Whatever the Young Soul* do, they want to get closer to you.

Here’s the master key to the Young Soul* Thinking: Whatever they are doing besides ignoring a complete stranger, they want to get closer and make friends with the person they’re paying attention to any more than the absolute minimum. The same isn’t true for the Old Souls*; there’s a lot more variety in their needs and wants, and talking to someone is no indication of their intent to make friends with them. But here is one VERY important point about the Old Souls*: If they are yelling at you, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM as soon as you can. You’re not in danger yet, but if you keep pushing, you will be. The Old Souls* need time to themselves. If they are at the point that they have to YELL AT YOU to get space, they’re basically drowning in social interaction and are downright panicking.

They will return to you when they feel social again, but they won’t apologize for taking time for themselves. It’s like expecting a fish to apologize for needing to get back to the water. They are not angry with you; they just don’t realize the Young Soul* never feel the need to be alone. (Yes, it’s basically the same duality as introverts and extroverts, just explained from a different perspective.)

Too simple to be explained

The Young Soul* don’t explain what they need because their needs are always the same. They want to be closer to their friends and especially to their family. They also never want to be talking about their emotions or feelings. (I think they’re confused about anything more complex than a cuddle, but I’m a Old Souls* and feel you’re trying to trick them somehow.) You’re supposed to guess how they feel, but the guessing is surprisingly simple: “I love you” and “I want to get closer,” no matter what they do: yell, scream, complain, nag, cry, give you silence treatment, shop like crazy, clean like crazy, or beat you up, it all means the same thing: “I’m afraid to be alone, and I need company and closeness.” This is usually the furthest thing from a Old Souls*’s mind; they tend to crave independence, freedom, and personal space.

For a Old Souls*, all of these actions mean a different thing. The key to what they want or need is in THEIR WORDS. The Young Soul* tend to ignore the words and just hear: “I’m afraid, and I need company and closeness.” The more typical thing a Old Souls* is trying to express to the Young Soul* is: “You’re too close, you’re invading my space, I need my own space, I need you to let me handle my own life on my own.”

This base-level difference is why it is VERY DIFFICULT for the Young Soul* and the Old Souls* to be happy together in ANY OTHER MODALITY than True Emotion Mirrors, and it is ENTIRELY up to the Old Souls* if they consider the Young Soul* that or not.

Rules of thumb

the Old Souls* are RARELY afraid of anything, particularly loneliness. (They fear rejection, but from an entirely different perspective than the Young Soul*; they basically assume nobody really wants company anyway, so pushing themselves to someone’s company must mean they have to have something to give, and the more they respect that person, the more they feel they have to give.)

the Old Souls* need personal space, independence, and loneliness from EVERYON ELSE except their True Emotion Mirrors (their authentic romantic partners). If they scream at you, this is what they want; space.

the Young Soul* want one thing only: Attention, closeness, company no matter what they do.

the Young Soul* are ALWAYS afraid of doing things alone or trying out new things, no matter how competent they should be. Terrified of it.

the Young Soul* fear loneliness and being abandoned more than anything. They are also ashamed of it when they feel abandoned/unwanted. 

the Young Soul* are drawn to the Old Souls*’s self confidence and fearlessness, but can never truly be happy near them, as the Old Souls* will never let them close enough, unless they’re a True Emotion Mirror (which is unlikely but possible). The Old Souls* should absolutely MINIMIZE their friendships and relationships with the Young Soul*, by learning to NOT give false (polite) attention to new people they’re not genuinely interested in. EVER.

Teachers should also NEVER EVER encourage or push false relationships between the Cat Thinking and the Young Soul* Thinking kids. The Old Souls* don’t need them and it’ll be the Young Soul* who suffer for them later on.

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