What are the chances of making it work with each soulmate type?

Lovers’ Choice Soulmates*

Near(?) 100% success rate between 2 fully committed the Normal Person*. HOWEVER to qualify for an Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* couple, you BOTH need to be the Normal Person*, and you BOTH need to agree that you BOTH want to make this relationship work and agree that there is NO way either one of you will leave the other; even if the other beat you half to death -kind of deal. This means 100% commitment, STUPID commitment, that is. Lower your level of commitment and that would be the exact chances you give this relationship, but YOU BOTH need to be the Normal Person*, I cannot stress that enough, and you BOTH need to be 100% committed, and a little too co-dependent to be healthy, or otherwise just lucky in very compatible thinking. It would be wise for a pair of these to agree on some ground rules, such as “if you ever hit me, that is an instant reason for a breakup”, because often the society will force you to split anyway if one partner turns physically violent so it would be best to simply make it clear violence is not tolerated because it will risk the relationship from the outside, even if you both were OK with it.

You WILL NEVER EVER EVER be able to make a reluctant the Savants* (runner) + the Normal Person* into Adjusting Spirit  Mirrors, even though there is a slight chance the Normal Person* + the Savants* maybe True Emotion Mirrors, but that is another thing. You also will waste your time trying to convince a Savants* to make a commitment to form an Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* type a relationship, but you MAY succeed in forcing a Savants* to appease you for a duration of time before they break up with you or divorce you. the Savants* + the Normal Person* attempt at this is temporary at best, and a failure rate is 100% given enough time.

Destination Soulmate (Non-compromising, purifying soulmates)

1st Tier Destination Soulmate True Emotion Mirrors; (the Savants* ideal)

Mature (state) True Emotion Mirror (old, established, fully developed connection, will always return to each other, unbreakable connection particularly by the attempt of an outsider. Nothing will come in between these two, although they will split up on the physical level as easily as the wind picks up for a duration, even decades, but will ALWAYS find their way back to each other sooner or later, this lifetime or the next. Can be trusted 100% once you’re sure this is what your love is about.)
Interrupted True Emotion Mirror (Insecurities and fears or external force ended the Growing State, or a previous life Mature State connection that is pushed back to an Interrupted state by insecurities, if so, the connection is really Mature, but simply… Having troubles. Also, these two will always return back to it until they either make it or happen to find another non-mature True Emotion Mirror, but for as long as one is still interested, it is UNLIKELY they will fully try out other True Emotion Mirror relationships, although they can mess about with Trail Companions*.)
Growing (state) True Emotion Mirror (All good, moving towards completion. The only real threats are another True Emotion Mirror connection, self-sabotage and/or fear kicking in, also in the form of “true love doesn’t exist” -cynism causing insecurities.)
Uncharted (state) True Emotion Mirror (New, a completely undeveloped connection between perfectly compatible people… Odds are very low. Needs undisturbed time to develop, time spent in non-threatening circumstance or something else that is quite out of norm, particularly in the case that other True Emotion Mirrors already exist. Can also be the EASIEST soulmate connection ever made, as there is NO past life package to deal with, but it depends a lot on the circumstances these two meet.)

Faux Precious Soulmate (Spirit Mirror) (A sexual soul connection to someone whom forming a relationship with would be traditionally considered a taboo. Low chances of good things happening without a very sexually open mind or a mutual True Emotion Mirror with a kinky mind fixing things up for them.)

Generally speaking, with True Emotion Mirrors, the long-term success rate is a 100% but this will potentially mean REALLY long time span to spend on this, potentially speaking several incarnations worth of time – but they’re worth it. Poor chances of success in the short term will require time, commitment, true surrender to this connection, and, of course, you must have correctly identified your relationship type, wishful thinking and no amount of childish insistence nor denial here won’t make something that isn’t a True Emotion Mirror relationship into one. Try to ensure you are not trying to make ANY OTHER soulmate type into a True Emotion Mirror by simply wanting it to be that, because it simply won’t help. It is easy to mistake a simple the Savants*/the Normal Person* relationship for this, as there’s a very similar runner/chaser setting, but it is not the same thing. An Savant* runner is a permanent runner and won’t come back – at least for good… So ENSURE you are not in a false True Emotion Mirror relationship. (Check this link and scroll down to the “Main Trap” heading.)

To make a True Emotion Mirror relationship work, both partners have to either accept themselves 100% or happen to deny the exact same traits in both themselves and the other True Emotion Mirror partner(s). Not easy, but doable. COMPLETELY doable, but it DOES take a lot of honesty and looking into the traditional mirror, and most people are completely incapable of doing that kind of work. The good news is, it is possible for one partner to significantly improve the odds by doing their own spiritual work properly; which means to completely erase their own false self-image, inauthentic opinions, and facades of all kinds and, in addition, to surrender to this connection fully in their end making it easy for their partner(s) to enter the relationship even if they were not fully ready for it. You can make sure YOU won’t be the one running or backing off, and that’s half the battle won. (You also should understand it doesn’t mean to chase your True Emotion Mirrors with no limits at all because that usually does you no favors, but nor does chickening out.) One must be REALLY emotionally and psychologically balanced for this to work, and that, again, requires courage to potentially go a little crazy for awhile, just to erase all false ego effectively. (Not easy, but worth it!!)

You’ll do most good for this relationship by stopping chasing and working on your own issues every moment you’ve got to spare. (Within reason, of course.) Trying to pressure your True Emotion Mirror to do their work is going to do more damage than good.

A person who has a mature state True Emotion Mirror (has reached this level of connection with someone in some prior lifetime whether they are conscious of it or not) will NEVER EVER be fully available for another relationship UNLESS they are authentically non-monogamous. (Not now, not ever, not in future incarnations, not ever. No matter who is trying to get in between. And this is not a choice they can make, so it’s completely futile to beg them for love, it is not theirs to give.)

Lots of people will find their supposed True Emotion Mirror to be either a 2nd Tier Destination or a highly compatible Spousal Spirit Mirror. Again, correct identification is the key.

2nd Tier Destination Soulmates

The 2nd Tier Destination Soulmate, unless a parent or a child, who most likely are assumed to be a non-primary sexual lover, and therefore given the 2nd Tier Destination label by default, often reveals themselves to be a 2nd Tier only upon one or the other partner finding their actual True Emotion Mirror. A Growing or Interrupted State True Emotion Mirror may also be falsely identified as a 2nd Tier Destination when the couple wishes to live in a monogamous setting. A painless (permanent) separation if the left partner understands their partner will be happier with their True Emotion Mirror.

Messiah Mirror (liberator of your authentic self; best friend, someone to conquer the world with.)

Don Juan Spirit Mirror (Sexual Precious Soulmate, liberates your sexuality rather than your personality.)

Inflamed Spirit Mirror (existing connection in severe crisis; Will be any of the above, define if necessary.)

True Antagonist Spirit Mirror (someone who you purposefully want to annoy and irritate, but NOT in order to get close to them.)

Here, defining success is a little difficult. As the 2nd Tier Destination Soulmates are not supposed to be romantically involved for the rest of their lives (unless both of them are naturally polygamousORpolygynandrous but their natural True Emotion Mirror partners are still in the monogamy closet and thus unavailable). Successful healing of this relationship would mean, most likely, that each of you have your True Emotion Mirror relationship in a working order, your love life is blissful, and you both need no consolation from each other anymore. You’ll find this relationship to be supportive of the True Emotion Mirror relationships you both/all have, and that it NEVER competes with it, even if there was some playful poly-thing going on between you all.

Between the Perfect and the Partial soulmate types:

Undecided Spirit Mirror

You’ve got MUCH HIGHER CHANCES of making this work if neither one of you have met your True Emotion Mirrors. If either one of you have the ONLY saving grace here is that you’re both similarly polygamousORpolygynandrous. No other type of a soulmate connection will EVER replace the top level soulmate connection, which is the Mature State True Emotion Mirror, at best, it can become it’s equal, but only if both or all of you are naturally non-monogamous.

The Undecided Spirit Mirror can go either way, though. This relationship type is worth checking out and seeing it through (provided neither one has their heart claimed by a Mature State True Emotion Mirror and/or you’re polygamousORpolygynandrous).

Trail Companions* (Compromising Soulmates)

Trail Companion* pairs often make relatively durable partnerships, but they are rarely very happy unions. They are based on compromises, which means one or both partners is always unsatisfied and quite unhappy. I do not recommend any true romantic to settle for these relationships because they are profoundly lack lustre, boring, ordinary, and common. The Savants* should avoid them at all cost, but the Normal Person* may find them reassuring and safe… But should NOT trust a Savants* to stick around. Most common pairing: the Savants* and the Normal Person* – unlikely long term success, and always unsatisfying for both of them. (They feel the Savants* is always  on the run, while the Normal Person* is always chasing, even inside the relationship.)

Precious Soulmate* (”battery recharger”)

Intended temporary, so if that happens, the relationship is successful. However, may turn toxic if one or both partners fail to end this relationship in time when their truthful heart tells them to.

Spousal Spirit Mirror (Closely connected in previous lifetimes, through marriage or some intense experience)

HIGH CHANCE of a long-term relationship with little or no effort. Falls in place very easily – often the soulmate that is sent to you when you feel you are ready to get married – after you get tired of chasing your True Emotion Mirror, but as with all Trail Companions*, this pairing will never reach a blissful state. If you are happy with being contented, this is the ideal relationship, if your partner feels the same way. (Again, the Savants* might want to avoid, PARTICULARLY during the times when they feel desperate to marry and to get out of the playfield.)

Enigma (active and inactive modalities – an idol, sage or guru mistaken for a plausible love interest)

A TERRIBLE match to begin with, a MASSIVE difference in attitudes, a fan-idol setting that is terrible for a real grown up relationship. Should be avoided at all cost, this works for nobody and easily turns abusive one way or the other. (Either partner can be either abusive or the abuser depends on personalities in question.) The Enigma themselves will be coaxed into this relationship at the bottom of their own wave, but once they come up, they’ll want to get out of this relationship, and if the Enigma Chaser won’t let that happen, abusive situation follows.

Can also be a friendship, business partnership, or a some kind of a connection between relatives, but as a close friendship or partnership will turn toxic in time. Again, avoid.

Adult Baby Spirit Mirror (A grown up who seeks a “parent” out of friends and acquaintances.)

Will work ONLY if the ‘parent’ in this relationship is a willing participant and takes responsibility for the baby, and can also handle the situation in a mature and helpful way. VERY difficult, potentially unhealthy, and turns easily abusive – again, either partner or even both can turn abusive towards each other.

Vaporizing Lust Mirror (persistent sexual attraction that is instantly forgotten after acting on it)

Rarely if ever is a harmful connection, FUN, exciting, short lived, one of those things that should only ever put a smile on someone’s face and a spring in their step – never to be taken too seriously, to be enjoyed only, and after that, both partners should move on – and usually do, because this is one of those things that you simply “have to get out of your system.”

Inactive Trail Companion* (Normal, everyday people with no special soul connection to you)

Usually, a non-problematic connection that also leads nowhere. It’s possible to make it work, but unlikely either potential partner wishes to. Online dating will make more of these matches than anything else, no fireworks to be expected, but OK if you’re not looking for any.

Antagonist Personality Mirrors

“I have special feelings of severe dislike toward you!”

Puppet Master and the Puppet – counterparts

BAD karma. A toxic relationship by definition. Too late to avoid by the time you’ve got someone to identify as such, but you might have one without realizing it – worth checking out. Can be a cause for a True Emotion Mirror separation, break or heal the relationship (through spirit) if you can, and trust that you can. (There is a lot of posts about these types of relationships on my blog, unfortunately.)

Junk Shop Window Personality and Elite Shop Window Personality pairing

Works only when the Elite Shop Window personality is fully willing to guide the Junk Shop Window personality into a closer image of themselves. (The names are VERY descriptive, although sound hilarious – read the description and you’ll understand why I haven’t renamed them. The working title stuck because it was so descriptive.)

Challenger Spirit Mirror (respected but infuriating competitor, worthy adversary)

No work needs to be done. The purpose of this pairing is to fuel each partner into higher achievements and to out-do themselves while trying to out-do the other. Brilliant for ANYONE who needs to learn new things and excel in their career or other goals. MAY later turn into True Emotion Mirrors to the same partner of the opposite gender. Positive, yet infuriating connection.

Kryptonite Mirror (What they are nullifiers who you are; the Savants*/the Normal Person* -thinker imbalance)

This connection is probably in place for a good reason. Someone to keep your lid on while you are working on whatever you are supposed to excel at. It may feel unsurpassable, but the spiritual purpose of a Kryptonite Mirror is to make sure you won’t release unfinished work and wind up under-performing. Quite often the same sex parent.

 

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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.

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