What is “taking advantage”?

Taking advantage of someone is to persuade or force them into acting out or continuing something they have a fleeting or partial interest in and some talent or love for, but what that person doesn’t want to do, doesn’t want to continue doing (lost interest) or want as their primary focus. It can be a sexual, artistic, or business advantage, or personal advantage, such as “I want you to be my carer, despite you having other aspirations.”

Taking advantage means you are derailing someone else from a goal they would rather do, even if the goal is something frowned upon or unlikely to succeed. Other people may even justify it: “You should do everything in your power to make that person do as you say because your way is “the right thing to do.” I’m not saying never critique or challenge their choices on a verbal argument, but eventually, you have to let them do as they please – even if before making an actual decision, they seemed hesitant about what the right choice or goal was for themselves.

Parenting

A good parent will promise to be there if a child’s obscure pursuits fail. A good parent won’t stop a child from making mistakes but loves them even if they fail, hurt, and humiliate themselves and perhaps the whole family with their antics.

A good parent may have to choose between “well-behaved” children and their “wayward” kid sometimes, but a good parent will put their own needs aside for the good of their children until it becomes impossible to support all of them. Then again, sometimes the better solution for a parent and child is to shake hands on it and bid farewell, especially between the Cat Thinking parent and child, both of whom are very capable of feeling happiness for each other even if they whelmingly disagree on what is a good way to live.

Taking advantage in this case would be to try and tie the child into family pursuits at any cost to save the family’s reputation or financially or emotionally benefit from the child’s other skills, talent, or empathic nature.

Taking advantage of a trusted position

While taking advantage of another person, people may also take advantage of a trusted position of theirs to persuade matters toward their own liking. This would include the position of a parent, a best friend, a councilor, a religious leader, a life coach, or, indeed, EVEN a perceived spirit guide or “a god.”

When guiding someone, the question to ask is always, “Is this making this person more happy or more approved of?” More approval isn’t a good goal; higher happiness is. A person can be much, much happier doing something that they love doing than being accepted or approved of for something they don’t love doing. Approval is a high motivator, without a doubt, but it should NEVER be more important to their guide than a person’s own happiness is.

Taking advantage of need for love and acceptance.

A LOT OF PEOPLE use the need of love or even simple acceptance as a motivator to make others do a lot of things to further another individuals goals. The promise of love and acceptance can literally make people cut of their genitals and turn them inside out, just so people would include them and love them. LITERALLY.

It is possible that psychopaths are people who have been manipulated through their emotions so much, that they’ve learned to ignore this push toward doing stuff they don’t want to do and partially or completely shut off their emotions of empathy and compassion to not be so easily led into things they don’t want. It maybe a transition life, where they simply dig their heels in and avoid all potential abusers by shutting off their empathic side partially or completely – or even murder their emotional persuants to teach them to not trust them anymore; to cut the emotional bond.

Fleeting, temporary, or already explored interest.

There are things that people may try out and find themselves to be very good at. There maybe things that they are naturally built to do, like sex, but that doesn’t truly interest them in the long run. There are plenty of things that people will feel an excitement over for a time, such as art and music, sports, spiritual or a scientific pursuit, but who eventually get enough of it; they’ve perhaps achieved everything there is to achieve on that front for themselves. They won the gold medal, they’ve achieved artistic mastery, they found the answer… And now, they want to try something else.

It maybe difficult for other people to let go of this side of that person; they profited from their talent, maybe, or they merely enjoyed it, and time has come for them to let go… But they’re resisting. They fear their talent is going to go to waste or that they’re again avoiding it out of fear of failure – when truly it’s the opposite… Like knowing oneself to be so skilled at it by now, that it provides no challenge for them at all.

Previous lifetime talents

A friend of mine, a guy, painted one single painting in his whole life. He was 12 years of age, and he had one canvas to work on. He perfectly copied another painting – until he got tired of an ear he couldn’t get right, and quit with the thought: “Well I know I can paint. The ear is too hard. I’m bored.” To me, that means he used to be a great artist in a previous lifetime, and he’d simply gotten everything out of it already. He knows it’s somewhat of an important talent, so he tested it “for later” just to see if it’s still there, confirmed its existence and let it be. It was lucky nobody around him was interested in pushing him into that field against his will, even though a neighbour offered to buy his painting on the spot: “It’ll make me rich when you become famous” she insisted…. His mother declined to sell the painting – probably because she knew how valuable it had potential of being one day.

Sure, he struggles to make the ends meet as he’s pursuing his next interest that he loves but has no natural talent for… Except the drive to do it.

Me, I’m working toward bringing all of my talents and interests into a whole combination of things; I want to do everything at once, and it seems basically impossible. It is as if doing everything at once would be an interesting goal: I cannot spend a LIFETIME on art, but I can surely spend an afternoon every once and a while, right? I also want to find a way to confirm previous incarnations, so I can claim rights – at least credits – to previous lifetime work. (I have a quantum physicist working on it through a spiritual hand shake, if you will.)

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