Whenever someone is fishing for compliments they’re a Hidden Positive

A lot of people feel they want to boost someone’s self-confidence when given the opportunity. However, this can prove too costly in some cases. Whenever you feel like a compliment is being dragged or guilted, coerced out of you, don’t do it! It means too much for the person.

The Hidden Positive people feel that if you are not giving compliments to them, it means that you feel a great deal of positive feelings toward them on the inside anyway. The Hidden Negative people feel that if you’re not saying anything good about a person, all you feel for them is negative feelings. Now, the Hidden Positive people may start dragging compliments out of a Hidden Negative people thinking the compliments are genuine even if they’re given reluctantly when that is not the case at all. KNOW that if someone is fishing a compliment out of you, they THINK you secretly adore them. React authentically.

Hidden Positive think you’re hiding love from them.

The more reluctantly you compliment the Hidden Positives, the bigger feelings they think you’re hiding… But they don’t assume the bigger feelings might be profoundly negative, because what they do, is they dish out all the shit as soon as it enters their brain, making them profoundly unlikeable people to a Hidden Positive person, because they would NEVER say such things out loud until they’re at the breaking point.

To be honest, there are not many things that I think these people are doing right, but this is one thing: They do dish out the negative as they feel it. It is a purifying habit, but then again, if they’re around Hidden Negatives, it’s also toxic. All it does is that the negative they spew out collects up in the Hidden Negative. If there is love in the Hidden Negative for the Hidden Positive, the likely solution they do is that they put distance between each other, knowing that if this keeps going this way, the relationship is in danger of imploding. They don’t understand the Hidden Positive and their brutality, so they decide to take a step back to have a good ponder about it; “Why are you so angry with me?” Sometimes, the negative stuff they spew out has nothing to do with reality, either, but they spew out their worst fears before they’ve had the time to think these things through… Thus, making them VERY insulting and negative people to be around.

If you never say anything negative about a Hidden Positive they think you’re 100% in love with them… Or a fool

The Hidden Negatives keep their bad feelings to themselves a lot. They don’t want to argue over matters that aren’t that big of a deal. So, the only things they say out loud are positive things, but when a Hidden Positive doesn’t hear you say anything negative, they think there ISN’T anything negative on your mind. A Hidden Negative might be brimming with anger, hatred, and loathing – and that could be explosive… As in murderous. They feel you should be NICE to them; if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing, and if all you ever do is talk negative, then, don’t be surprised if one day I wish to shut you up for you.

The best practice is to answer negativity with negativity

When in the company of a Hidden Positive, simply reply with negative statements if they do. Match their expression. If they can deliver their negative feedback with an air of courtesy, you do the same. If they’re at a fieldhog level, match their fieldhog level.

The Hidden Negative people are not closed up among each other

It may sound like the Hidden Negatives are accidents waiting to happen, but when they are together, they start with the positive, to make sure they know they are thoroughly loved, they don’t ASSUME you love them simply because you know each other or because you’ve gone on a couple of dates, they first want to ENSURE they know every negative thing they may say comes from a place of love. They lay the foundation of love thick before they step into the negative.

Then, they deliver the negative with an air of liberation: “I want you to achieve more, if you change this.” “I want you to be more you.” “I love everything there is about you, and I want you to be more of the same, not less!”

The Hidden Negative get short and irritable around the Hidden Positives they are not too fond of

The Hidden Negatives are easily snappy around Hidden Positives who are starting to get too much on their nerve. They get that annoyed, bottled up feel to them. They keep their lips together and answer with short, impatient sentences. The message being: “Get the fuck away from me.” “Stop pestering me – I’m approaching my tolerance level.”

The Hidden Negatives will also suffocate their feelings a lot. The Hidden Positives may wonder why they can talk to them in a disrespectful manner, and all they get is silence in return. This is when a piece of love dies in the Hidden Negative. Every time they’ve shut their mouth on you, a piece of love died. Sure, this is not healthy, but that’s what happens. That’s why they take distance from you before all of the love is gone… Or, they’ll leave you when it’s all used up and they have nothing left.

Once it’s too late, it’s too late, so don’t wait for too long before you say something nice to a Hidden Negative. They’ll never open up if you’re being an asshole around them. If you want them close to you, they need to know you love them first, as they don’t assume something like that… They’d never hide love themselves, so they don’t understand why you would.

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