What is the “come here go away” about with True Emotion Mirrors?

You know when you are rejected by someone you really want to be with (in some capacity) and they keep chasing you off really aggressively, but as soon as you give up and start “walking away”, they turn around and treat you real nice? What’s that about?

This person doesn’t hate-hate you. They just don’t want to be very close to you, right? So they are trying to train you to remain at a certain distance. Once you are at the desired distance or at least moving towards the right distance (away) they will treat you nicely. If you turn around and get closer again (too close) they’ll re-engage aggressively: “NO! You were supposed to leave!!!”

You turn around and move away, they want to give you a “no hard feelings” send of. “Thank you for understanding. It was fun for as long as it lasted. Be well.” If you take that as a green light for a continued relationship, the voice will change again: “No, what?! You’re back? FUCK OFF!” You take the distance again, and they treat you nicely. This will repeat for as long as you take to keep to the distance they are guiding you.

Also be aware that it is likely that in the case of , you learning the desired distance means: “OK, now we can communicate. Try not to move too fast. Stay there, I am uncomfortable with all that speed of yours.” Still, you would do wrong by yourself to assume all relationships are going to continue if you obey the distance requirement.

So: Stay at the distance that this person won’t bark at you. Don’t call them, let them call you. If they never do, that’s how they want it. Time for you to move on, or to accept you’re not moving in the direction you want (at least for now).

By the way… If you are barking at someone for no particular reason, or to test them if they want to stay in this similar way, don’t be surprised when they decide you want them gone.

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