When you trust someone else’s view on another person, beware they’re presenting the situation favourably to themselves.

I don’t care who they are: they’re doing it. I’m doing it, you’re doing it, and people talking about you behind your back are doing it: presenting the situation favorably to themselves. They want you to like them, and they want you to be against their (fr)enemy, and they’re going to put their words so that it’ll look bad for you and good for them. Some of them are blatantly lying and omiting relevant information from the conversation as “irrelevant” even if it was very relevant to you. Some of them are fairer and will even say, “this is obviously only my perspective,” but even then, they are doing it.

NEVER EVER take ANYONE’S word for face value if they’re talking about a third party, particularly in a negative tone. You can take it under advisement, and you can consider it, but if it is in any way relevant to you, get to know that person yourself. There are a lot of people whose only claim to a large group of friends is the lies they tell about a high-status “friend” they have. Don’t trust anyone’s account 100%… Especially if it’s negative or they point out solely negative traits thinking the only way you’ll see a person’s negative traits from the obvious positive is if they point them out to you. They maybe dead accurate, but just take it with a grain of salt.

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