What does your thinker type say about you?

I want to point out that these types are not written into stone, they MAY change upon meeting new people.

An Extroverted the Normal Person* is a person who thinks love and relationships are a pretty practical thing, really, and it should be handled with a level of sensibility rather than sentimentality. They wish to make a commitment to someone they think would be a good match, and to them, the commitment is very much an “OK, let’s get to it, let’s start making babies, then.” They may work their entire youth towards “affording a family” or to “enable starting a family”, without having a romantic bone in their body. To them, life is pretty much a pre-planned string of events starting from the birth, followed by going to school, …. getting married… and getting buried.  (And they would not have appreciated that word play much. “Bleh, haha.”)

These types get very confused sometimes about romantic people and their ideas about relationships, and they may sometimes wonder whether they are missing something or are their 30-year old school friends somehow stuck in early teen years or what. All they really need to know is that people are different, and all they have to do is to find their own kind and get on with things. (That probably answers every question you had about relationships. 😉 But please when your kids get to that age… 16 or so, tell them to check out my site, because you are of NO HELP to your kids when it comes to the matters of the heart or anything philosophical or value-based.)

There is an highly idealistic variation of this type, to whom making a commitment to someone deserving is a truly romantic thing, and they thrive to be the best wife or a husband to someone who they appreciate and admire based on their performance as an individual. (I’ll be focussing on this type on this site because the other type doesn’t need me at all.)

An Extroverted the Savants* is focussed on the external things about people, and they fall in love with their eyes. They fall for a person’s looks, signs of wealth, their social status, and if all the signs of good wealth and status are there, they are in love and ready to make a commitment. (Sometimes called “the gold digger” or “the player”.) When their love fails, they get divorced and find a new partner without missing a beat. They look onto sites like this to manipulate people into falling in love with them, and to appear the right way to those they are interested in; to build the right image.

An Introverted the Normal Person* is a VERY EMOTIONAL person, to the point of going from bawling their eyes out to blowing out into a crazy scream match the very next moment, but only among their loved ones and people who they trust. They won’t fall in love until there’s a clear commitment or a VERY POWERFUL connection like between Mature State True Emotion Mirrors that they instinctively trust (like they should). They are always scared though, and rather mistrusting of people and their motivations, very suspicious of anything beautiful being said to them – they need it so much, and this need can be taken advantage schoolyard bullies who want to see them cry, so this can make them very cautious in trusting anyone who seems a little too good to be true like their True and Bosom Personality Mirrors are. They can take their lover(s) for granted a tad too early on into the relationship.

An Introverted the Savants* is the most loved-up of all of these types but often gets a bad rep for being “a commitment-phobic” because their “standards are too high/ridiculous” and “if you don’t lower your bar, you’ll wind up a spinster/bachelor”. People believe their standards are too high TO AVOID an actual commitment, but no, it is to avoid divorce later. They are true romantics with past life experience of absolute devotion to another person, who they are always looking for even subconsciously. They know the emotion they are chasing, and these websites are largely created to benefit this thinker type to encourage them to keep going and to ensure them they are not stupid, childish, nor crazy. They NEED a lot of emotion from their relationships, and that emotion needs to be loving and deep – sometimes dark and powerful, but never cruel or unloving. They never take their partner for granted, until they absolutely have the best talk ever, giving each other the absolute permission to count on them being there.

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