What should you do when someone lives in a bubble of deep denial of realities?

In short, Leave them in it. Don’t give them attention for being idiots. Just console yourself with the pleasurable thought that if they keep living their lives by those rules, they’ll soon get hurt badly, and that’ll be funny. 😀 If they manage to coax others into that bubble, then maybe that is just the survival of the strongest thing happening. Maybe you want to egg them on: “You know what, go change your gender. I’m sure it’ll be great. You’ll be a man/woman, and everyone will suddenly accept you because they’re afraid to be canceled if they don’t. You’ll live in a fake body and surround yourself with fake accomplishments and fake friends, but I’m sure that’ll make you feel fulfilled and happy. It’ll be euphoric. And once the world snaps out of this fucking illusion, you’ll still be a mutilated freak, but some of you come out of it a lot smarter, that’ll be a bonus. Good luck to you. You’re beautiful. You’re gorgeous. You deserve it.”

Why do people want attention so much that they’re acting like morons?

Attention-seeking has a specific motivation: To feel safe and guided. Doing something stupid will usually get people’s attention because they worry about you. They believe that if people pay attention to them, they will also keep them safe as a consequence. Sometimes, we’re talking literal parents, and sometimes, replacement parents – experts.

The play is as follows: I do something stupid. You pay attention to it and try to stop me. I will improve when you guide me. You stop paying attention. I will fall and fail. (Potato sacking. “I cannot do anything unless you watch over me because I’ll get hurt. Without you, I’m tragic.”)

They’re like children looking for a parent to stop them if they’re going too far. So when you give them options to self-assess, what they hear is instructions on how to move forward, like a child. You don’t understand everything, but it seems to be safe to try. When a child accomplishes something scary, the parent will be impressed, right? So the more attention you are giving it, the more they think they have to gain from it – if it’s too dangerous, the parent will put a stop to it, won’t he/she?

So that got that person’s attention… I’ll do the same.

They join bandwagons because whatever gets people’s worried and horrified attention the most will be the most cost-effective way to live a life. Currently, being a bearded lady seems like the easiest way to feel safe and secure. When you don’t really feel like taking all that male responsibility but want attention like a child, dressing in a dress is a good way to get there. That said, men have always had a tough break in life – all the responsibility, very little compassion and care, and praise, so, you know… If it’s your friend having a mental breakdown and you give an inch of a shit… Maybe a good “What’s going on, mate,” would be better than trying to talk sense into them.

People acting like morons are having some kind of a breakdown.

When people demonstrate extreme stupidity rather than competence they’re having some kind of a mental breakdown. “I’m not ready for this. Help.” Rather than try and snap them back to reality, try and see what’s causing the problem in the first place.

It is common to feel that nobody cares about you – sometimes it’s even real.

So. If you’re going to care, CARE. Their idea of reality isn’t quite as impaired what it may seem.

(Imagine people still not caring about you after you’ve cut off your genitals. After a few months of congratulations, now you’re yourself, people assume you’ll pick up your life and live as assigned… Alone. High suicide rate much?)

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