What Is A Reputation Worth In Love?

Do you want to be loved for who you are or who you are able to pretend to be? The person on the inside, or the person you project to the outside regardless of what is on the inside? To be loved for your demons or for the fact you control your demons? For the demons or despite the demons?

There are no real wrong answers, it’s simply a matter of what you want to be loved for. It’s a bit like asking someone whether they want to be loved for staying fit regardless of their food cravings, or if they want to be loved for being fat or despite being fat. It’s a personal question. I personally want to be loved for staying fit, but for my demons – including my vanity. Some people want to be loved for how well they fit into a mold, and some for how bravely they break it.

Some people want love for how well they preserve the exterior, how beautiful front they put up. How well they behave, how beautifully they decorate their house, or how their partner makes their friends envious. Others see that as the opposite of love. It is up to you to decide what you want to be loved for.

We all have vanity cues as well as we have a deep need for love and acceptance, you just have to map out yours and forgive yourself for wanting what you want.

If you want to be loved for your demons, reputation is your enemy

We all view this slightly differently. Some love the fact you are a demon only they can see on the inside where everyone else sees a “holy person”. Some love honesty and openness and fearlessness facing judgment. It is a question of morals how you want it, and obviously, how much you think is cool to hide and where things just go too far.

Some people don’t care what you do, as long as their friends don’t find out

Some people love you for keeping your indiscretions discrete. They don’t expect you to be an angel, but they simply don’t want to be embarrassed in front of their friends for it. They love you for giving them the consideration before acting on your impulses.

How do you love people? What do you want love for?

Consider yourself. How do you want it? Fair, square, what you see is what you get? Would you want your friends to tell you if they saw your spouse cheating, or would you be mortified? What would you be angry for, them getting caught for them having cheated in the first place..? What do you want to be loved for, and what do you want to be rejected for, or, at least judged for by your partner? For instance, if you wish to thrive towards a goal of some description, you may want to have a partner who lovingly encourages you to get back to work when you’re feeling lazy.

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