Unrequited love – how can you love so much more than the person you’re in love with?

You’d like to see yourself as someone who that person is in love with, but they do not like to be the kind of person who would be in love with you… In other words, your self-confidence improves when you look at yourself through that person; like someone who’d date that person. You like yourself more with than without that person… They, on the other hand, do not feel a sense of elevation when they think of you. They don’t feel amazed by the idea of being loved by you or spending time with you.

You may be one who romanticizes the idea of unequal lovers (or friends) because it’s rare… In fact… It’s so rare I don’t even believe it ever TRULY happens. I believe that the closest thing you get is either pity or a reverse ego reaction: “People can’t call me shallow if I’d be seen dating/loving/being married to this person.” (Yes, people would go that far to be seen as a good person.)

If I were you, I’d stop romanticizing this type of relationship, as they’re rarely real. If you want to be TRULY loved by someone like that, you really have to try a little harder to match their good qualities, to be the person you see in them when you look at them admiringly or lovingly. Alternatively, try to love someone more like yourself – and if you can’t love someone like yourself, why do you expect anyone else to love someone like you if you wouldn’t?

Amazing people consciously try to be more like the people they love and admire, not just passively wait for the miracle of being loved by one of them for no reason at all.

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