What are reasonable expectations in a relationship? How much attention? Sex? Together-time?

The purpose of a relationship is to make you feel loved, wanted, cared for, happy, and fulfilled. If those things are not there, the relationship does not fulfill its purpose. What is reasonable is not the question. The question is: is what you are getting enough for you? Another question may be: Is what you want even humanly possible? If you want a hard-working man but never want him to leave you alone, but you don’t want him to work at home or for you to work with him… Hmm… The Universe needs more help with what exactly you mean.

You can always ask your partner for more of what you want; if they’re willing to give it, great; if not… Well, “what is reasonable” isn’t a factor. Are you happy? Are you happier this way than you would be looking for the next love? Do you think there is someone out there you could love and appreciate more or get more of those things in return? Do you think you should liberate yourself to look? Then, do you think you’ve given your current partner enough of a warning that you’re not satisfied? Are you using it as an excuse or is it an actual reason? If it’s an excuse, you have to leave anyway; if it’s a reason, then maybe they can do something about it before you go.

(An excuse: you don’t want the relationship anyway, but you feel like you need an excuse to get out of it without losing face.)

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