Tweaking theories… Problem areas with the Normal Person*/the Savants*-duality

2020 edit: Many of these problems have been solved in the latest versions of the theory but some of this is still present in the archives.

The Normal Person*/the Savants* definition is not COMPLETELY set in stone

The Normal Person* and the Savants* definition SEEMS like an absolute way of being. A rigid, unchanging part of your personality. I have also treated it as such for a long time. However, it has more to do with who you’re with than who you are. MORE to do with it, but also, how you are USED TO approaching people. When we are COMFORTABLE with the company we are at, we turn more the Normal Person* as a result. We TRUST that our selfishness is met with love.

However, the fact a person is comfortable in the company they are currently at DOES NOT, in any way, guarantee that the people they are comfortable with feel the same way about the situation. A typical the Savants* has made this realization before and is ACUTELY aware of this danger. Therefore, no matter how certain they felt about someone, they are going to approach that person with caution. Once they gain trust that they are welcome and loved back, they get more heavy-handed in a similar manner to the people who are the Normal Person* by default.

The Normal Person*/the Savants* bonding and flirting styles

Some flirting and bonding methods are LEARNED rather than instinctive. An the Savants* male (usually this way around) can adjust their approach by the presumption that “women” are what I describe as “the Normal Person*”. This creates confusion as to which type a person is. However, RUDE BEHAVIOR toward a practical stranger who is a potential lover is the Normal Person* expressing (keen) INTEREST. (“OK, I’m ready to play.”) When a Savants* (by default) gets rude (usually as a result of being pestered for a relationship they are NOT interested in) it means the opposite: “I am NO LONGER interested in preserving my face with you. You can hate me for all I care, I’m done playing with you.”

More confusion will follow once you learn to adapt to different thinker types when flirting with them. (MIND YOU: If you’re interested, figure them out. Floor is lava.)

• the Normal Person*/the Savants* thinking potentially (not always) reversing with the Exact SM’s, and why; insecurities flairing up BAD.
• The whole thing being more relative to who you’re with than who you are, the same thing as the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology.

An the Savants* parent can turn a little the Normal Person* out of protectiveness

Being the Normal Person* is essentially about protecting those who you love and the bond you share with them (even when they don’t share the need to stay with the Normal Person*). Therefore, a Savants* parent can turn a bit Tyrannical as a reaction to the responsibility of keeping the child safe.

2020 edit: Is the Normal Person* always self-interested?

It seems the Normal Person* modality is always selfish: “I need X, you need to give me X, even though that harms you.” However, the Normal Person* can also self-sacrifice and go into a servant mode: “I am nothing, I serve. Your needs come first.” In the core, the Normal Person* is always trying to preserve their primary relationship, and they won’t let go of it for the benefit of the person who they are linked to. Therefore, whatever it takes is what they will do; threats, playing the victim, crying fake tears, professing love, forcing matters, to submitting into a servant role. (They won’t CREATE relationships with the same ferocity as they protect the existing ones, mind you.)

Learning from the other faction

Both the Normal Person* and the Savants* have stuff to learn from the other faction. The ideal is in the middle, being able to apply approaches appropriately depending on the situation. This makes it so, that the two ways of thinking are merely a starting point rather than a static.

Ideal female must be created

the Normal Person* women lack a gender role that they MUST adhere to, currently. The current ideal female that the Normal Person* woman can identify with is a completely entitled, militantly feminist, sex-reluctant man-user, or a pseudo-male who simply tries to be as much a gender-stereotypical man as possible. A better ideal (admirable way of being a woman) must be recreated for the Normal Person* females to follow and the Savants* women to ignore if they so choose.

The theory is written for the Savants*, but the Normal Person* want a code to follow

The Normal Person* don’t need to worry about any of this for a long while still, but it is exactly the Normal Person* who theories like these naturally tempt; “how do I force someone into accepting their life task of loving me” -approach. Who I need to target is the Savants* who know instantly what I am talking about, and do not intend to use the content for manipulating others but to liberating themselves

Other points to consider

• Not enough emphasis has been made on the business applications of the Normal Person* and the Savants* thinking.
• Approachability, accessibility, and a newbie’s ability to grasp the basics fast must be higher… As most of the text is written at the time when it’s been relevant to me personally, it is not a logical, organized body of work but a flow of consciousness that need to be reorganized for general use. I’m still fighting my own karmic soulmates and it shows on my texts and particularly on my mood. I have also written a lot in short time span making the site an impossible ordeal to follow. I need to develop some kind of a crash course -type of an arrangement to get the basics down quick and create it specifically for the purpose…
• I must create more variety between the Normal Person* and the Savants* and also bring back and link them to the Soul Age levels I was obsessing over in 2012. There’s some good stuff in there, but stuff that ALSO needs a bit of a tweaking. (This is going to take forever and I need to make money at some stage and this sucks. Soulmate to fucking multimillionaires that I have no contact with. :D) The Soul Age levels are a bit of an ego-stroking exercise. At best, they show some developmental curve of souls, but in reality, I am not sure it’s either relevant or helpful. Pity. I wrote a book on that.

Not enough emphasis or good information on:

• True Emotion Mirror -signs need to be rewritten. Telepathy or ability to comminicate in spirit IS NOT a True Emotion Mirror sign, although I first thought it was. I don’t know why it is so difficult to drop the True Emotion Mirror -term. True Emotion Mirror term might need to be changed… It’s a bit long to use. Maybe True Mirror…
• How people pick and choose the information they receive; selective hearing, believe everything they want to believe, rejecting everything else – and how that compares to the danger of accepting everyone’s teachings for a fact without mulling it over first.
• Being stuck and getting unstuck
• I’ve been struggling with the breaking off a bond -question for a long time “is it possible to break a True Emotion Mirror bond”? Yeah fuck yeah. As easy as freaking blinking. Dropping the Normal Person* Spousal Spirit Mirror with an obsession is a fucking pain!! The answer to that problem is to make yourself… Useless or less useful than someone else is to your the Normal Person* ex. Do this by replacing yourself or simply becoming “defunct”. Detailed answer must be written.
• The importance of physical level conversations vs. spirit level conversations hasn’t really been pointed out although it is clear that the non-physical conversations can drag on for years, while the same in the physical could be achieved in a matter of moments. However, what the Psychic Conversations are good for is to become COMPLETELY aware of how we feel and what we need and what needs to be said once the physical presence is there again.
• The point of collapse needs to be discussed; How far can a person go alone without their Destination Soulmates? And why are we waiting for it? Why do the Normal Person* insist that people need to be dependent on each other, when all logic dictates self-sustainability is a freaking asset? Is the point of collapse the point where the active partials get a foot in again; to drive people to the point of desperation where they’ll again accept love or support from anyone who just happens to be there, and that not necessarily being an Exact Spirit Mirror. How to break the heart / delusions of those who try to destroy your life only to have the priviledge of being the one to fix it in the name of their undying love for you?
• How people will “intimacy issues” and “commitment phobia” are the biggest romantics in the world and you’re messing with someone else’s True Emotion Mirror. How a person who has made an eternal commitment to another person cannot be accused for having a commitment phobia when they cannot fall in love with a total fucking stranger who is nothing like them.
• How someone not loving you does not mean that they cannot love anybody… How do I make that message sink in without sounding like such a twat saying it over and over, and how do I force the people who actually need to hear it (who will not want to hear it or accept it as reality) listen to it?
• What is the ‘right time’? What aspects need to be in place before things sift into motion? What holds us in place, for how long, and for what reasons? True Emotion Mirror explanations to this are lacking and missleading, even distracting people from the point, so this needs to be addressed strongly.
• Finding a balance within oneself. How to convince a Light Worker that their approach brings others misery?
• Why are people annoyed with you – your children, your husband, your wife – why is everyone around you so annoyed?
• Money, power, and business owner evil pricks – stereotypes need to be broken and proven to be children’s tales for the most part.
• Health questions, the reasons for illness and the ways to cure oneself have not been addressed much (because I hate being sick myself and I hate the whole healthcare industry and everyone who simply insist they are fucking heroes healing others causing them to be sick first before they can be healed, so again this bullshit of striking you down from behind a tree, so I can race to your rescue in your face -bullshit that doesn’t really envoke any real love in me anymore.) (I’ve been tilting my head for months now with some inner-ear thing that I haven’t bothered to get checked because I am so fucking not into hospitals, I don’t fear them, I hate them. I hate everything about illness and sickness, and if I don’t require surgery, or have an STD then fuck it. I’m not bothered, but I just pointed the ear out to my roomie saying it’s been there for a while… Instantly my ear started unblocking itself and now I can’t even imagine tilting my head. How fucked up is that? It’s just fucking nonsense this shit!)
• Education applications for the Normal Person* and the Savants* thinking once the differentiation has been made clearer and more reliable…
• The value of narcissism and high self-esteem and the damage of bringing people down to other people’s level. The guy who can fix the Hiroshima pollution is out there somewhere. There’s probably a good bunch of the Normal Person* telling him he shouldn’t think too highly of himself to think he can make a difference in the world, so he’s wasting his time watching television drinking beer at the moment busy fitting in. Thank you, you egotistical fuck wits.
• Anger issues. Why is anger justified and not a sign of a lower life form? What is holy wrath?
• The importance of restoring a wise council or a sage -leadership compared to the child soul -governments in place at the moment. (2020 edit: No reference to Donald Trump.)
• Discussing the ideas of anarchy is still lacking (I’ve written 18 books worth by now, and I haven’t even scratched that bit yet!)
• Why do people isolate themselves (2020 edit, no reference to Covid-19)
• How do you know someone is truly special vs. an NPD
• How to set oneself apart from others so that others don’t get insulted but inspired?
• why the weakling worship needs to stop
• contemplation, meditation, and other quiet times – when is it a good thing and when does a simple spiritual phase become a point of ego?
• Looking for a god, True Emotion Mirror or other rescuer, vs actually finding one when you didn’t know you needed a savior. (I have little idea what this is about really. Tarot told me.)
• The unpopular topic of all-female coalitions and how do they compare to the all-men bonding? When is teaming up with one’s own gender healthy and when is it simply juvinile hiding and reinforcing oneself against something one fears?
• How to begin to unravel one’s internal conflicts that we all have, the more spiritually inclined a person is, the more likely they have a lot of conflicts to solve, when over-simplified moral code is contradicting with the spiritual sense of right and wrong.
• Not enough emphasis on living with the spirit, the flow, and how ugly things can get when we do, and how they get uglier still if we don’t.
• Emotional connection. How the softness is accessed in the Savants*, and why it is never/rarely a desperado the Normal Person* who can make that connection happen.

Now, I’ll do the same with my own issues; you don’t need to hear it. 🙂

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