What do you need to do to keep your True Emotion Mirror?

People tend to freak out at one point or another when they’re with their True Emotion Mirror. They start… Playing. Trying harder. They try to be more sexually attractive or intellectually engaging, whatever to be a little better version of who they are – without an authentic wish to be that. Some might try working less to be more there for their True Emotion Mirror, but all of these strategies are actually bad for the connection.

You two are PERFECT for each other, therefore, you don’t have to TRY HARDER or LESS than what you feel naturally inclined to do. Some of us are perfectionists and our natural need is to push harder, to try harder, to perfect any flaws, and to be better, but some of us are not. You have to always follow what is natural TO YOU, not what is natural to another person and THEIR True Emotion Mirror(s).

Whenever you are with your True Emotion Mirror or your Precious Soulmate, the only thing you really need to do is to BE THERE. To not leave, to not freak out, but to stick around. I’d give one exception to this rule: if things get physically violent, get out of there, even if this is a True Emotion Mirror. They will have to learn to control their anger enough not to harm you physically or force you into a physical altercation. If they cannot do this, they are not ready for a relationship that involves such strong feelings.

When NOT TO be there.

And at this, I need to give you another rule. If the supposed True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate keeps telling you to go away and leave them alone, that they don’t love you, that they need you to understand that this relationship is over, you are NOT with your True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate but you are in denial about being in love with someone who isn’t in love with you; a Trail Companion* that is. IF there is a REPEATED PLEA from a person you think is your True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate to leave you alone, let them move on. They are not yours to keep.

If you are UNSURE if that person is trying to HONESTLY push you away or if they are insecure, playing games, or whatever, I’d still err on the side of caution and leave them alone. If they want you, they’ll come knocking somehow, sooner or later. Don’t block them, don’t turn your back away from them, don’t get all sassy and testy if and when they get back – don’t punish them for returning to you, unless you really can’t help it and you’re already way too broken to not to, but you know. As far as you can. Don’t think that refusing them now will somehow serve your need to be together with them.

Give them space but leave your doors open if you believe this is a True Emotion Mirror. Close your doors and ban people who you truly want to get rid of… Unblock them if you already have blocked them to put an end to a stupid argument.

Don’t test them too much.

True Emotion Mirror RELATIONSHIPS are not ironclad. Your TrEmoR’s self-confidence and trust in your love are not unwavering. What IS eternal is your love for each other, but count on nothing else. That love is completely meaningless if all it does to a person is make them an object of your ill will and testiness. Be GENTLE with your True Emotion Mirror, they are just as scared of this connection as you are. Don’t think that “because she’s the woman” or “because he’s the guy”, he’s got the upper hand, or is more self-confident in this than you are. They’re not. Even if they could, from your perspective, “have anyone they wanted” and you in particular, don’t think, for a second, that that’s actually authentically true or that they’d see it that way… One or the other, typically both.

Don’t create tests of love and commitment when you’re truly only testing their self-confidence and expect them to show over symptoms of narcissism to remain attached to you. Don’t expect them to be an emotionless psychopath to put your constant attacks down to “they’re just insecure” or another explanation to justify them tying themselves to you.

Don’t put yourself in a position where their love for you will be in competition with their ego – you will lose that battle, True Emotion Mirror or not, their ego will mean more to them than you do… Unless they’re a zen master, and I wouldn’t count on that, either if I were you.

Having said that; don’t get too scared when they argue with you.

That said, True Emotion Mirrors argue. The reason is, that they are actually MEANT TO have a life together, and there are times when they need to work some things out with a raised voice. Try not to pick a fight over nothing simply because you enjoy someone sticking around for you even though you argue with them, but don’t freak out when arguments happen. Constant politeness is no place in a true love relationship, in fact, you must be real with your True Emotion Mirror, and talk about your real emotions a lot. DO NOT create drama for the sake of drama out of fear of being boring to your True Emotion Mirror. They would NEVER find you boring, no matter how still you sit, no matter how relaxed and comfortable you get around them, they’ll still find you fascinating.

DO NOT escape your true feelings into needless drama, however. You can ALWAYS shoot up drama hormones into your brain by amping up your emotions with artificial drama, so you don’t have to face your fears or doubts. When a conversation starts about something real DO NOT DODGE IT to an invented drama. Eventually, you will lose them to the drama you create yourself as they get tired of it… And some people have a very short tolerance for it. You can then blame them for leaving you – or you can realize that it was you who had to make it into a drama, the end result is that you’re alone again… Because YOU started it. Out of YOUR OWN ACTION.

Forget drama: Boredom and your smartphone is the ultimate True Emotion Mirror test.

In fact, the true test for a true love relationship is how you handle BOREDOM and your smartphone, not how you handle drama. Empty drama created for the sake of itself is the stuff that keeps non-lovers’ egos tied together in an endless battle, but it is also the stuff that hides the fact true feelings are not really there. Be boring. If you will find that your partner IS bored with you, you’ve found your answer: they are not your True Emotion Mirror and you should walk away.

True Emotion Mirrors find each other fascinating in every way they can be. If they are sitting silently with you by the fire or TV as you’re both sank into the story, you’d still have to feel amazed by their presence and for simply being lucky and privileged enough to be bored in their company without them getting up and leaving. You should feel AMAZED that you don’t need to constantly entertain them to make them notice you. You may even feel an amazing calm knowing their attention is somewhere else now, but that you know once they’re back with you, you’ll be their full focus.

HOWEVER, their attention should be on you the same way as yours is on them. True Emotion Mirror connection is never one-sided. It is very unlikely ANYONE would find their mobile phone more interesting than their True Emotion Mirror unless the conversation is over the content of the phone. The ultimate True Emotion Mirror test is truly the smartphone. The only thing they should be reading on their smartphone when you sit next to them is YOUR BLOG that they keep excitedly commenting on to you as they read it… OK, or a mutual interest of some kind, that they have googled to refer to as you’re talking about something related. You get where I’m going with this. NOBODY would ever think they’ll find something more fascinating online than their True Emotion Mirror who is right there with them is… But they’ll certainly be glued to the Internet if they even subconsciously think they can find their True Emotion Mirror or their Precious Soulmates on it.

Also, if you find someone fascinating but they don’t truly feel the same way about you… Well. The thing is, there are interesting people in this world, but that doesn’t automatically make them YOUR True Emotion Mirrors. What is also something to be noted; sexual fetish twins exist without it meaning a True Emotion Mirror bond. It is what I call a Sacral Mirror, a sexual Trail Companion*, NOT a True Emotion Mirror. That type is connected by their sexuality, but they are NOT mirroring each other’s other traits. You’ve got millions of these in the world.

The point being: You need to BE THERE, that’s all.

While True Emotion Mirrors are all kinds of crazy fun together, they can also withstand the boredom test. The need to NOT keep entertaining each other all the time to feel welcome. Sometimes they need reassurance that truly it is OK for you to just sit around doing nothing, but the fact remains doing nothing is absolutely enough with a True Emotion Mirror – whatever the heck your misguided marriage counselor says about it. Their job is to keep Trail Companions* from breaking up in boredom, and that would be why they get paid the big bucks… Lots of people try their hardest to salvage Trail Companion* relationships from their unavoidable doom. The craziest schedule I’ve heard is a celebrity couple who take 3 marriage counseling sessions A WEEK as a precaution to push back the event of their inevitable divorce. Sounds like such enviable fun, huh?

True Emotion Mirrors find each other endlessly fascinating and fun to be with, and they TRULY don’t need therapy to feel that way. What they do need is their blissfully happily married father to tell them with a blissed out nostalgic look on their face: “oh, lovers’ quarrels! How cute! I was like that with your mother…” when things go heated and intense… As they tend to. But… we won’t all have that, but you’ve got me.

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