What The Law of Attraction and the Secret is missing – why doesn’t it work?

The Law of Attraction, to many in spirituality, is an appalling approach to spirituality written for the money- and power-hungry, and if you are anything like me, reading through a lot of it makes your stomach turn rather than feel “spiritual”. The Secret, in particular, made me feel nauseous, not only by the goals that the book/movie/franchise is putting forward but also the way it is presented, and if you have been put off by the whole concept due to reading The Secret, I wouldn’t blame you for one moment.

Unfortunately, you cannot avoid using The Law Attraction in your life whether you like it or not. It is a natural law, and there is no way around it. You are using it either consciously or unconsciously, through prayer or through mediation, it doesn’t matter what you call it, everything that you think and feel during your life is subject to the LOA. Because that is important for you to get I’ll just repeat that: Everything that you think and feel during your life is subject to The Law of The Law of Attraction.

Some call it “manifestation”, some call it “the power of prayer”. Some call it “tempting fate”. Whatever you TRULY want will come to you… And again: Everything that you want will come to you, no matter what you do try to stop it.

And therein is the problem that the Secret doesn’t quite know how to explain: Why would anyone want to be ill and poor? Yeah. WANT TO BE. This is not only about believing that poverty and illness is your fate, it is that you want that for yourself, because… Well, it gives you the permission to moan and complain and to boot, you can bask in people’s compassion and love and you don’t have to do f*** all to earn all that attention. Money, quite obviously, doesn’t motivate us all. Love and affection, even the pretense of it, is a major motivation to a lot of people.

The Law of Attraction doesn’t care who wishes what for whom

What is also true, that you are not necessarily the only person who is manifesting things into your life. This is sometimes unfortunate but true. If your parents cannot get over their need to control and protect you, for instance, and they hold this belief that they are both entitled to and responsible for controlling your life, you will be lifting a lot more weight off you to get you off the ground than someone whose parents either trust their child to be a grown-up or whose parents don’t really care one way or another as long as you’re happy. If your parents don’t understand your personality and they see everything that you do in somewhat of a dubious light, they may do everything their power to protect their child, until their child gives up and settles for something that the parents would be happy to see manifest.

The less people hold a major interest in the way your life turns out, the better for your manifestation power. (Imagine how my life is considering I’ve got one brother, 3 aunts, 1 living uncle and a talkative mother who likes to collect people’s attention to me and my life… Oh, never mind my own habit of doing the same thing!! Let’s just say EVERYONE holds a conflicting opinion on what I am meant for in this life, and “nobody” cares for my opinion on the matter. It is my power of manifestation against all of the others’.)

What you really want may not be pretty, but it’s still what you want

And that is what you will see happen. The Law of Attraction doesn’t judge you. It simply does as you ask it to, dutifully and quite unable to say no to your slightest of desires. Anything that you have ever asked for… and asking, by the way, means an emotion something awakens you. Any emotion that you are intrigued by will manifest something. “OH I just wish to see the looks on their faces when I fall off that roof and break my leg after all the nagging I had to listen to to get…” Oops! “Oh if my child was ill like that, I would be so much better at taking care of him/her than those two!” In what way did you just wish your child to provide you with an opportunity to prove what a fantastic person you are again? “I am so glad I am in the financial state in which I can provide the best healthcare for my child, no matter what happens.” Oh yes. Sickness for your poor innocent child… It wasn’t God, it was you.

Or, that child wanted to prove you to be lousy parents and made himself or herself sick. Or they wanted your attention. Who knows, with so many cooks stirring the same pot of stew?

The Law of Attraction never compromises on your truest wish

This is why I have renamed the Law of Attraction to the Law of the Truest Wish as it is a more accurate term.

In the back of your mind, you have tons and tons of suppressed wishes that you are too ashamed or embarrassed to admit to be something that you want. Although these are true wishes, they will never manifest until you accept them to be a part of who you are; What you want tells a lot about who you are as a person, and to admit what you want is a major step in the process of self-acceptance. Because the wish is already there, The Law of The Truest Wish will never allow another event to conflict with the highest of your wishes, and the road to your true wish is ALWAYS clear, at least it not permanently blocked.

In practice, this means self-sabotage; you will never achieve something you don’t really want… or what is too early to be achieved. This explains a lot of start-up problems; if you want to create the most successful business in your field, you will not get off the start line half-baked, because that would stop you halfway there; you would figure “this is close enough” and stop trying… If you have, for instance, a goal to be superbly wealthy, it is also likely that you are after “easy money” or “overnight success” which means you will not be making much progress until you are cleared and set to go to make millions virtually overnight or while you sleep. Keep plugging away at it, even if seemingly inferior businesses make a lot more money than you do, it is simply because you NEED TO become SO MUCH BETTER than they are that you will shoot past the competition once you are good and ready to make a MAJOR splash.

Self-awareness and The Law of The Truest Wish

The better you know yourself, the better you will be able to start manifesting your ultimate dream. For as long as you deny yourself, nothing will happen. So, again, as in anything that has to do with spirituality, accepting who you really are and what you enjoy being is of vital importance to your life goals and happiness.

You may have an ideal person you wish you were and if that person contradicts the path you’ve chosen, that path will not open up no matter what you do. My personal example. I don’t want to forgive my mother for something. My lower wish wants to keep hating her forever. My ideal person, the person who I wish to be, would forgive her. As I don’t want to take any rubbish with me to the next part of my life, as I want to give my True Emotion Mirrors the clean version of me, I’m stuck with forgiving my mom.

Complex, difficult personalities have a complex set of wishes and there is no point trying to convince yourself that you just want to make money or have a family when in reality your wishes are like trying to sort out which Bold and Beautiful character is related to which! You need to figure yourself out first, and then, things will start happening for you.

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