What are “mixed signals” from the Savants* and the Normal Person* perspective?

Another hilarious difference between the Savants* and the Normal Person* is what we consider to be “mixed signals.”

When the Normal Person* is looking for a relationship, they’re giving all single people the “come hither” signal. “Hello everyone, I am single and looking!” When a Savants* goes out, they have similar energy: “single and looking,” but they’ll be picky. Suppose they reject the Normal Person*, which to the Normal Person* means they’re “giving mixed signals.” The Normal Person* feels frustrated: “Are you interested in a relationship OR NOT?!” And the Savants*, if they knew what the Normal Person* is asking, would answer: “Yes, but you are not at my level. I am not interested IN YOU as a partner.”

If this was the Normal Person*, they are looking FOR A RELATIONSHIP, so they ask: “Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?” and if you say “no,” they interpret that as “coast is clear” as in “there is no reason why I’d get rejected.”

Hooking up but not committing.

In other words, if you’re single and go out looking to hook up with someone sexy, the Normal Person* will be confused if you reject them and wind up going home with another person that night. Or, you wind up coming back to that bar the next week still looking. The Normal Person* don’t understand “picky and choosy,” but believe that if you CAN hook up with someone, you should be in a relationship by now, or you can’t decide what you want. You may be VERY CLEAR in your mind about what you want, but the Normal Person* may not understand your rationale at all because, to them, a relationship is a relationship.

To a Savants*, the same expression “mixed signals” means that a person they are interested in seems interested in them one day, and the next day they’re not. They’re giving them the “come here, go away” -signal. This is due to that person not being 100% interested in that person and second-guessing what they want of them, OR they are not sure if that person is interested in them or not. An Savant* won’t ask “do you have a partner?” as an opening because the Savants* can reject people whether they are attached or not.

the Normal Person* are confused.

While some people truly do mean “just somebody to love,” and they are either interested in a relationship or not, MOST PEOPLE have some personal preferences regarding what kind of a person and relationship they are interested in forming. Therefore they are not giving mixed signals the way the Normal Person* mean it; it’s just that they are not interested in a deep, committed love connection with everyone who wants them like is the case with most people.

Almost everybody is open to a deep love connection given the right person offers. If a person is not seriously interested in anyone they know, then they give “mixed signals” in every sense of the expression.

the Savants* True Emotion Mirrors who give each other “mixed signals.”

the Savants* True Emotion Mirrors can give each other mixed signals even if they truly were 100% ready and willing to bond fully. The reason is that popular men and women are used to dominant people and take charge of the situation. In contrast, they are used to somewhat accepting a proposal or rejecting it. When both of them are in the position where they wait for the other to announce that “we are an item,” they may remain in limbo forever.

One of them has to raise the courage and ask what the other one wants… Or take charge without asking and see how that goes.

This can make the Normal Person* hold onto false hope.

the Savants*, please don’t panic about the following. I’ll explain it in detail:

the Normal Person* can hold onto false hope about a person for a long time when the Savants* keep rejecting them but keep looking for a relationship anyway. They feel the “mixed signals” energy to relate to them, too, even if their possible True Emotion Mirror always replied “not interested” to every approach.

The problem is that True Emotion Mirrors sometimes do give that no for several reasons, while their issues are elsewhere. They may not fully understand what you want, they’ve heard people say bad things about you, or your guess is as good as mine. Particularly if you are not both the same shade of a Wolf, you will easily misread each other’s signals anyway, without it meaning you’ve misread the underlying interest.

When the Savants* are second-guessing what their supposed True Emotion Mirror wants from them, they should be a LOT MORE HEAVY-HANDED than what they usually permit themselves to be. CHASE HARDER. The opposite advice applies to the Normal Person*: if you don’t know what your supposed True Emotion Mirror wants, lighten up your touch and ask for some honest, clear answers and live accordingly: No likely means no. (Unfortunately, nothing is universally clear here.)

the Savants* with a separated state True Emotion Mirror,

please keep browsing the site for terms like M8R10 (sounds unromantic, I know, but you’ll laugh), NOD syndrome, and articles about how True Emotion Mirrors sometimes get their wires crossed when they play hard-to-get, “tag,” and other the Normal Person*-typical seduction games.

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