There is always a debate on what do women want out of relationships and how to women want to be treated, and the reason why the answer is so unclear is that there is no such thing  as “women” as a collective that all of them would fall into. The same is true for men, of course.

There are, generally speaking, two main groups of people and to put it in very simple terms, one group “thinks like men” and the other group “thinks like women”, and although gender typical, this is not gender specific, the way we think. The early feminists who begun shouting for the same rights as men have were male-thinkers who thought ALL women must feel equally suppressed, so they, unwittingly “liberated” more women than they should have done, when the majority of women were still more than happy to serve their husband and focus on their children, the same women who now feel pressured into working outside of their homes, to do more, to earn more, to be more like men, and who, as a result, continually demand men to lower the bar and requirements for them because they already feel exhausted doing what “people demand of them”.

While the other group of women demanded the equal right to be sexually promiscuous like men are without the label of a whore or a slut, the other group of women demanded men to stop expecting sexual favors from them, and by sheer numbers the male-thinking minority of women are losing the shouting match, especially as they are being silenced by other females who do not want the others to “condone” or “approve” of male behavior that the majority of females have an issue with.

What do women want out of men?

This same difference in thinking is present in every life situation, really. When the male-thinking, sexually driven women go out, for instance, they wear sexually provocative clothing On Purpose. They WANT sexual attention. Other women, however, may wear the same outfit to see which men will ignore the outfit and talk to them as rational women instead as if they were still in their pajamas with a messy bed hair. To them, a man like this shows restraint and they feel like this man is not going to subject them into sexual role, and they feel like this man shows marriage potential. Other women wear the same outfit as a dare; do you DARE to do the opposite of what you were told to do and leer at will? Some use it as a rare of another kind; do you dare to look at me even though you know you shouldn’t (you swine)?

The only way to navigate the jungle is to judge the judge; do whatever you feel comes naturally, and if you don’t like HER reaction, move on to the next one. Relationships shouldn’t be about what do women want out of it, but also about what men want and need in order to be happy. I can also honestly tell you that no matter how much women believe we all think alike, that is not even remotely true! The grand majority of them didn’t start making any sense to me until I took years off my schedule to try and figure out why life with men was so difficult to my fellow women, and why they were so embarrassed about their sexuality and about everything to do with sex, really. “Why do you make this so hard on  yourselves?” I found myself asking, and only after a considerable amount of effort, I could understand the members of my own gender and why I felt like I was the only woman thining the way I do about men and life… (We are not allowed to say out loud a lot of the things we think about, any more than men are…)

What do women want out of a relationship?

One group of women want security, romance in the stereotypical sense, some want the opportunity to control a man and as a result feel like life is under their own control (because they fear men), and one group wants what any guy wants; deep, profound emotional connection, deep love, appreciation, admiration, adoration, loyalty, and of course, an amazing sexual connection that will never die or wear out…

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