It is probably the most painful situation anyone could be in, to find out that one’s True Emotion Mirror is married – and a very common situation at that. Clearly, there is very little what we can do in this situation, other than to wait for the marriage to end on its own accord, and hope that it will. In the case of True Emotion Mirrors, however, it most likely will unless you (two) do something really stupid to screw things up…

Note that this post doesn’t apply to arranged marriages very well, and also, this post only applies to True Emotion Mirrors or True Emotion Mirrors (whichever term you prefer,) and does not apply to Near Twins, Trail Companions* , Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* or any other soulmate type.

What not to do if you find out your True Emotion Mirror is married

• Do not get yourself into a committed relationship of your own out of fear of not finding anyone else. Accept the fact that there is no one out there for you except your True Emotion Mirror or your True Emotion Mirrors , and that is never going to change no matter how much you hope that to happen. You need to wait this out, but first make sure it is a singular True Emotion Mirror rather than a Trail Companion* you’re waiting for… but even if you’re wrong, what I’m going to suggest you to do will help all the same.
• Related to the above, there is the child-issue. Don’t panic about the children. Even if your True Emotion Mirror is married, it doesn’t mean the end of the line for you. Never PLAN on having children, even if you prepared yourself for them, but wait until you feel strongly that NOW the time is coming. If you have a child without feeling this love of a child with you before they have even been conceived, the timing is off and your child maybe… A little less of a perfect match for you than what you would hope. A child SHOULD be born in a True Emotion Mirror relationship, ideally, so don’t think you need to “have children with your soulmate”. It is how it often goes, but you can certainly have children with your True Emotion Mirror.
• Do not make a move that you are not comfortable making in terms of trying to get together with your True Emotion Mirror. (I adviced you differently before in case you’ve been reading me for the last 3 years or more, and told you to respect the marriage, but I have… Evolved.) What is important is that YOU feel OK with whatever action you are going to take. If you are going to consciously go and break them up if you can, do so, but ONLY being completely OK with yourself as a deliberate home wrecker. If this doesn’t sound like something you would want to ever think yourself as, keep your distance and act out of your own, true conscience.
• Respect your True Emotion Mirror’s spouse as a grown up individual, and try to make out whether they are a Old Souls* or the Young Soul*. (Try to stop your jealousy from giving your True Emotion Mirror’s spouse all negative traits just to make you feel more certain you’re going to win.) If they are a Old Souls*, they would NEVER want to be married to someone who is in love with another person.
• Also. There is a possibility that you are a “Poly Flame” instead of a True Emotion Mirror, which means that instead of the challenge of uniting your life completely with ONE other person wasn’t challenging enough, a Poly Flame has the challenge of uniting their lives with several other people, against all norms and expectations, and to rise above their own ego that insists that if you have to “share” your True Emotion Mirror with another person, you’ll look like you can’t have them to yourself. This challenge is nearly impossible to overcome considering how STRONG the cultural stereotype on monogamy is. I blog about this a lot, so I won’t go any further than this here.

My True Emotion Mirror’s children

Obviously, if there are children to consider things do get messier still, and it is hard for us to even justify wanting a relationship with a married True Emotion Mirror with a family to boot, but it is important to let those dreams exist. Most people would never want to be the one breaking up a marriage, let alone a family, and even less the family of your True Emotion Mirror. However, I feel that in case of True Emotion Mirrors, there is only one good end result, and the question is how to handle the transition that the children will face. There are a lot of resources in handling a divorce where children are involved, but this is hardly the issue with True Emotion Mirrors. The trouble is, that we never want to hurt them, and we’d rather sacrifice our own happiness if we think theirs depend on it, and to a parent, the happiness of a child is their happiness, so there’s always that consideration. However… Here’s another one:

Although this lesson in life is something that the child’s parents need to convey, you can see what you think of the point of view of what would you have wanted your parents to do if they’d been in this situation? Would you have wanted them to follow their heart and show you that true love always prevails, or that it is best for everyone to sacrifice your happiness for that of your child? Would you have wanted to have that modeled to you? Maybe you did, and maybe this is your dilemma now. You could try and work out whether your True Emotion Mirror’s children are the Young Soul* or the Old Souls* because that makes a night and a day difference to how they would want this situation handled – and yes, we show those thinking patterns at an early age.

From a parent’s perspective, if I had children, the number one lesson I would love them to learn is this: You can find someone you can’t resist, and that it is not too much to ask. That someone can love you with all their heart and their soul, and that you can be completely and utterly your true self around them and that they make you a better person. Why do we see this as a threat to a child’s development? Isn’t that what you should thrive for the first time around?

What To Do if your True Emotion Mirror is married

When your True Emotion Mirror is married or in another relationship, it is so very easy to blind yourself from the realities of the situation, which only makes it less likely that you might actually find a solution to the situation. You cannot solve a problem if you are too afraid to see what the problem is, clearly. One of the most common problems that True Emotion Mirrors face is that they take life and love ENTIRELY too seriously. Forget the idea of a serious relationship – there should never be such a thing in this world! Relationships should be fun, energetic, sexy, and anything but “serious”. They might last forever, but serious… Why?

To be realistic, due to the way we have been raised in this culture, what we want and what we believe we can expect are two very different things. Therefore, a married person might feel all the feelings that go with a truly profound True Emotion Mirror connection such as this, but talk themselves out of it because “This is the 7-year itch.” “It’s never going to last.” “I don’t want to become the typical cliche of a husband who will lose his head over a pretty face and leave a perfectly good, loyal wife who…” You get the idea.

Here’s a newsflash for you: True Emotion Mirrors are very much the same thing as any crazy love relationship that fills your every sense and moves every cell in your body, these are not only spiritual relationships, and at the same time, there is no such thing as “physical attraction”. Physical attraction means a connection of souls – instinctive knowledge that this person is your perfect source of everything you ever wanted in a relationship – if you had dared to want it. (Why it goes bad is because we are too afraid to trust that something this good could happen.)

Find out who you truly are and what is it that you can offer your True Emotion Mirror that their spouse cannot

Your authentic self, as his or her True Emotion Mirror is their perfect match. Therefore, you will have to figure out what your authentic self is like, stop denying your true likes, dislikes, fantasies, hopes and dreams and start working toward your true life goals. If you manage to do this, you and your life style will be irresistible to your True Emotion Mirror, and you, too.

Here is what you do not want to do: You do not want to be risking it all for that special someone into a cookie cutter love relationship. You want to KNOW what it is that you want out of a relationship, really, truly, and then… Wait for your True Emotion Mirror to join.

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