What flattering an inferior does to their self-esteem; their ego and their vos

We are all, every person everywhere, our own display of perfection. No matter how weird it may look to you, we’re all our own idea of the best of humanity. Don’t blame them – you’re the same. We change when our own idea of the ideal person changes, not a moment before. Therefore, technically, everybody you speak to is either your equal, your inferior, or only SLIGHTLY superior. You are, to them, either their equal or their inferior, or only slightly superior. From their perspective, a person never sees another as GREATLY superior without feeling ideal over their own acceptance and love of being an inferior. Being inferior can be “an ideal” in itself to a person. It’s an unbeatable system.

Being inferior at times is pleasurable. It gives you a new goal to thrive to. It’s a to-and-fro. A part of the game. Now.

Flattering a person who you feel superior to in order to save their ego is not necessary.

You know, white lies. “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” “But beauty is so overrated. I need to get fatter still.” For as long as they believe you’re right, they’ll try to fit their own ideal. How they wish to be seen. “Not shallow,” “humble,” “not loved for her looks alone.”

When we try to save someone’s feelings when we flatter them, they’ll easily believe we are envious, when in fact, we’re just happy we’re not in their shoes and try to keep them in the oblivious belief that they are equal to us, or should cherish their “luckier” life situation. And, because they are their own ideal person, they believe you’re envious of them. Everybody does… Rarely people are truly envious. They can be envious of a sport: “At least I’m not one of those no-use privileged people born with a gold spoon in their mouth.”

Also; if there’s nothing wrong with being anything a person is (and I believe there isn’t, really) you should be able to say it out loud: “I don’t like fat women, I’m sorry. My ideal woman is fit and strong. You have your thing going, good look out there.”

We can get stuck in a fake ideal.

If we want to please other people, then flattering a superior is also not a good deed to have done to us. A people pleaser must know what people are actually pleased by. Do we think people are big and beautiful or don’t we? Do we believe you have to be “body positive” and this positivity will gain you love and respect?

No.

Body positivity means not to get stuck in a flaw when you’re absolutely UNABLE to be physically perfect. “It’s OK, my body is OK” is positive enough. But body-positive ideals may make you think that the more you mind-fuck yourself to believe that how people react to you is a matter of loving yourself first, the more everybody else will be drawn to your fat like you were so big you had your own gravitational field… You may benefit from knowing that body positivity is really mostly about you, and doesn’t really affect how others feel about you SO MUCH you can completely ignore your fitness and be considered equal to Victoria’s Secret models… You know, the pre-woke ones.

When we take idealistic romantic thinking too far, we mislead gullible people into believing all kinds of hokus pokus. Men can become women and then loved like women are loved… You know? (Even the “best” transwomen are loved for being trans, exciting, fun, sexy… But the love is different because transwomen are different from biological women.)

Once our reality sifts, our ideals will sift.

When we get better understanding as to how people view us, it’s going to affect our ideal. When we once believed that our presence in some  person’s life was vital to their happiness because we, ourselves thought so highly of ourselves we thought it would be… We realize that “Oh. If I don’t love them, I shouldn’t think that even fake love from me is better than real love from an inferior. I should respect both of them more than that.”

Understanding others will liberate ourselves to be ourselves more… Not less.

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