Trusting people against your instinct should not be a virtue you hold

If you trust people without realizing that they’re untrustworthy, there’s nothing much you can do but to try and be smarter about things. However, those of us who actually SEE we’re about to get screwed over and still trust someone, we need to stop doing it.

Currently, as I write this, I feel a bunch of very dissatisfied people in my head grumbling about it being wrong they will not be trusted. They seem to believe it is their right to scam people, and our job is to turn the blind eye.

The Value of Trust

People like us believe that everyone who is trusted will rise to the occasion and prove themselves trustworthy. Now, that may well be true, but there are two points to consider here:

1. If you truly trust someone, they don’t want to let you down, but
2. If they sense you don’t really trust them, they might not feel inspired to be worthy of the fake trust you show them. They might want to teach you a lesson and prove you’ve been stupid or to punish you for having been hypocritical about your trust.

Therefore, only ever give people power when you actually DO trust them. Never do this blindly.

So… Which came first, the egg or the chicken?

Does trust create trustworthiness or does trustworthiness create trust?

I believe that if a person has an option to choose, a REAL option, they choose being trustworthy. But things are not always that simple. They may hold a different value entirely: If you hand over your house keys to me, a homeless person with interesting friends, you DESERVE to be robbed blind. They may punish you for stupidity rather than reward you for being kind.

I remember from a previous lifetime of pickpocketing and stealing bags for living that I felt strongly it was THEIR FAULT if they left their stuff unattended. Even now, I am like a hawk with my belongings. Paranoid. And if someone would get my bag because I didn’t pay attention, I’d consider it MY OWN FAULT.

Opportunity maketh a thief, says a Finnish saying, and this should be applied to many other situations as well. Opportunity maketh a criminal.

It is not only about their intent, but also their abilities you need to consider

There is another point you need to consider before putting your trust on people. They may well be more than willing to do the best they can for you, but do they know how? Do they a) understand what you mean? b) have the skills required to carry out what you expect them to. c) Would it be asking for too much for them to do right by you in all honesty? (Homeless people with keys to your apartment. -Type of scenario.)

There are people with the best intentions anyone has ever held, and 0 capacity to do anything for you. Like your mom. Make sure you eliminate all “moms” out of your trusted circles if you have something big to lose.

Also, notice YOUR OWN feelings

This is sort of advanced class in spirituality, but notice how you feel about the person. You might actually NOT WANT THEM TO prove worthy of your trust. If they did, they might make their way to your circle of friends and you don’t really want them there. This will give them the subconscious cue to deceive you.

You don’t have to love everyone or to be friends with everyone. I promise. All this does is to open a door to people who your True Emotion Mirrors* do not like, simply because you’ve got difficulty keeping your soul connections pure and honest.

Know this: Your lack of trust may be your GENUINE WISH to not make friends with these people. Don’t make friends out of obligation. It’s false and fake and pretentious, not to mention hypocritical.

Your obligation to other people

On that note: If you cannot see the importance of these moral exercises from your perspective, then consider the other people who your poor judgment will affect. To whom do you hold your first loyalty to? Who do you most want to serve in this world? Whose best interest matters to you most? Do not act against this alignment. If you give love an attention to someone else outside this group, make sure it doesn’t negatively impact the lives of the people you hold your first loyalty to.

A lot of morally motivated people choose to show loyalty to people they consider “weak”. This may not be who they WANT TO show loyalty to, but who they feel need it most. This will, by the way, ensure Trail Companion* relationships, and pretty much guarantee you will not get together with your True Emotion Mirrors , ever.

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