When your identity was based on being the lover of a Reverse Mirror.

It can feel like the world as you knew it sifts underneath your feet when you discover the person you thought you were born to love is actually everything except what you thought they were. The Angel turned out to be an evil witch… The “bad boy” turned out to be a boring truth-teller and a rule-follower.

You thought, based on everything you saw in that person, that you were exactly alike, completely aligned with each other; your steps locked, that all this while, you’ve been driving toward the same things. And now, you realize you were so far from the same page it seems you were reading different books! Still, you may feel like you are betraying the very task the Universe put you on Earth to complete; To love this person, and all of a sudden, they turn out to be the embodiment of things you hate in a person; the Reverse Mirror…

You may try to re-establish the idea you had about this person.

Do you know the feeling when you look at an abstract image, and your brain tries to see figures in the chaos to build an image in it? You see animals and faces, objects of all kinds, to make sense of what you’re looking at. Similarly, you may try and re-build the image you once had about your Reverse Mirror; try to see them the way you first saw them, as a favor to them, as you believe their life and happiness depends on your love of them.

It doesn’t.

Quite the opposite. If they are your Reverse Mirror, the LAST THING they want is your love. I say this because I hope it is liberating to you. You can let go of your obligations toward that person. They don’t love you any more than you love them the way they are. You are not doing THEM a favor by trying to see them in a positive light and to promote that idea of them to others; they view it as an insult, as they are and don’t want to be anything like you wish they were – and don’t want anyone thinking that they are, either.

You love yourself; they love themselves.

Everybody in this world is their own idea of perfection. Guaranteed. Only if a person’s ideals start to change will they start changing to be the ideal person again. Whatever anyone is, it is their own idea of the perfect person, no matter how little sense that would make to you. Boring because they never lie? Eww. A liar because they fear being boring? Eww.

They would also HATE YOU for thinking that you’re like them because, to them, you are the OPPOSITE of what a cool, lovable person should be.

With this realization, you lose the love of the perfect person.

You thought you were in love with the perfect person. You thought you were the protector and lover of the perfect person. Once your realization that the perfect person was the absolute opposite of it, your idea of everything you dislike about a person, you lose the person you thought you’d found, you lose your own identity as their lover. You lose the love of a person who you thought was perfect. Instead, you get a horrifying reality of having wasted years, if not lifetimes, in loving a person who, in no way, matches your idea of perfection.

And then, you feel like the biggest fool…

This is one of the biggest challenges you’ll ever face: You have to respect the unlovable. Their right to be what they are.

Whether you are the Dark Mirror or the Light Mirror, your challenge is the same; you have to accept THEIR WAY OF THINKING to be equally justified as that of yours. Both types feel the need to force the other one into accepting their way is the right way – it isn’t.

You must accept their way of being, not so that you’ll fall back in love with each other, but to be able to let go and move on. So you don’t get stuck in the attempt to make them more like you – or more to the point – like you THOUGHT they were this whole time. You will have to alter your own idea of self to be a person who would… ARGH. Have RESPECT for the kind of person your least favorite person is, and let them go without gratitude toward you for having even let them be a part of your life. You’ll have to face the disgusting realization that this person DARES to think they’re better than you, while they are EVERYTHING you despise about a person.

And accept they have every right to be what they are and that they have the right to their disgusting opinion about you. And… For the love of all that is unholy; that their way of thinking, in its base, has merit, even if it is the polar opposite to your thinking.

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