrong that you don’t think your perfect person minds you fixing it about them. Sometimes, you don’t really know a person, but your imagination fills in the blanks for you, and you create the perfect person inside the perfect body you fell in love with – you give people virtues that they don’t actually possess.

Men especially have a special talent for this particular brand of fooling oneself… They create the perfectly virtuous woman in their mind when in reality, she’s an entitled, self-serving, cruel… The remedy to this is to face realities, be critical of a woman the same way as you’re critical of a man… But don’t judge a book by the insides of other books you’ve read.

When two people fall in love, they should truly allow each other to speak freely about themselves and their dreams. And it is the best policy to BELIEVE they’re telling you the truth, especially if you don’t like what they are saying, because the chances are that they are serious, but you just wish they weren’t. (Example; a person who tells you they’re childfree and isn’t likely to change their mind should be married with the expectation children won’t be a part of the deal even if you didn’t understand what’s the point of marriage if there are no children in it.)

Fantasy character that doesn’t exist

Tell you the truth. A man’s most common romantic fantasy is that they’ve met a nice girl in a beautiful body. It is also, ironically their biggest fear that when they’ve actually met one that they’re fooling themselves. Ironically, men can tolerate the biggest bitch in the world for a lot longer than is in any way sensible, because they’re convinced that this person is actually nice, and yes, women do that, too. In the meanwhile, an actually nice pretty girl scares the living daylights out of a guy. If they can’t see a flaw, they feel it’s dangerous to trust a girl, while a girl with her flaws hanging out “must be” really nice on the inside, right?

People should let their dark side be seen, really. It’s fair for everyone involved, and it is hopefully reassuring to see someone’s obvious flaws to be the exact right ones. Sexy flaws.

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