Whatever the Normal Person* do, they want to get closer to you.

Here’s the master key to the Normal Person* Thinking: Whatever they are doing besides ignoring a complete stranger, they want to get closer and make friends with the person they’re paying attention to any more than the absolute minimum. The same isn’t true for the Savants*; there’s a lot more variety in their needs and wants, and talking to someone is no indication of their intent to make friends with them. But here is one VERY important point about the Savants*: If they are yelling at you, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM as soon as you can. You’re not in danger yet, but if you keep pushing, you will be. The Savants* need time to themselves. If they are at the point that they have to YELL AT YOU to get space, they’re basically drowning in social interaction and are downright panicking.

They will return to you when they feel social again, but they won’t apologize for taking time for themselves. It’s like expecting a fish to apologize for needing to get back to the water. They are not angry with you; they just don’t realize the Normal Person* never feel the need to be alone. (Yes, it’s basically the same duality as introverts and extroverts, just explained from a different perspective.)

Too simple to be explained

The Normal Person* don’t explain what they need because their needs are always the same. They want to be closer to their friends and especially to their family. They also never want to be talking about their emotions or feelings. (I think they’re confused about anything more complex than a cuddle, but I’m a Savants* and feel you’re trying to trick them somehow.) You’re supposed to guess how they feel, but the guessing is surprisingly simple: “I love you” and “I want to get closer,” no matter what they do: yell, scream, complain, nag, cry, give you silence treatment, shop like crazy, clean like crazy, or beat you up, it all means the same thing: “I’m afraid to be alone, and I need company and closeness.” This is usually the furthest thing from a Savants*’s mind; they tend to crave independence, freedom, and personal space.

For a Savants*, all of these actions mean a different thing. The key to what they want or need is in THEIR WORDS. The Normal Person* tend to ignore the words and just hear: “I’m afraid, and I need company and closeness.” The more typical thing a Savants* is trying to express to the Normal Person* is: “You’re too close, you’re invading my space, I need my own space, I need you to let me handle my own life on my own.”

This base-level difference is why it is VERY DIFFICULT for the Normal Person* and the Savants* to be happy together in ANY OTHER MODALITY than True Emotion Mirrors, and it is ENTIRELY up to the Savants* if they consider the Normal Person* that or not.

Rules of thumb

the Savants* are RARELY afraid of anything, particularly loneliness. (They fear rejection, but from an entirely different perspective than the Normal Person*; they basically assume nobody really wants company anyway, so pushing themselves to someone’s company must mean they have to have something to give, and the more they respect that person, the more they feel they have to give.)

the Savants* need personal space, independence, and loneliness from EVERYON ELSE except their True Emotion Mirrors (their authentic romantic partners). If they scream at you, this is what they want; space.

the Normal Person* want one thing only: Attention, closeness, company no matter what they do.

the Normal Person* are ALWAYS afraid of doing things alone or trying out new things, no matter how competent they should be. Terrified of it.

the Normal Person* fear loneliness and being abandoned more than anything. They are also ashamed of it when they feel abandoned/unwanted. 

the Normal Person* are drawn to the Savants*’s self confidence and fearlessness, but can never truly be happy near them, as the Savants* will never let them close enough, unless they’re a True Emotion Mirror (which is unlikely but possible). The Savants* should absolutely MINIMIZE their friendships and relationships with the Normal Person*, by learning to NOT give false (polite) attention to new people they’re not genuinely interested in. EVER.

Teachers should also NEVER EVER encourage or push false relationships between the Cat Thinking and the Normal Person* Thinking kids. The Savants* don’t need them and it’ll be the Normal Person* who suffer for them later on.

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