True Mirror or Enigma? To those of you who are now thinking: “It’s probably nothing…”

The way psychology works, I get to speak a lot to people who simply refuse to think that the person they love is only a Partial Mirror or an Enigma. This is a natural course of things. The major difference between these two types of people is that one needs to convince their heart, the other need to convince their head. A True Mirror is known in the heart, but logic says it’s nothing, but someone with a wish to have found true love will find a person, and logically decide “they’re the one” and attempt to convince their heart of it. Those of you who DO have found your True Mirror(s), the running instinct is now on red alert after what you’ve read here. I am sorry I had to do that to you, just to make sure everyone knows what we’re dealing with.

Secondary True Emotion Mirror signs are there to convince your head for what you feel. They include stuff like aligning birthdays, matching zodiac signs, interesting dates upon meeting, looking alike (although these are all very common between True Mirrors, but are not a very reliable signs alone, obviously). The primary True Mirror Sign… The only one that truly counts is that you feel immeasurable love and desire towards another person, to a level that resonates with drama and even action (“I would die for you for my heart is in you”) rather than romantic comedies and tween romance (“I want someone to make me happy”). A True Mirror bond is a MUST, it’s not an option, it simply is there, although it was a choice to begin with, you were chosen, you chose them because you couldn’t do much else – who they are commands your feelings for them, because they are impossible for you to not love, but you weren’t told to love someone “suitable” because everyone needed someone, you chose them in the sense that they deserve every bit of the love you feel for them, they deserve it in the level your love has nowhere else to go. Your love is drawn into them uncontrollably – your heart is in them. No amount of logic can change that – but you are more than capable of accepting that someone so amazing might not love you – yet you know they do whatever it was that you deserved it, you know they are yours in your heart, although your mind cannot comprehend it – if you allow it space. 😉

To someone who simply wants someone to make them happy and look cool because they have a fucking true mirror, things are very different. “What’s there not to love about me?” would be the general idea. “I don’t see why they wouldn’t love me, because I want them, they must want me.” This love is selfish: it demands the love be returned because of the love that they give to the object of their desire. “I love you, now you love me!” A True Mirror simply loves, they wish their love returned, yes, but they could never demand it or see it as something that they deserve, earn or have the right to consider theirs. At the same time they feel an eerie connection, it’s because they know the True Mirror is theirs, has always done, so in a sense, no matter how far they wonder, no matter who they choose to spend their lives with, no matter how many children they have with other people, your love won’t break, alter or change, it stays the way it is and there is no reason trying to protect it because it won’t die. They can argue, spew venom at each other, they can beat each other up, knowing that the love that is there won’t change, alter or disappear. (Of course, then there’s the Angry Mirror/Enigma thing; sometimes an Enigma simply needs you to fuck off…)

To make a difference whether it is a True Mirror or not, you need to know whether you could love them even if someone else made them happy. If you knew they were happy with their spouse, would you be happy for them? If someone else made life with them, but you knew they weren’t happy, would you feel pain knowing you could make them happier, if you felt you could, rather than glad to see them unhappy because they’re not with you? If you would feel sad for you both rather than insulted for yourself, it’s a sign of a True Mirror.  I should probably still add that there is a True Emotion Mirror situation here too, in which you feel utter frustration at the idiocy of your True Mirror and how they can’t seem to be able to admit to what would make them happy – denying a part of themselves that keeps you apart. You feel they deny themselves, not you exactly. You are not irritated by them making YOU unhappy, you are irritated because they make THEMSELVES unhappy by denying you.

And then the final note: The feelings of a True Mirror Runner and a True Mirror Chaser are different from each other. A Runner will pin their attention to every negative trait you’ve ever had or have been told to have or seem to have or even have ever been seen with someone who had that negative trait and convince themselves that they are your real traits. They are trying to convince their hearts logically that they do not love you, although their heart knows they do. 😀 A Runner is afraid to connect with their emotions because they may prove to be too much to handle and unreciprocated, making it dangerous to admit they exist. Remember that you can be part runner and part chaser too, sometimes you feel the need to run, sometimes you chase; and your emotions follow suit. When you decide you have to run, you focus on their flaws, and then again when you accept there’s nowhere to run, you simply allow yourself to see things as they are. Complicated but oh so good!

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